My cousin's friend and I met at a party 2 or 3 months ago. We were both a little drunk and high, had some good chemistry going, so by the end of the night while couples were making out on the couches, she started giving me "f**k-me" looks. Being the WBAFC socially-anxious beta male that I am, I didn't do anything about it, despite the fact I knew EXACTLY what she wanted. She even tried to take away my phone, throw me on the couch, get on my lap with her hair all up in my face, essentially trying to "rape" me. I have intimacy issues and HUGE social anxiety issues (to the point where I am now medicated for it) so I didn't do anything about it. I still beat myself up for this moment today, especially considering I'm a sexually-frustrated 21 year old virgin.
A couple weeks later, I saw her at church, obviously having been invited by my cousin, and we talked for a bit. She asked "Where have you been?" Clearly she missed me and thought I was acting unavailable. And we all know doing this attracts women to ya like a moth to the flame. It was kind of awkward though, and I felt the chemistry between us had been killed by this point.
When I saw her at a Christmas party about a month later, we talked for a little bit. That night I was SUPER drunk and right before she left to go home, I took her by the hands, and told her "I love you" like ten times. It was sort of done in a drunken, comical manner, ... Although I was attracted to her, I didn't really mean it, and I asked her if she had a boyfriend and she exasperatingly said "No....".
She found it funny and we chatted about it the next day on facebook. It would seem that maybe the spark of attraction between us may have been rekindled a little bit, but as I've heard, telling a girl "I love you" is often a one-way ticket in the friend-zone.
By this point, all my actions made me seem, in her eyes, like the stereotypical "nice guy." Later, she asked me if she really knew what I was talking about when I said I love her, that I was taking things too fast, and that I was a "nice guy". She then proceeded to talk about her crush of one year that won't give her the time of day, because he is too busy.
RED FLAG ALERT went off in my brain. She called me a nice guy. She started talking about other love interests. She began using me as an emotional tampon. At this point, I followed the great mantra of wisdom passed down through the generations of playboys and Casanovas: TREAT HER MEAN TO KEEP HER KEEN.
I told her "hahahahahah how stupid do you think I am? "I love you?" Yeah right trololoololo FOREVERALONE!". After that, there was a nice soothing pause, and she typed "Your an ***hole."
I then pretended to go on about having trouble with getting another girl, meanwhile calling the girl that I am chatting with a b**** many times, which p***** her off. She eventually got so mad that she signed off and said Goodnight.
DJs and other advice-givers, where do I stand at this point with her? Did I treat her TOO mean? Does she still see me as a "nice" or "non-sexual" guy? Clearly she thinks I'm a jerk now, and that's better than feeling indifferent towards me, right? Do I still have a chance? After all, she was initially attracted to me, so maybe I still have hope if I play things right in the future?
A couple weeks later, I saw her at church, obviously having been invited by my cousin, and we talked for a bit. She asked "Where have you been?" Clearly she missed me and thought I was acting unavailable. And we all know doing this attracts women to ya like a moth to the flame. It was kind of awkward though, and I felt the chemistry between us had been killed by this point.
When I saw her at a Christmas party about a month later, we talked for a little bit. That night I was SUPER drunk and right before she left to go home, I took her by the hands, and told her "I love you" like ten times. It was sort of done in a drunken, comical manner, ... Although I was attracted to her, I didn't really mean it, and I asked her if she had a boyfriend and she exasperatingly said "No....".
She found it funny and we chatted about it the next day on facebook. It would seem that maybe the spark of attraction between us may have been rekindled a little bit, but as I've heard, telling a girl "I love you" is often a one-way ticket in the friend-zone.
By this point, all my actions made me seem, in her eyes, like the stereotypical "nice guy." Later, she asked me if she really knew what I was talking about when I said I love her, that I was taking things too fast, and that I was a "nice guy". She then proceeded to talk about her crush of one year that won't give her the time of day, because he is too busy.
RED FLAG ALERT went off in my brain. She called me a nice guy. She started talking about other love interests. She began using me as an emotional tampon. At this point, I followed the great mantra of wisdom passed down through the generations of playboys and Casanovas: TREAT HER MEAN TO KEEP HER KEEN.
I told her "hahahahahah how stupid do you think I am? "I love you?" Yeah right trololoololo FOREVERALONE!". After that, there was a nice soothing pause, and she typed "Your an ***hole."
I then pretended to go on about having trouble with getting another girl, meanwhile calling the girl that I am chatting with a b**** many times, which p***** her off. She eventually got so mad that she signed off and said Goodnight.
DJs and other advice-givers, where do I stand at this point with her? Did I treat her TOO mean? Does she still see me as a "nice" or "non-sexual" guy? Clearly she thinks I'm a jerk now, and that's better than feeling indifferent towards me, right? Do I still have a chance? After all, she was initially attracted to me, so maybe I still have hope if I play things right in the future?