from Bristol Lair:
http://www.bristollair.com/outer-ga...mber-closing/ultimate-guide-to-text-game.html
by DeeBoy
TheDeeBoy gives us a brass tacks breakdown of texting a girl.
This is a guide for text messaging game, it’s a summary of various recent posts on the issue. I would like to give credit to all those who have contributed with posts on the forum, PM’s and text msgs, all were very helpful and much appreciated.
Since the follow up between day 1 and day 2, depends so much on which direction the initial interaction went, I have broken it down between Comfort based game and Sexually direct game. It is essential that the follow up is totally congruent with what went down during the set itself.
Thedeeboy
Text Game:
Structure:
Between day 1 & day 2, the only job for you as a man is to make her feel good about herself. You cannot do Negs/IOD’s/Takeaways/ Freezouts etc, via text. If you make her feel uncomfortable with text, why on earth will she meet you for a day 2. You can be C&F but make sure it comes off right, remember it is text, it has its limitations and unlike phone calls it’s harder to recover from errors, so the fact that it’s a tease has to spring off immediately from the text including any emicons available.
Text is for the following objectives:
Humour her-It's great for using call-back humour (referring back to a funny experience you shared with her) including creating new funny mental images in her mind. Validate her-with over the top compliments, which are actually not IOI’s, since it would be obvious you use it for every girl, but nonetheless makes her feel good about herself, in the same way I like it when a girl calls me “Handsome” whilst I know she says it to everyone, I still like it. Escalate-Never reply to static stuff, always be escalating. If during set it was sexual ramp it up big time, if not don’t start going all sexual via text, she’ll be scared to meet you. Frame control-Ensure your agenda is leading the text exchange. Logistics for getting together.
Text Concepts:
Don’t answer right away and give a genuine reason as to why u were “busy”. It’s all about timing it right, at the beginning give her at least as much time she took to respond to you and even more. Once a certain rhythm of text flow has been developed, then YOU should set the agenda, sometimes replying quickly, sometimes slowly – never becoming predictable. Because you ALWAYS end your texts with a simple question she can and should answer, the onus is on her all the time to come back to you! She won’t have the discipline to do that so you will be able to drop her and pick her up as you chose. Initially very fast answers=Needy, on the other hand unpredictability is great, therefore it should be introduced into the dynamic pretty fast.
Keep the line alive starting right after the day 1 all the way through, become part of her life immediately, can be done easily via small attraction spikes texts. On the other hand stop texting at a high note, get your message across and STOP, don’t tex her to death, she should always be wanting more.
If you want to just stoke the fire with a little spike, you can just fire off a spike text, but if you target is for her to answer your text, ensure one question per text, always place questions at the end of text.
Keep it short sweet and simple.
Throw in a funny snippet of “your life right now” with an emotion attached.
Be unreactive, you live in your own world, often she’ll write something and you’ll feel compelled to answer right away and this is where mistakes happen, don’t be impulsive, review before sending off, make sure you stay on message. Don’t care about her not responding, disregard and start the next day another thread.
Be very careful with “****y funny” in text, remember you are not there smiling & kinoing her, thus letting her know it’s only a tease! It should be jumping out of the text.
Notice how she answers her texts, is it long and elaborate, keep at it. If it seems like the texts are not hitting the right spot with her, there are long time lapses or short answers, move swiftly over to phone before a negative “no” ladder is built up. Also note, for foreign girls sometimes it’s easier for them than talking over the phone, coz they have the text right there in front of them, but sometimes, if they don’t “get it” it’s better to talk, need to gauge that on a case by case basis.
It’s good to mirror the style of your correspondent. If she’s brief, be brief. If she’s chatty be chatty. But always stay one energy level above her. If she doesn’t ever use smiley's or lol’s don’t use them. Use punctuation and “haha”!!!! If she never “x”s you only “x” when she’s been good. Choose a word she uses in her text and use it back, pick up on subtle writing styles, notice, does she use punctuations at all, is there a gap between one sentence and another or does she write like this,without any gaps at all.
Our goal is to establish the concept that “we are alike”. In fact using “we” is very powerful. Whenever we can, it’s good to use “we” instead of “you and I”. It establishes a connection in a very powerful and subtle way. “when can we get together?” says something very different to “when are you free?” it assumes that we both are participating in mutual process of “getting together”. She’s not being “asked out”.
Think of it this way, before you send a text try to put yourself in her shoes and look at your text and say is that funny? is this different? is this crazy? is this someone I definitely think can brighten up my life? if it’s a yes to any of those, send, if it’s lame don’t do it. This is an art form and being lazy with texts will get you nowhere.
There are a few things u can do, by way of IOD’s/takeaways, but this has to be only once she is quite invested in the interaction, since you can only do a takeaway if there was something there to start off with.
* Take a longer time than normal to reply and totally ignore what she said, if you don’t like her last response.
* Send her a txt that says you’re very busy and can’t meet her this week (whether or not you had offered to before or whether you are busy) and don’t propose anything else
* Drop the ‘x’ from your text (she WILL notice)
Flaking Points:
If a girl flakes me, I'll tease her on it in a funny way. I never get angry or look genuinely upset about it. I never focus on reasoning with them logically. I also don't give up if a girl doesn't call back. At the same time, if they say they'll call back I'll just say "OK cool." and give them the chance. But then if they don't call back when they said they would, I'll call back a bit later and just re-initiate the conversation as if I don't even remember that they didn't follow up.
If you react to her flaking with anything more than an "I didn't even notice you flaked" reaction, than you are telling her:
A) You lack emotional maturity, since you can't handle disappointment or changes in your rigid, structured little life. TRANSLATION: You're about as fun as a stick in the eye.
B) You must not go through this experience of being flaked on very much or you would have figured it out by now. What, this is the first time you've been flaked on? Get over it. TRANSLATION: You're a loser.
C) If you HAVE been flaked on before and STILL react this way, it tells her that insecure anger is where you react from, and she knows what THAT means about you. (I don't need to translate this one, do I?)
After all, what kind of guy isn't even phased by a woman flaking on him?
ANSWER: A man who has other options in his life.
Q&A
http://www.bristollair.com/outer-ga...mber-closing/ultimate-guide-to-text-game.html
by DeeBoy
TheDeeBoy gives us a brass tacks breakdown of texting a girl.
This is a guide for text messaging game, it’s a summary of various recent posts on the issue. I would like to give credit to all those who have contributed with posts on the forum, PM’s and text msgs, all were very helpful and much appreciated.
Since the follow up between day 1 and day 2, depends so much on which direction the initial interaction went, I have broken it down between Comfort based game and Sexually direct game. It is essential that the follow up is totally congruent with what went down during the set itself.
Thedeeboy
Text Game:
Structure:
Between day 1 & day 2, the only job for you as a man is to make her feel good about herself. You cannot do Negs/IOD’s/Takeaways/ Freezouts etc, via text. If you make her feel uncomfortable with text, why on earth will she meet you for a day 2. You can be C&F but make sure it comes off right, remember it is text, it has its limitations and unlike phone calls it’s harder to recover from errors, so the fact that it’s a tease has to spring off immediately from the text including any emicons available.
Text is for the following objectives:
Humour her-It's great for using call-back humour (referring back to a funny experience you shared with her) including creating new funny mental images in her mind. Validate her-with over the top compliments, which are actually not IOI’s, since it would be obvious you use it for every girl, but nonetheless makes her feel good about herself, in the same way I like it when a girl calls me “Handsome” whilst I know she says it to everyone, I still like it. Escalate-Never reply to static stuff, always be escalating. If during set it was sexual ramp it up big time, if not don’t start going all sexual via text, she’ll be scared to meet you. Frame control-Ensure your agenda is leading the text exchange. Logistics for getting together.
Text Concepts:
Don’t answer right away and give a genuine reason as to why u were “busy”. It’s all about timing it right, at the beginning give her at least as much time she took to respond to you and even more. Once a certain rhythm of text flow has been developed, then YOU should set the agenda, sometimes replying quickly, sometimes slowly – never becoming predictable. Because you ALWAYS end your texts with a simple question she can and should answer, the onus is on her all the time to come back to you! She won’t have the discipline to do that so you will be able to drop her and pick her up as you chose. Initially very fast answers=Needy, on the other hand unpredictability is great, therefore it should be introduced into the dynamic pretty fast.
Keep the line alive starting right after the day 1 all the way through, become part of her life immediately, can be done easily via small attraction spikes texts. On the other hand stop texting at a high note, get your message across and STOP, don’t tex her to death, she should always be wanting more.
If you want to just stoke the fire with a little spike, you can just fire off a spike text, but if you target is for her to answer your text, ensure one question per text, always place questions at the end of text.
Keep it short sweet and simple.
Throw in a funny snippet of “your life right now” with an emotion attached.
Be unreactive, you live in your own world, often she’ll write something and you’ll feel compelled to answer right away and this is where mistakes happen, don’t be impulsive, review before sending off, make sure you stay on message. Don’t care about her not responding, disregard and start the next day another thread.
Be very careful with “****y funny” in text, remember you are not there smiling & kinoing her, thus letting her know it’s only a tease! It should be jumping out of the text.
Notice how she answers her texts, is it long and elaborate, keep at it. If it seems like the texts are not hitting the right spot with her, there are long time lapses or short answers, move swiftly over to phone before a negative “no” ladder is built up. Also note, for foreign girls sometimes it’s easier for them than talking over the phone, coz they have the text right there in front of them, but sometimes, if they don’t “get it” it’s better to talk, need to gauge that on a case by case basis.
It’s good to mirror the style of your correspondent. If she’s brief, be brief. If she’s chatty be chatty. But always stay one energy level above her. If she doesn’t ever use smiley's or lol’s don’t use them. Use punctuation and “haha”!!!! If she never “x”s you only “x” when she’s been good. Choose a word she uses in her text and use it back, pick up on subtle writing styles, notice, does she use punctuations at all, is there a gap between one sentence and another or does she write like this,without any gaps at all.
Our goal is to establish the concept that “we are alike”. In fact using “we” is very powerful. Whenever we can, it’s good to use “we” instead of “you and I”. It establishes a connection in a very powerful and subtle way. “when can we get together?” says something very different to “when are you free?” it assumes that we both are participating in mutual process of “getting together”. She’s not being “asked out”.
Think of it this way, before you send a text try to put yourself in her shoes and look at your text and say is that funny? is this different? is this crazy? is this someone I definitely think can brighten up my life? if it’s a yes to any of those, send, if it’s lame don’t do it. This is an art form and being lazy with texts will get you nowhere.
There are a few things u can do, by way of IOD’s/takeaways, but this has to be only once she is quite invested in the interaction, since you can only do a takeaway if there was something there to start off with.
* Take a longer time than normal to reply and totally ignore what she said, if you don’t like her last response.
* Send her a txt that says you’re very busy and can’t meet her this week (whether or not you had offered to before or whether you are busy) and don’t propose anything else
* Drop the ‘x’ from your text (she WILL notice)
Flaking Points:
If a girl flakes me, I'll tease her on it in a funny way. I never get angry or look genuinely upset about it. I never focus on reasoning with them logically. I also don't give up if a girl doesn't call back. At the same time, if they say they'll call back I'll just say "OK cool." and give them the chance. But then if they don't call back when they said they would, I'll call back a bit later and just re-initiate the conversation as if I don't even remember that they didn't follow up.
If you react to her flaking with anything more than an "I didn't even notice you flaked" reaction, than you are telling her:
A) You lack emotional maturity, since you can't handle disappointment or changes in your rigid, structured little life. TRANSLATION: You're about as fun as a stick in the eye.
B) You must not go through this experience of being flaked on very much or you would have figured it out by now. What, this is the first time you've been flaked on? Get over it. TRANSLATION: You're a loser.
C) If you HAVE been flaked on before and STILL react this way, it tells her that insecure anger is where you react from, and she knows what THAT means about you. (I don't need to translate this one, do I?)
After all, what kind of guy isn't even phased by a woman flaking on him?
ANSWER: A man who has other options in his life.
Q&A
p.s. you like red or white wine?