cococrispy
Don Juan
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Hey,
I took a Dale Carnegie public speaking course back in the summer.
I learned a TON of things, but I just want to focus on this part in this post.
I have always disliked my name for some reason.
However, every time people say my name in a conversation, or say it when they talk to me, I automatically feel great (like I get a great ego boost).
I used to prejudice people and then after talking to them, my perception of them turns completely 180 degrees around.
I have noticed that the most popular kids in my school usually do this "sales technique", and it must seem to work.
I have guys who make fun of me a lot (just joking around), yet I still feel good around them.
And then, there are those kids who never say my name. I feel like I hardly exist to them, and that they don't give a sh*t about me.
I remember in the 9th grade, when people didn't know who I was (because we were all beginning at a new high school), a few people literally said to me "I have no clue what your name is."
The past 2 weeks of school (senior year), I have been trying to say people's names to them while talking to them.
This worked really well, and even more people have been talking a lot more to me.
In the hallways, when I pass someone I kind of know well, I would be like... "BOBBY!!! whats up!"
Every chance I can, I try to talk to someone relating to the class we are in, like, "Hey Matt, did you do the homework last night?"
I went to an event at my school where freshmen were being introduced to all the clubs and stuff.
I was in charge of one table, and when kids would sign up, I would read their name off the sheet.
Then I'd be like, "Mike, you are a cool freshman because you signed up for the chess club! Everyone should be like Mike!"
That freshman would look like it was the happiest day of his life.
Speaking emotionally, being interesting, and being positive is another thing I learned at the course I took (I didn't really learn them, after every lesson we had to all make speeches, and with practice I got very good at it).
Anyways, idk if this relates with women if you are wondering that (I go to an all-guys school and I am very busy outside of school).
My main point is, from my experience with this, is that people will like you more.
It seems gimmicky- but it seems like the people who I do this most with like me the most.
I took a Dale Carnegie public speaking course back in the summer.
I learned a TON of things, but I just want to focus on this part in this post.
I have always disliked my name for some reason.
However, every time people say my name in a conversation, or say it when they talk to me, I automatically feel great (like I get a great ego boost).
I used to prejudice people and then after talking to them, my perception of them turns completely 180 degrees around.
I have noticed that the most popular kids in my school usually do this "sales technique", and it must seem to work.
I have guys who make fun of me a lot (just joking around), yet I still feel good around them.
And then, there are those kids who never say my name. I feel like I hardly exist to them, and that they don't give a sh*t about me.
I remember in the 9th grade, when people didn't know who I was (because we were all beginning at a new high school), a few people literally said to me "I have no clue what your name is."
The past 2 weeks of school (senior year), I have been trying to say people's names to them while talking to them.
This worked really well, and even more people have been talking a lot more to me.
In the hallways, when I pass someone I kind of know well, I would be like... "BOBBY!!! whats up!"
Every chance I can, I try to talk to someone relating to the class we are in, like, "Hey Matt, did you do the homework last night?"
I went to an event at my school where freshmen were being introduced to all the clubs and stuff.
I was in charge of one table, and when kids would sign up, I would read their name off the sheet.
Then I'd be like, "Mike, you are a cool freshman because you signed up for the chess club! Everyone should be like Mike!"
That freshman would look like it was the happiest day of his life.
Speaking emotionally, being interesting, and being positive is another thing I learned at the course I took (I didn't really learn them, after every lesson we had to all make speeches, and with practice I got very good at it).
Anyways, idk if this relates with women if you are wondering that (I go to an all-guys school and I am very busy outside of school).
My main point is, from my experience with this, is that people will like you more.
It seems gimmicky- but it seems like the people who I do this most with like me the most.