Get off the computer & live your life– Overanalysis Paralysis and Mental Masturbation

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Get off the computer & live your life– Overanalysis Paralysis and Mental Masturbation

There’s a somewhat popular thread in the “Archive Section” called the “Masturbation Discussion” which focuses on the benefits (if any) of refraining from masturbation.

That’s all well and good, but there is much stronger and more dangerous force at play which you may very well be succumbing to…Mental masturbation.

This is the act of putting off activities you know you need to do in order to improve your life, instead sitting on the computer learning new and interesting things about how to interact with women, while all the time deluding yourself that you are actually improving.

Intimately tied up in this condition is Overanalysis Paralysis, the action of continually asking advice from strangers over the internet about things that a real man would be able to figure out for himself without giving a d@mn.

Have you ever checked how much time you spend on the computer? If not, download a free tracking program on the web and monitor in a week how long you spend on the computer, how long you spend on So Suave, how long you spend looking at porn (hopefully none!), Facebook etc etc

You may very well be surprised how much it is.

And then ask yourself two questions:


1) “Is it necessary for me to spend this much time on the computer / So Suave?

2) “What could I be doing with my time that is more useful to me in becoming a better man?”


Answers are:


1) No.

2) Heaps of things!!!


I’ve been out of action for 5 weeks with a broken upper arm, and I’ve noticed this tendency creeping up on me, especially since I need to spend more time doing non-active stuff (like the computer) to help rest my arm.

But no more! So Suave is a good resource, but be honest with yourself how much time you really need to spend on here.

For me, I’ve decided once a week on Sunday night unless I post in my Broken Arm Recovery Journal is enough for me. Any more and I am wasting time on here that I could better put into living my life.

Ultimately, all self-improvement is achieved by taking action in the real world.

You can learn good stuff on here, but unless you get out and apply it in the real world, it is all for nothing.

Stop overanalysing everything that goes on in your life to do with women, instead take action as you see fit (keeping in mind what you have learnt) and learn from mistakes as you make them.

A life spent making mistakes is better than a life doing nothing. That is the only way to truly live.

Good luck!


And remember the following:

1) Have options and never give a d@mn about any one girl until she has proven herself worthy.

2) Be indifferent – whoever cares least controls the relationship.

3) What a girl says is meaningless, actions are everything.

4) If a girl is attracted to you, she’ll get physically intimate with you. If not, she won’t.

5) Always work to be the best man you can be, not for anyone but for yourself.


I’m out.
 

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SPOT... wait for it... ON!!


Ultimately, all self-improvement is achieved by taking action in the real world.

You can learn good stuff on here, but unless you get out and apply it in the real world, it is all for nothing.

Stop overanalysing everything that goes on in your life to do with women, instead take action as you see fit (keeping in mind what you have learnt) and learn from mistakes as you make them.

A life spent making mistakes is better than a life doing nothing. That is the only way to truly live.
I mentioned this in my last post. You have to make mistakes. Period. You have to get dirty. When your a kid, you don't read about playing outside. You don't read about the dangers of falling and getting hurt, or what to look out for. You don't read the section about how to generate the most fun while playing outside. You just do it. YOU PLAY OUTSIDE WITHOUT REGARD FOR INSTRUCTION.


Not to say that this site doesn't have its place. This site use to be about learning as much as possible, only posting in regards to a question that you've already answered, and then trying it out in real life. Then coming back and posting your results. Not just sitting here, reading about how to better your life.


Its like when someone watches a movie about a man who ends up making millions. It inspires you to make millions. How the hell are you gonna make millions sitting in front of a screen that shows a man doing what it takes. That is not gonna make you money. You have to go make your money.


Hell, even in the Bible, Jesus says, "...faith without works is dead." You can think about crap all you want (which isn't a bad thing), but you gotta get up and do something about it.

I'm tired of reading about all the same problems that have been answered over and over. I wanna read journals again. Good ones.

That's where you guys come in. We need more fearless DJs. Ones who aren't afraid of living life. We need Barney Stensons out in the world. People who aren't afraid to get water thrown in their face. I know I live the life of Barney Stenson.


So go out there and become Barney Stenson. Fearless. Awesome. Life-liver.

Good Luck!!





Oh, and great post once again runner83!
 

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Diaforetikos said:
I'm tired of reading about all the same problems that have been answered over and over. I wanna read journals again. Good ones.

That's where you guys come in. We need more fearless DJs. Ones who aren't afraid of living life. We need Barney Stensons out in the world. People who aren't afraid to get water thrown in their face. I know I live the life of Barney Stenson.
Agreed.

Some knowledge is useful, an obsessive quest for knowledge and analysis is the biggest killer of all.

Talking and looking on the net will never solve your problems.

Only action in the real world will.

Men of So Suave arise.

Remove yourself from your computers and LIVE!
 

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Why has the "Masturbation Discussion" been removed from the Archive forum? The thread was completely deleted, along with all of its posts. This makes no sense as that information could be very helpful to many members here.
 

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Actually I guess I'm fine with it. The more guys who constantly masturbate = less competition for me.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Great post I have the problem of going to everyone and asking them for advice instead of following my own gut and instincts, this is one of the biggest things holding me back from success the fear of fully relying confidently on myself. One of the reasons why their long stretches of time where I don't post on here or my blog, is to get back to trusting myself fully.

runner if you don't mind can i post this on my blog mate?
 

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Solomon said:
Great post I have the problem of going to everyone and asking them for advice instead of following my own gut and instincts, this is one of the biggest things holding me back from success the fear of fully relying confidently on myself. One of the reasons why their long stretches of time where I don't post on here or my blog, is to get back to trusting myself fully.

runner if you don't mind can i post this on my blog mate?
Yeah mate, sounds good.

Send me a PM when you post it, I'd be interested to have a look.
 
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