Am I selfish? Virgin gf 2 months, sex issues

So shes a virgin. We known each other for like 2 years almost. Just started doing stuff recently. Now she's never done anything sexual until we met. Not even kiss. So we've tired to have sex maybe three times. The gaps between thise times are a couple weeks apart. She works a lot and when she gets home she just says she's sleepy and I'm sitting on the bed with a boner and I end up having to just whack off. Most times she would give me a bj but not recently. She said she hates it. She lets me grab her ass and boobs most times. Sometimes her pu$$y but yeah.

The problem is she's always hesitant to try have sex and I literally have to take her clothes off and sweet talk her to allow me to try have sex. It's getting frustrating because i think she's kinda scared
Sometimes there's pain since she's a virgin. Well was I think. Just before we tried and I got my d1ck in with the head inside and a little more. She was enjoying it but yeah. It's really hard to get her naked and attempt sex. I've been patient and it's 2 months now since we hooked up. I get upset most times cause I'm left there all horny and shes like moody and tired so I just get more angry when she shows no interest. It's like she would rather just be a virgin all her life. I do have feelings for her. We get along mostly and I know she loves me. We travel together. Infact we are in a hotel at new York right now. I locked myself in the bathroom to jerk off and she's in bed probably wondering wtf is going on. She knows I'm upset. Anyway. I just know if she's not willing to put more effort in our sex relationship it will break us. I'm young and horny. We are good together but when it comes down to talkong about sex or trying it. I have to push on. A lot of times she just rubs her ass on my crotch and teases. But se kinda gets scared I guess. And she hasnt had sex cause she's fuking tight as hell.

Typed this on my phone. For the last ten mins. Don't know why I even did it. But just curious on people's thoughts. (p.s. I am happy being in a relationship and I'm not interested in being single and partying and fuking random girls. Been there. Done that. Just wish I could get a little more action. Am I impatient?)

How old is she?

If you care about her youll give it some wait. Virgins usually take more time before they give it up to a bf/gf.

It took me 4 months with my ex, and we loved one another by that time. This 3 years ago. If shes an older virgin, she def wants to know she can trust you, so I wouldnt pressure her.

But from the sounds of it, you could possibly not be sexually compatible since she doesnt seem to enjoy oral.

Though I was my last ex's first for everything, she was really awesome about oral. It wasnt her fave thing(she loved receiving more), but she enjoyed the power she got from being able to have my pleasure in her control. She turned from a noob into the best oral Ive ever had.

That being said, a girls skill can come from her enthusiasm in seeing her man get off. Pressuring her in any way will turn her off and make her less than eager to try things with you. Virgins need understanding and patience. Use the kid gloves dude and all will be ok in time.

Real talk, once I stopped thinking with my d!ck and actually thought with my heart, thats when my ex opened up to me. Her first time was about me being there for her and us connecting...not just me trying to get off...which is what it seems like it is for you. Once you change your focus, she will see that and open up more. And showing her any anger when she turns you down is the worst thing you could do. Virgins are a whole different game until they can trust you and open up.

If you make the pleasure and experience about her, things will change and she will be able to trust you. Patience dude.

What ever the fak you decide to do don't do what I did and kick her ass and throw her out with all her **** into the cold rainy night.

What's her favorite thing about you?

What does she love most about you?

This issue tends to be more common than people think. She has definitely thought about banging you, but there is something stopping her. It could be fear, her friends telling her not to bang, psychological issues, etc. What it all comes down to is seduction and how good you are at it. If you keep jerking off she will see that as the solution and perpetuate the no-sex treatment. I don't blame you for wanting to bang your girl if you haven't done it in two months, especially if you are in a relationship. Did you know that if you were married your wife not having sex with you is grounds for annulment? Coll, huh?

What you have to do is make her want you. There are many ways to do this. One is simply touching gently and kiss her neck while you run your fingers through her hair and neck. As you escalate and start touching her more, run your hands all over her body EXCEPT her crotch, tits, and @ss. One of your hands should be touching one part and the other one another one; make it fun for her. This will make her incredibly horny. As you escalate, pull her hair and then kiss her neck and start working your way down to her shoulders and her chest without touching the tits. Adding some music also helps as she probably wants her first to be "perfect" and memorable.

Ask her what turns her on and when she is horny DO it. Build enough trust by bringing up sex and turn ons casually so that she sees there is nothing to fear. A little of wine before can also help. Whatever you do, do NOT rush to touch her butt, crotch, or boobs. Whisper in her ear how soft her skin is and that you can tell how turned on she is getting. Women are kinesthetic and auditory beings. You can run your fingers right besides her x-rated areas without touching. When she is gasping for air, grab her boobs, repeated the neck kissing & extend it to all of her body. Once you toucher her crotch, don't finger her and just give her oral and when she's on a high just STOP. If you did your job, she will beg you to bang her.

There are videos online of how to stimulate her vulva. Take a look at those too. Good luck!

LoneWolf said:

p.s. I am happy being in a relationship

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Are you? I dunno man. Sounds like you're trying to be happy with your situation, but you're not.

and I'm not interested in being single and partying and fuking random girls. Been there. Done that.

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Then... why are you giving it all up for this girl who you can't connect with, or is unwilling to give you something that you want? At some point, did you just say, "I'm gonna settle for the next girl who has nothing to offer"? Come on, man. If you been there, done that, then go back and do it again because there's no way you should allow yourself to stay in a situation that makes you this unhappy.

Just wish I could get a little more action. Am I impatient?

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No, you're not impatient. You just have a tenuous grasp on reality. This girl doesn't have what you want. You're putting your effort into a ship that won't sail, bud.

I know she loves me.

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Really? Cause even if you DID know that... if love was REALLY enough, you wouldn't be here, asking us what to do about this situation.

I think it's your pride. You've "invested too much" and now you need to have the sex before you leave her. This doesn't make you a bad person. Just makes you young - like me.

Just sayin'.

face the fact that the main reason men and women get together is to have sex

what you are asking of her is normal

what she is expecting of you is abnormal