I'll try to keep it short but I really need some advice. A sort of plan because after all this time and pain...i'm still determined.
I met this girl 2 years ago. I met her by accident. Some guy bought a cover from me and she added me on blackberry because she also wanted a cover. That's where our story started. After several weeks of intense talking she wanted to meet up. She had been in a relationship for 1 year but when I met her she was single for 3 months. We dated for 2 months, I was smitten, i mean really smitten. Everything about her was perfect to me and chemistry was all over the place. She used to come 1-2 times a week with the train(2 hours trip) just to be with me. After a close friend of her passed in an accident she kinda wanted to be left alone but I did everything wrong. I was needy, jealous, clingy everything that pushed her away from me and I coudnt understand why. We had a lot of arguments, she didnt want to have an relationship because she just had one. I kept trying and trying..doing the same wrong ****, i even send her a handwritten letter. After trying 3 months and leaving her alone for 2 months she finally contacted me and suddenly she got interested again.
(i faked having a pretty girlfriend and she bought the whole thing, perhaps thats why?) I played it well didnt talk much, let her come to me. Her interest kept growing and eventually she wanted to meet up with me. She was really sorry for everything and coudnt believe herself for leaving such a guy. So we dated.. I forgave her. We had been together for 4 months, everything went so well when she suddenly dropped the bomb on me, a 1 page written text telling me she doesnt feel any connection with me and she does with her ex. I searched the whole internet and followed a lot of e books. I was hurt, but I agreed the breakup. We didnt talk for 2 weeks when she suddenly initiated contact, everyday. We even met up a lot of times even when she had something with her ex. We didnt kiss but I held her and stuff.. I was secretly trying to win her back. When she and her ex fought a lot i was so happy because they had finally broken up. So I did my thing and kept meeting with her. We eventually started dating again even though she told me that she didnt want to start anything now because her ex hurt her and I mean too much for her to start something now. She didnt know where to place me, she didnt know her feelings for me.
She defined me as the perfect man for her. So we didnt talk about a relation but we dated, I held her hands and I kissed her again. We were going to meet up at my place, she had called me (it came from both sides) when she suddenly started to ignore me. I coudnt understand it because it was going so well. I had to make a fake account to find out why she was ignoring me and for the first time I was not clingy,deperate or anything of that sort. I was straight to the point with her. I told her that I never treated her bad and she knows how I am and left it at that. The reason for her ignoring me are unknown but she told my fakeaccount that I was the cutest, sweetest and smartest guy she even knew. so basicly we ignored eachother for 2 weeks when she texted me. We initiated small contact. I kept it short and told her id get back to her soon. couple of days later she talked more and I was falling back to my own pattern. I wanted to meet up call her etc. She ignored me again. (by this time u guys must think im mad but I cant explain it so dont tell me to get over her or anything please) At this point I was really frustrated and I send her a text and told her I was wrong about her and that im done with her etc. The next day she text me back and told me she would tell her part. So I agreed(cuz I was curious). 2 days later we finally talked and she told me that she thinks its better to stay friends with me because thats what she feels. Were not meant to be together she said, You make me happy but I cant make you happy, I dont want to disappoint you anymore. Your too good for me Ive said it before..
what do we have in common? I answered all her questions with my heart and in the end I was like, I want to be the man that listens to you helps you and gets you through everything just give me the time and ill do my best for you, Ill be your man. It wasnt desperation but just sheer determination, I showed her that I could live without her but I really want to give her my all, one last time no more bull****ting. I talked my heart out, proudly, told her straight what I wanted, like a man. I said, If you dont give me up I wont give you up, if you show me your worth it, ill give u the world. To which she replied with Ok..(myname)xx After that I said some things but she didnt reply.
Ok so obviously, she has been confused about me this entire time. Ive been the one pursuing her this entire time. Because I know shes the right girl for me. Ive been with a lot of girls but I can feel that this one is the one for me. Some things in life you cant explain. Not with logic or common sense, this is one of those times. Im just really fed up with things she can get away with, I have a weakness for her so Im allowing her.. So I need some advice please.
So after that last conversation where I showed her how she sees me, and likes me. We havent spoken(2 days now). She must be confused at this point. Why isnt he chasing me? He was so determined? Right? Well im planning to just move on for the moment. Im tired. But I know in my heart that shes going to want me back again. I just need to know how I should act according to you guys in order for me to KEEP her and not let her ****ing do this **** again to me. Ive been really good to her she knows it.
So basicly, my questions are ;
1. How should I act when she talks? Just be cool? Keep convo's short and act indifferent?
2. Its obvious shes confused, is there anything I can do to get her attracted again? I have her on FB perhaps a little jealously plot?
3. How can I make it challenging for her?
I just need some guideline on doing the right things to win her back. Because I cant find anything like that on the internet and here. Just plain and simple for this particular confused girl.
some info on her. She's REALLY sweet, she always get's shy when im around but when shes with others shes really strong and always strikes back.
I'd really appreciate it if you guys could take your time to read it and think with me, i'd really be grateful, because after all this time, even though she did all that **** to me, when Im with her I feel like i can do ANYTHING. I want to fight for her. She never said '' I dont like you '' so I want to keep fighting for her. I know she likes me, and I know she loves me. I just want her back + keep her + dont want this **** to happen again. I hope you guys can help me with my effort to help open this girls eyes.
I salute you Don Juans.
I met this girl 2 years ago. I met her by accident. Some guy bought a cover from me and she added me on blackberry because she also wanted a cover. That's where our story started. After several weeks of intense talking she wanted to meet up. She had been in a relationship for 1 year but when I met her she was single for 3 months. We dated for 2 months, I was smitten, i mean really smitten. Everything about her was perfect to me and chemistry was all over the place. She used to come 1-2 times a week with the train(2 hours trip) just to be with me. After a close friend of her passed in an accident she kinda wanted to be left alone but I did everything wrong. I was needy, jealous, clingy everything that pushed her away from me and I coudnt understand why. We had a lot of arguments, she didnt want to have an relationship because she just had one. I kept trying and trying..doing the same wrong ****, i even send her a handwritten letter. After trying 3 months and leaving her alone for 2 months she finally contacted me and suddenly she got interested again.
(i faked having a pretty girlfriend and she bought the whole thing, perhaps thats why?) I played it well didnt talk much, let her come to me. Her interest kept growing and eventually she wanted to meet up with me. She was really sorry for everything and coudnt believe herself for leaving such a guy. So we dated.. I forgave her. We had been together for 4 months, everything went so well when she suddenly dropped the bomb on me, a 1 page written text telling me she doesnt feel any connection with me and she does with her ex. I searched the whole internet and followed a lot of e books. I was hurt, but I agreed the breakup. We didnt talk for 2 weeks when she suddenly initiated contact, everyday. We even met up a lot of times even when she had something with her ex. We didnt kiss but I held her and stuff.. I was secretly trying to win her back. When she and her ex fought a lot i was so happy because they had finally broken up. So I did my thing and kept meeting with her. We eventually started dating again even though she told me that she didnt want to start anything now because her ex hurt her and I mean too much for her to start something now. She didnt know where to place me, she didnt know her feelings for me.
She defined me as the perfect man for her. So we didnt talk about a relation but we dated, I held her hands and I kissed her again. We were going to meet up at my place, she had called me (it came from both sides) when she suddenly started to ignore me. I coudnt understand it because it was going so well. I had to make a fake account to find out why she was ignoring me and for the first time I was not clingy,deperate or anything of that sort. I was straight to the point with her. I told her that I never treated her bad and she knows how I am and left it at that. The reason for her ignoring me are unknown but she told my fakeaccount that I was the cutest, sweetest and smartest guy she even knew. so basicly we ignored eachother for 2 weeks when she texted me. We initiated small contact. I kept it short and told her id get back to her soon. couple of days later she talked more and I was falling back to my own pattern. I wanted to meet up call her etc. She ignored me again. (by this time u guys must think im mad but I cant explain it so dont tell me to get over her or anything please) At this point I was really frustrated and I send her a text and told her I was wrong about her and that im done with her etc. The next day she text me back and told me she would tell her part. So I agreed(cuz I was curious). 2 days later we finally talked and she told me that she thinks its better to stay friends with me because thats what she feels. Were not meant to be together she said, You make me happy but I cant make you happy, I dont want to disappoint you anymore. Your too good for me Ive said it before..
what do we have in common? I answered all her questions with my heart and in the end I was like, I want to be the man that listens to you helps you and gets you through everything just give me the time and ill do my best for you, Ill be your man. It wasnt desperation but just sheer determination, I showed her that I could live without her but I really want to give her my all, one last time no more bull****ting. I talked my heart out, proudly, told her straight what I wanted, like a man. I said, If you dont give me up I wont give you up, if you show me your worth it, ill give u the world. To which she replied with Ok..(myname)xx After that I said some things but she didnt reply.
Ok so obviously, she has been confused about me this entire time. Ive been the one pursuing her this entire time. Because I know shes the right girl for me. Ive been with a lot of girls but I can feel that this one is the one for me. Some things in life you cant explain. Not with logic or common sense, this is one of those times. Im just really fed up with things she can get away with, I have a weakness for her so Im allowing her.. So I need some advice please.
So after that last conversation where I showed her how she sees me, and likes me. We havent spoken(2 days now). She must be confused at this point. Why isnt he chasing me? He was so determined? Right? Well im planning to just move on for the moment. Im tired. But I know in my heart that shes going to want me back again. I just need to know how I should act according to you guys in order for me to KEEP her and not let her ****ing do this **** again to me. Ive been really good to her she knows it.
So basicly, my questions are ;
1. How should I act when she talks? Just be cool? Keep convo's short and act indifferent?
2. Its obvious shes confused, is there anything I can do to get her attracted again? I have her on FB perhaps a little jealously plot?
3. How can I make it challenging for her?
I just need some guideline on doing the right things to win her back. Because I cant find anything like that on the internet and here. Just plain and simple for this particular confused girl.
some info on her. She's REALLY sweet, she always get's shy when im around but when shes with others shes really strong and always strikes back.
I'd really appreciate it if you guys could take your time to read it and think with me, i'd really be grateful, because after all this time, even though she did all that **** to me, when Im with her I feel like i can do ANYTHING. I want to fight for her. She never said '' I dont like you '' so I want to keep fighting for her. I know she likes me, and I know she loves me. I just want her back + keep her + dont want this **** to happen again. I hope you guys can help me with my effort to help open this girls eyes.
I salute you Don Juans.