Alchemystic
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They have these delusional beliefs that women are perfect creatures and should be treated as such. The possibility of availability extends beyond just sex. Since Nice Guys have been conditioned by their families and society to never do anything to upset a woman, they are hyper-vigilant in responding to the moods and desires of women they don't even plan on having sex with, that by doing so have therefore, demonstrated low value traits. Nice Guys are hyper-vigilant so, they are easily affected by the mood of the girl that shows disapproval that , “they”, try to please her right away in order to remove the face of disapproval; thereby come out as easy, weak and of no challenge to women, resulting ultimately to their woman leaving them. Trying hard to make women want you is a low value trait women find “Instinctively Repulsive”. Nice Guys over – value women but women know that they themselves are neither perfect and the significance Nice Guys placed on women will cause her to become self – conscious and worry whether or not a Nice Guy can handle the Ugly, Imperfect bad side to her. This self – conscious feeling in a woman triggered by the Nice Guy will also cause massive stress, distrust and anxiety to women because the woman can not show all of herself completely to the Nice Guys thus she can not relax and feel safe and comfortable being around with someone who obviously lives in a fantasy fairy tale world. This ultimately drives her further away from the Nice Guy, plus anything that seems “too good to be true” for women will be perceived as fake. Perfection is boring. Bad boys constantly push women away thus reinforcing again the belief that women love bad boys and it is true they do love bad boys.
Nice Guys place women above them and “they,” desperately pleased them like GODS, putting aside their own needs and wants. Instead of appreciating her, a Nice Guy worships women. More than loving the woman in his life, a Nice Guy NEEDS her. “She is my life, my only source of happiness…”YECH! What kind of a burden is that to place on her? That she has to be responsible for YOUR happiness? Get a grip loser! You can't be happy in a relationship unless you're happy being single. Women want to share their life to someone who has a life but Nice Guys make women the center of their lives. When Nice Guys revolved their world around women then the possibility of having a life of your own is no longer available. When you do not have a life of your own to share then women will not share their lives with you as well!
Nice Guys are fearful of being single so they attach themselves immediately to any girl in sight without first questioning her worth. Nice guys do not make assessments. They do not qualify or filter female partners so they received all the horrible things as well. The problem is not being single but relinquishing your power and placing your happiness on a girl. He forgets that we are only humans, humans are mammals and mammals are animals; so therefore humans are animals and just like any animals we are not worthy of any kind of adorations but Nice Guys rationalize and use their adorations as a foundation for claiming that “no one will ever love her as much as I do”. Instead of being a profound statement of devotion, this is a subtle, but nasty insult. It is akin to saying to her: “You are a difficult person, and only *I* can ever truly love you, so be thankful I’m here. A Nice Guy is so insecured that they cling to her for fear, that if she is out of sight, she may become attracted to someone else. Nice Guys are wholly dependent on women for security and support that they constantly seek for approval, validation and emotional support from the woman. This becomes a disadvantage for Nice Guys because women are expert manipulators especially at the art of emotional warfare and manipulation; so the moment a woman senses weakness in a Nice Guy is the moment she will, remorselessly, use it as a weapon against you to get want she wants may it be using you as a mindless worker drone to provide for her needs or a zombie prisoner of love in a long term – relationship.
A Nice Guy is so insecured that he constantly vies for her attention and acceptance; this can be so emotionally stressful to the woman, not to mention annoying and needy. Another thing about Nice Guys is that, “they”, constantly give women attention in the hopes of gaining her reciprocal attention because of this generalize thinking, Nice Guys tend to believe that women will also reciprocate their attentiveness but this is wrong! Sure, some women do reciprocate attention and some even really do love attention but only initially and up to a certain point, from then onwards, it is just a downhill spiral of agony: take note; “Overly and immediately reciprocal people, male or female are crazy”. Attention and affection is like a drug to women, they get addicted to it and oftentimes will give the Nice Guy false hopes and false promises just to get their “fix” of this so called drug they call as attention and affection. A drug which a Nice Guy “generously gives” away “for free”. When women receive attention and affection freely in a relationship then sex as a medium of exchange is no longer applicable for something that is given freely!
Women quickly doubt motives’ of Nice Guys because a Nice Guy possesses little or no actual power/authority to exercise a controlling influence “directly”, so he compensates and resorts to various forms of manipulations to get what he wants like being Nice but this “Niceness” comes off as fake or insincere to women and therefore a Nice Guy gets dump again.
Nice Guys don’t know how to be happy and even if they do learn how to be happy, they have been conditioned so deeply with wrong social programming that they have actually become used to feeling bad about being happy and feeling good. They are so used to feeling bad that it has become a habit to feel bad and thus role - play a never ending drama of sadness, conflict and insecurity. Due to this anomalous social programming; they have become so externally dependent on other people to make them happy that they sabotage their own relationships with people through passive hostility due to negative feelings of envy towards other people and this infuriates them at happy people when they feel bad, plus, Nice Guys rationalize this negative behavior as correct. Thereby, becoming alone again and even more so miserable. Miserable people make “other” people miserable which in turn, also, make other “more”, newly miserable” people and ironically start an ever “increasing ripple of miseries”. People hate feeling miserable and any other negative emotions so it is natural for them to move away from miserable people. Nice Guys never learn that they have to feel good in order to stop making other people miserable.
A Nice Guy needs to change his belief before he can truly ever become a seducer.
“And Worst of All, These Wimpy, Loser Nice Guys….”
>>>These Nice Guys are spineless wimps who don't stand-up to women. They have no boundaries and let women walk-over them. Women don't want to have sex with weak guys they can push over. They don't feel secured with Nice Guys. She doesn't feel safe knowing she can push you around because if she can push you around then it means other people can push you around as well and you will not be able to protect her or her children from harm. A dangerous threat like a ferocious Lion trying to eat her children may no longer exist but that “INSTINCTIVE FEAR” is still embedded in her mammalian brain so she does things to know that you will stand-up to her and for her. These are tests of character. If he fails to make the girl feel safe by standing up to her then she feels unloved and contempt for those kinds of guys and punishes him by being cruel and withholding sex. Making a girl feel safe is making her feel loved. That’s why they always say that women reward bad behavior by having sex with Bad Boys. Forget what they said about not being a jerk or *******. They are idiots! Just accept the fact that Alpha Males can act like jerks because they are powerful. This is the reason why women fall in love with Bad Boys or Alpha Males. But you see here’s the dilemma. She will continually test you to see if she can trust you that the boundaries are for real. She may even react to it intensely. She may even lie and tell you that you are wrong for setting up the boundaries. She will constantly push against it. She will make objections to the boundary you have set up and check how strong really is the boundary? When you make a girl feel secured then you made her feel loved by you. Setting boundaries also creates respect. Security is tantamount to love. When a Nice Guy fails to set boundaries it communicates to his partner that he doesn't really respect himself, so why should she? It all boils down again to the fact that Nice Guys do not love themselves. Is it any wonder women do not love them as well?
Nice Guys place women above them and “they,” desperately pleased them like GODS, putting aside their own needs and wants. Instead of appreciating her, a Nice Guy worships women. More than loving the woman in his life, a Nice Guy NEEDS her. “She is my life, my only source of happiness…”YECH! What kind of a burden is that to place on her? That she has to be responsible for YOUR happiness? Get a grip loser! You can't be happy in a relationship unless you're happy being single. Women want to share their life to someone who has a life but Nice Guys make women the center of their lives. When Nice Guys revolved their world around women then the possibility of having a life of your own is no longer available. When you do not have a life of your own to share then women will not share their lives with you as well!
Nice Guys are fearful of being single so they attach themselves immediately to any girl in sight without first questioning her worth. Nice guys do not make assessments. They do not qualify or filter female partners so they received all the horrible things as well. The problem is not being single but relinquishing your power and placing your happiness on a girl. He forgets that we are only humans, humans are mammals and mammals are animals; so therefore humans are animals and just like any animals we are not worthy of any kind of adorations but Nice Guys rationalize and use their adorations as a foundation for claiming that “no one will ever love her as much as I do”. Instead of being a profound statement of devotion, this is a subtle, but nasty insult. It is akin to saying to her: “You are a difficult person, and only *I* can ever truly love you, so be thankful I’m here. A Nice Guy is so insecured that they cling to her for fear, that if she is out of sight, she may become attracted to someone else. Nice Guys are wholly dependent on women for security and support that they constantly seek for approval, validation and emotional support from the woman. This becomes a disadvantage for Nice Guys because women are expert manipulators especially at the art of emotional warfare and manipulation; so the moment a woman senses weakness in a Nice Guy is the moment she will, remorselessly, use it as a weapon against you to get want she wants may it be using you as a mindless worker drone to provide for her needs or a zombie prisoner of love in a long term – relationship.
A Nice Guy is so insecured that he constantly vies for her attention and acceptance; this can be so emotionally stressful to the woman, not to mention annoying and needy. Another thing about Nice Guys is that, “they”, constantly give women attention in the hopes of gaining her reciprocal attention because of this generalize thinking, Nice Guys tend to believe that women will also reciprocate their attentiveness but this is wrong! Sure, some women do reciprocate attention and some even really do love attention but only initially and up to a certain point, from then onwards, it is just a downhill spiral of agony: take note; “Overly and immediately reciprocal people, male or female are crazy”. Attention and affection is like a drug to women, they get addicted to it and oftentimes will give the Nice Guy false hopes and false promises just to get their “fix” of this so called drug they call as attention and affection. A drug which a Nice Guy “generously gives” away “for free”. When women receive attention and affection freely in a relationship then sex as a medium of exchange is no longer applicable for something that is given freely!
Women quickly doubt motives’ of Nice Guys because a Nice Guy possesses little or no actual power/authority to exercise a controlling influence “directly”, so he compensates and resorts to various forms of manipulations to get what he wants like being Nice but this “Niceness” comes off as fake or insincere to women and therefore a Nice Guy gets dump again.
Nice Guys don’t know how to be happy and even if they do learn how to be happy, they have been conditioned so deeply with wrong social programming that they have actually become used to feeling bad about being happy and feeling good. They are so used to feeling bad that it has become a habit to feel bad and thus role - play a never ending drama of sadness, conflict and insecurity. Due to this anomalous social programming; they have become so externally dependent on other people to make them happy that they sabotage their own relationships with people through passive hostility due to negative feelings of envy towards other people and this infuriates them at happy people when they feel bad, plus, Nice Guys rationalize this negative behavior as correct. Thereby, becoming alone again and even more so miserable. Miserable people make “other” people miserable which in turn, also, make other “more”, newly miserable” people and ironically start an ever “increasing ripple of miseries”. People hate feeling miserable and any other negative emotions so it is natural for them to move away from miserable people. Nice Guys never learn that they have to feel good in order to stop making other people miserable.
A Nice Guy needs to change his belief before he can truly ever become a seducer.
“And Worst of All, These Wimpy, Loser Nice Guys….”
>>>These Nice Guys are spineless wimps who don't stand-up to women. They have no boundaries and let women walk-over them. Women don't want to have sex with weak guys they can push over. They don't feel secured with Nice Guys. She doesn't feel safe knowing she can push you around because if she can push you around then it means other people can push you around as well and you will not be able to protect her or her children from harm. A dangerous threat like a ferocious Lion trying to eat her children may no longer exist but that “INSTINCTIVE FEAR” is still embedded in her mammalian brain so she does things to know that you will stand-up to her and for her. These are tests of character. If he fails to make the girl feel safe by standing up to her then she feels unloved and contempt for those kinds of guys and punishes him by being cruel and withholding sex. Making a girl feel safe is making her feel loved. That’s why they always say that women reward bad behavior by having sex with Bad Boys. Forget what they said about not being a jerk or *******. They are idiots! Just accept the fact that Alpha Males can act like jerks because they are powerful. This is the reason why women fall in love with Bad Boys or Alpha Males. But you see here’s the dilemma. She will continually test you to see if she can trust you that the boundaries are for real. She may even react to it intensely. She may even lie and tell you that you are wrong for setting up the boundaries. She will constantly push against it. She will make objections to the boundary you have set up and check how strong really is the boundary? When you make a girl feel secured then you made her feel loved by you. Setting boundaries also creates respect. Security is tantamount to love. When a Nice Guy fails to set boundaries it communicates to his partner that he doesn't really respect himself, so why should she? It all boils down again to the fact that Nice Guys do not love themselves. Is it any wonder women do not love them as well?
