Starting fresh - no plates, but ready - advice?

Hey guys,

I've been completely out of the game for the past 3 months after a ltr breakup. My attitude after that was pretty rough and I was flat-out done with dating for a bit.

I've been reading up and working on myself (financially, exercise, etc.). I'm in a pretty good place now. I'm pretty certain my last to ltr's have beaten the AFC out of me... I see red flags pretty clearly now and know exactly what behavior I won't put up with - ended my last ltr by walking away without a sound after she threw some major red flags and disrespected me.

I'm looking for some advice on getting started here... I feel more comfortable approaching in non-bar situations. I feel more confident...

I have zero plates and zero potentials at this point. The slate is clean. I know this is a broad question (excuse pun), but any advice you can offer as I set out to start plucking 10's (or 7's will do to start)?

Try online dating...make contact...suggest a coffee place to meet...if she "suggests" an expensive restaurant for a first meeting....bail

In the sameboat Dang, got an online date tomorrow, not sure this is the right way to go, some real headcases on POF, ill treat it for what it is at the mo, a place to approach and meet, not got any massive expectations from it.
Unlike you Im more comfortable with bar opportunities than non bar, what is your approach in non bars? I can talk, ok, aiM quite comfortable but it progressing to geting the numbers, assessing interest that floors me

I was in your place this summer. Started taking salsa classes. Tons of fun and tons of oppurtunities.

I think he should go for online dating. Two years back I broke up with my girlfriend. After that I tried online dating. I was successful in finding a new girlfriend and I dated her for one year and finally married her. I think internet is the best option available for grayclif. But he should remember that there are a lot of pitfalls in online dating.

no no,

no online...

Can you find a cozy coffee shop where people hang out? Do you have left-over friends you can hang out with? Are there women that you can call in your life?.. Get your ass out, try hard. Converse a lot. Spend hours outside... Find,make friends.

Online dating in the beginning is not helping - I have gone pretty much the same phase you are going through right now. Just try to keep it as real as possible..

DO more, expect less, Attitude is MOST important. Be positive...

K-man said:

I was in your place this summer. Started taking salsa classes. Tons of fun and tons of oppurtunities.

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Yes, if you want to go duck hunting you need to go where the ducks are.
Latin dance class is duck HQ.

e1m00 said:

I think internet is the best option available for grayclif.

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LOL!