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I was with my g/f on Friday night (we been together for about a month and a half) and she kept saying she wanted to tell me something but didn't want to ruin anything.I kind of new what she was getting at, and because the feeling was not mutual i told her to tell me when she was ready.

She told me she loved me later that evening but because i don't love her i didn't really know how to reply to this.

I mean i do like her and we get along great but i don't feel about her that way (yet). Maybe i just don't want to let her in as i had a nasty breakup with a girl i really loved and don't want to be hurt again.

How would you guys respond when she tells you she loves you but you don't feel the same.
 
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Show your appreciation with a hug/kiss? Explain that you really like her but you do not feel like that so easily?

To be honest, I have no clue about this one. Altho I'd say if you are in love with her, you might want to, uhm, at least show some form to acknowledge her, even tho it's not by returning the same words.
 
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SandHawk said:
Show your appreciation with a hug/kiss? Explain that you really like her but you do not feel like that so easily?

To be honest, I have no clue about this one. Altho I'd say if you are in love with her, you might want to, uhm, at least show some form to acknowledge her, even tho it's not by returning the same words.
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Thats kind of what i done i just gave her a hug when she said it, but she said it a few other times the next day and i acknolodged it but it was just a bit dtrange as i couldnt really reply to her.
 
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I'd respond with "I know" in a ****y/funny tone, then kiss her or give her a knowing smile, then get back to what I was doing
 
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Ok thanks for the advice guys i will use these, if she says anything about me not saying the same to her ill just say i dont feel that way yet or like sandhawk said about not falling for her that easy.
Cheers Guys
 
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When she says, "I love you M-Piece."

Tell her "you better" with a sly smirking chuckle and leave it at that.
 
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SO no one see's a red flag here? How emotionally stable is a girl to fall in love and announce it after 6 weeks? tread with caution with this one. You may actually BE so much better than her other BF's that she proclaims her love in 6 weeks-but what are the chances?
 
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Thats what i thought she said it to quick really i saw it coming and didnt want her to say it just coz i didnt feel the same back. i feel orkward when she says it to me now as i dont feel the same back.

Would you guys say that when you tell a girl you love them that you lose your mystery and edge?

I belive that the word is used way to much by some people and it just becomes meaningless.
 
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1. 6 weeks is NOT too quick for red flags to go up for a girl saying she loves someone, completely depends on their relationship. Reality TV shows last 4 weeks and people fall in love

2. you are in a relationship already, stop the pickup tactics of being mysterious and all that bull****

3. the route you will have to take sooner or later is, telling her exactly what you told us,

"your not sure of the label you want to give yet, but you do like her a lot, you just have your ex gf in the back of your mind, along with how much you loved her, and how bad you were hurt."

don't play with a girls emotions and just avoid the questions with the above advice.
 

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masterpiece said:
Thats what i thought she said it to quick really i saw it coming and didnt want her to say it just coz i didnt feel the same back. i feel orkward when she says it to me now as i dont feel the same back.

Would you guys say that when you tell a girl you love them that you lose your mystery and edge?

I belive that the word is used way to much by some people and it just becomes meaningless.
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How old are you/her? I would guess young. Yes it is a red flag for me, but I wouldn't run, I would just set the boundries. (PENIS+KNIFE = BAD!)


I would reply with "I also love juice"
 
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How old are you/her? I would guess young. Yes it is a red flag for me, but I wouldn't run, I would just set the boundries. (PENIS+KNIFE = BAD!)
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Im 22 and she is nearly 21.
I like to think i set the boundarys in relationship and i want to keep it this way but i know what love can do to someone as i have experienced it before, but i have learnt from that and wont fall into being a total nice guy again and lose control.

1. 6 weeks is NOT too quick for red flags to go up for a girl saying she loves someone, completely depends on their relationship. Reality TV shows last 4 weeks and people fall in love

2. you are in a relationship already, stop the pickup tactics of being mysterious and all that bull****

3. the route you will have to take sooner or later is, telling her exactly what you told us,

"your not sure of the label you want to give yet, but you do like her a lot, you just have your ex gf in the back of your mind, along with how much you loved her, and how bad you were hurt."

don't play with a girls emotions and just avoid the questions with the above advice.
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This is good advice and it pretty much hit the nail on the head for me, think i need to stop worry so much about what im doing and just enjoy being with her.
And if she does every say about me not loving her i will say what you said to me.


"your not sure of the label you want to give yet, but you do like her a lot, you just have your ex gf in the back of your mind, along with how much you loved her, and how bad you were hurt."
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Thanks
 
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How old are you/her? I would guess young. Yes it is a red flag for me, but I wouldn't run, I would just set the boundries. (PENIS+KNIFE = BAD!)
I would reply with "I also love juice"
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A girl is making a big deal out of telling you, she loves you, enough to tell him "i have to tell you something" a day or so before, she finally has the courage to tell you, she loves you, and you respond with "I also love juice"?

Are you insane?

Original poster, do NOT follow this advice.
 
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the305 said:
I girl is making a big deal out of telling you, she loves you, enough to tell him "i have to tell you something" a day or so before, she finally has the courage to tell you, she loves you, and you respond with "I also love juice"?

Are you insane?

Original poster, do NOT follow this advice.
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Consistentantly womanly advice. I suspect this poster has high levels of estrogen. There is wise and experienced advice being given to you here, along with false misdirection. It is up to you to weed out the weakness. The bad advice might sound nicer to the ear and what you want to hear, but its going to lead to failure.

From my experience, theres not much you can do. Play it down. This is definitely way too early. Girls that over dramatize everything and are addicted attention do this. Everything in their life is drama and super amazing or incredibly terrible.

Dont be fooled by her words, the faster it goes up the faster it comes crashing down. Dont say it back to her yet, too easy and too much rush for no reason. You have no obligation to ever say it back to her, and it will not really harm your relationship if u dont. You have no reason to love someone so soon, its nothing but infatuation and the rush of emotions of happiness with someone new. Get back to earth and keep your eyes open.
 

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MasterPiece: take my advice.. do not listen to Ease if you want to keep your relationship.

Ease: is english your native language.. because I dont think you understand it. When in the hell do people dating for more then a month.. one of them make a big deal out of showing their feelings. she finally says "i love you" and you are telling this guy "don't believe her" and shes addicted to attention and everything in her life is about drama. LMAO!@#

I really hope that was a joke and you're not serious, but if you are serious thats disturbing and you need a reality check, i suggest getting off the forums as step number 1.
 
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Ease said:
Consistentantly womanly advice. I suspect this poster has high levels of estrogen. There is wise and experienced advice being given to you here, along with false misdirection. It is up to you to weed out the weakness. The bad advice might sound nicer to the ear and what you want to hear, but its going to lead to failure.

From my experience, theres not much you can do. Play it down. This is definitely way too early. Girls that over dramatize everything and are addicted attention do this. Everything in their life is drama and super amazing or incredibly terrible.

Dont be fooled by her words, the faster it goes up the faster it comes crashing down. Dont say it back to her yet, too easy and too much rush for no reason. You have no obligation to ever say it back to her, and it will not really harm your relationship if u dont. You have no reason to love someone so soon, its nothing but infatuation and the rush of emotions of happiness with someone new. Get back to earth and keep your eyes open.
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Jesus christ, did you guys get picked on so much you can't figure out when someone is joking?

You think "You better" is a better response? Here is a tip - it doesn't matter, she is (like you said) an over emotional, probably NEEDY chick to start saying this.. or, SHE IS YOUNG AS HELL AND INEXPERIENCED. Either case, NOT A GOOD SIGN. Hence he has two options: say "I love you too" and totally F*ck him. Or do nothing, say whatever, and see if she explodes in his face and cut her off, or see if she is cool with him taking his time.

I don't have the time to spell all this out each time, read and think between the lines.
 
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MasterPiece: take my advice.. do not listen to Ease if you want to keep your relationship.

Ease: is english your native language.. because I dont think you understand it. When in the hell do people dating for more then a month.. one of them make a big deal out of showing their feelings. she finally says "i love you" and you are telling this guy "don't believe her" and shes addicted to attention and everything in her life is about drama. LMAO!@#

I really hope that was a joke and you're not serious, but if you are serious thats disturbing and you need a reality check, i suggest getting off the forums as step number 1.
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Stop taking drugs kid.

You are posting bull****, dont do it. Im deadly serious.
 
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Stop taking drugs kid.

You are posting bull****, dont do it. Im deadly serious.
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LOL, internet tough guy. You gonna fly over here and kick his A$$? Come on big mouth.. oh wait you can't even get out of UK right now. Guess you are SOL, son.
 
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When she says she love you, you say "I know". Nothing more, nothing less. My parents have been married 35 years, he said I love u like twice, she still chases him around at their age. Never say I love you first, never say it more than maybe once every two years, if ever. SHOW you feel the same, NEVER VERBALIZE, maybe rarely.
 
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