"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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the new_hotness journal: magic carpet ride

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I've been a hermit much of the summer. Just working out, getting into shape, then resting up. Now, I'm back in the game (somewhat), so here's a journal of my progress.

Any fellow travelers are free to comment in this travel log. :)

Wed. August 25:

Went to a class today: not too big, not too small, about 40 people.

A girl opened me immediately, as soon as the class started.

I walk in looking for an open chair in an apparently full class. She spots me, immediately pulls up a chair for me to sit next to her, and also offers her desk to share as well.

I think one mistake I made was instead of chatting her up when the opportunity presented, I scanned for some additional hotties. I wasn't quite focused on her.

She did chat me up again maybe four or five times after she opened me, so the interest is certainly there. She would usually do this after some other guy tried to talk to her.

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I think I ran into the hot girl I saw a couple of days ago. She was staring at me blatantly the other day for quite some time, without making any attempt to hide what she was doing. It was almost animalistic, very raw.

I guess it was her: about the same height and weight, and I guess same facial features? We didn't talk the other day, and I didn't stare back; so I'm not sure.

Anyway, she's crazy hot. We were face to face at break, and she just sort of froze and stopped, kind of stupefied. I didn't say or do anything either.

I have to admit, I have been a bit of a hermit the past few weeks, focusing on exercise and recovery and that's just about it.

Hopefully I can come out of my shell a bit.

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Forgot: there's a third girl I'm working on. She's a shortie and very, very cute. She is just as shy as she is cute, which is very.

I tried talking to her, and all she can muster right now is to agree: "yeah" and then burst out in giggles.

She seems really comfortable talking to people, as long as they are girls. Talking to guys seems to be a stretch for her. She seems like a really cool girl, but just shy.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Thurs. August 26:

I went to another class today. The same thing happened as yesterday.

This time, I arrive early. Still, I get opened by another cute girl.

A girl arrives late, seats herself next to me. Then she says to me: "I'm going to look at yours..." meaning the handout sheets I have.

So, basically, I'm getting opened by girls in every new class I sit in on.

This is how spoiled I am: the girls approaching me in the '7' range and I can't even be bothered to pay any attention to them: I'm only scheming to hook up with girls in the 8+ range because they're more of a challenge!

I have true abundance though, if I want to reach out and take it.

The thing is, I don't know how long I'll be taking these classes. Basically I want to take one or two for fun and personal interest, only.

edit: like someone else said, I'm noticing girls checking me out throughout the day now. They check you out when you are not checking them out for the most part. They try to sneak it in on you.
 

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No girls approached me/opened me in class today.

Oh yes, one "girl" did. But she was about 60, so that doesn't count, lol.

It's a fitness class. It was a bit of a letdown as far as hb's are concerned: lots of fat girls in the class. Lots of middle aged and older types.

Friendly people, but nothing there as far as attractive girls.
 

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Four classes in four days, and I've been approached by girls in each one.

Yet, I still feel hesitant about gaming in this environment.

Maybe I shouldn't think about it as "game" at all, but being a normal social person. Innovative idea, huh?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ooh, I didn't know this thread existed when I replied to your other about how hot you are.

Serious question - are you just trying to wind up Just A Shot Away? somehow to prove for once and for all that looks matter? ;)
 

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Back in class, class is nearly empty. Another girl approaches/proximity by sitting next to me. This girl is too shy to start up conversation through.

There are two hot girls I'd like to approach, but one is too shy to even leave class during break. The other sticks to her girlfriend like glue and disappears during break.

Kind of an odd situation where girls I'm a bit less attracted to are opening me, and the girls I want to talk to are not available to talk to. :p
 

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this isn't a journal, it's a disgrace.

Spit some fvcking game, man.
 

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I've gotten more passive in my game, I admit.

I'm used to hot girls grabbing me by the arm in clubs and grinding me and inviting me to grope them, or taking me by the hand back to their car so I can have sex with them, or telling me where they live so we can go have sex.

I'm spoiled!
 

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I got laid last night/this morning.

Walked into a bar looking for my friend and some skinny blonde with a bubble butt starts chatting me up as I walk by. I ask her what she's doing at the bar, and she says she's looking to ****. I walk her out of there and we **** inside her SUV in a dark parking lot.

I can't remember her name: actually I don't think she ever told me. I didn't get her number either.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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