This seems to be a problem with the hotter girls. I regularly cold approach, and once every couple of months I get a date with a truly hot (as opposed to cute) girl. Plenty of cute girls to go around, but the 8s and more tricky to snag. Then it seems the likelihood of me screwing up is way higher.
Last night, after multiple attempts over about a month and much flakiness, this girl meets up with me for drinks. I had met her in a bookstore. She said she had a headache even before we met up, but since it was she who texted me and suggested we get together, I still met up with her.
Standard 3-hour drink date, I tell lots of stories, she seems interested, keep her laughing, etc. However, not an overtly sexual vibe. We sat at a table, so kino was somewhat limited. I did touch her arm and back, and put my hand on her thigh several times. But the seating arrangement made it feel awkward to try and keep my hand on her thigh or put my arm around her.
Her headache begins to return by the end of the date. I think she was telling the truth, as that is about the time the Advil should be wearing off.
She was all smiles during the date, and I should have kissed her during our time we were seated, but I just didn't.
It takes a while to get the check and pay. By now her headache is getting worse.
Walk her to her car and she whips out the hug before I can move in for a kiss.
Now I feel like a fool, because I am a big believer in kissing on the first date.
I am guessing I just proceed as usual: wait a couple of days, text her, then try to set up another date. I think the next date will need to be one where a kiss will be easy... mini golf, a club where you stand and/or dance, etc.
Does a chick automatically assume you're a chump if you don't kiss by the end of the first date? I really think the headache was a mitigating factor here, lol.
Also, a more global issue is holding back with the hottest girls. That of course leads to failures with them. I need to correct that.
Thoughts?
Last night, after multiple attempts over about a month and much flakiness, this girl meets up with me for drinks. I had met her in a bookstore. She said she had a headache even before we met up, but since it was she who texted me and suggested we get together, I still met up with her.
Standard 3-hour drink date, I tell lots of stories, she seems interested, keep her laughing, etc. However, not an overtly sexual vibe. We sat at a table, so kino was somewhat limited. I did touch her arm and back, and put my hand on her thigh several times. But the seating arrangement made it feel awkward to try and keep my hand on her thigh or put my arm around her.
Her headache begins to return by the end of the date. I think she was telling the truth, as that is about the time the Advil should be wearing off.
She was all smiles during the date, and I should have kissed her during our time we were seated, but I just didn't.
It takes a while to get the check and pay. By now her headache is getting worse.
Walk her to her car and she whips out the hug before I can move in for a kiss.
Now I feel like a fool, because I am a big believer in kissing on the first date.
I am guessing I just proceed as usual: wait a couple of days, text her, then try to set up another date. I think the next date will need to be one where a kiss will be easy... mini golf, a club where you stand and/or dance, etc.
Does a chick automatically assume you're a chump if you don't kiss by the end of the first date? I really think the headache was a mitigating factor here, lol.
Also, a more global issue is holding back with the hottest girls. That of course leads to failures with them. I need to correct that.
Thoughts?