"I can't wait for tomorrow." & tonight she flakes..

I can't f*cking believe this ****. I am so ****ing offended by this broad right now I can't even begin to start. It's not as much that I even give a sh!t about this girl - more about the principal.

Onto the story - I met this chick a few weeks ago at a party. We played a bunch of beer pong games together and there was quite a bit of kino. She has mutual friends with my cousin who I was with that night, I had not known her or anyone at the party other than my cousin prior to this. At the end of the night, I number close and shoot her a text like 4 days later during the week.

The texts go well and she tells me that she is going on vacation, but can't wait to hang out when she gets back. I send her one text while she is on vacation (I hadn't known she left yet) and she doesn't reply for like 4-5 days. Out of the blue, she texts me and says "OMG I am so sorry I didn't reply - my cell died when I was on vacation! I was dying!"

So at this point I am thinking damn, this is a nice prospect. She got home on a Friday. On Saturday, I told her that I would be in her area she should text me if shes going out. I didn't really make plans with her - was going out with my cousin and didn't care if she came out or not. Anyways, that Saturday night she texts me at like 10pm asking where I was at. I tell her I was out partying in her area and that I could pick her up if she wanted to go out. She replies a few hours later saying that her mother wouldn't let her out, but she badly wanted to hang out. Not exactly a flake, because I didn't make plans with her at all, but she probably could have made more of an effort.

Anyways, the next few days (basically this current week) she is blowing up my phone with texts. She asks what I am doing one night and I tell her I am out playing beer pong. She makes some comment like "i wanna play!". I ask her when we are going to play again, she replies "you tell me". I basically tell her the next time I am out there we will, but I wasn't sure when that would be. And I tell her that we should do something else together just her and I. She tells me she is free ANYTIME this week. This was on like Monday, I tell her I am free Thursday (tonight) and we make plans to see eachother. Yesterday, she was texting me "I can't wait for tomorrow," "I am very excited about tomorrow".

Onto tonight - I was busy all day, she texted me in the morning that 6pm was good for her. I tell her I am busy, that I could pick her up at 7pm. She tells me okay, but I might have to pick her up at her friends to text her at about 7 and she would let me know. I text her at like 5:30 asking where I am picking her up. No response. At 6:30 I text her again, again no response.

From "I am super excited about tomorrow" and "I can't wait for tomorrow" to flaking. I don't ****ing get it. Is she that big of an attention *****? Really? ****ing broads man. So disrespectful it's not even funny. I want nothing to do with this b!tch, but I am curious what her excuse will be. It's now like 8:45 and she still hasn't replied. I am waiting for the excuse. Would you guys call this girl out or just flat out delete her number? I deleted it already, but may shoot her one more text to call her out on her BS.

Cliffs:

- Meet a chick at a party.
- Blows my phone up with texts saying she wants to see me.
- Yesterday, tells me she can't wait for tomorrow and our get together.
- Tonight she flakes with no excuse. Just completely ignored me.

I'm guessing she's young, and she sounds like a huge attention wh0re. DO NOT CALL HER OUT OR SHOW SHE AFFECTED YOU. The trick to banging an attention wh0re is to NOT give them what they want...ATTENTION. Just ignore her. She'll text again making up some dumb excuse why she didn't text back, but don't reply. Make her start chasing you. Stop jumping through her damn hoops and knock her off her pedestal by not giving a sh!t about her 'childish games'

Ignoring a girl/walking away is man's greatest source of power and pride

The above poster made your very best response to this situation. I have been in this situation SO many times and screwed it up by pursuing the girl, trying to get her to explain why she flaked, etc.... The bottom line is until we see ourselves as being the prize, and ourselves as being the highest quality, we're giving away all our power.

Chicks flaking and acting immature has very little to do with you and everything to do with them being too immature and often them feeling too inadequate to meet you on your level. They also do it to generate a response and see what you're made of. The key is to spin new plates and not to let it affect you. And to not respond, text, call or chase them and reward them with ANY attention whatsoever for their behaviors.

It's simple, yet one of the most difficult parts of the game to Master. And that is, the art of becoming unavailable.

what the hell is wrong with YOU?

Why didn't you CALL her before leaving your house? CALL CALL CALL

everything you did was through text........to do EVERYTHING through text is such a pvssy maneuver, I KNOW that you were afraid to actually talk to her on the phone, I can SMELL the fear that you had when it came to calling her.......I bet should could smell the fear too, that's why she flaked.

1. Why don't you grow some balls and call her rather than text her?
2. Why did you txt her during her vacation? Great way to give a hor the satisfaction of knowing you are thinking about her by not being able to restrain yourself and re-initiate contact till after she gets back! She was probably saying to herself "oh he's missing me already ha!"
3. You not only text her on vacation but txt her again a day after she comes back. Give this b|tch a break let her contact you or at least give her some time to settle back in brother!

You pretty much came out looking very anxious with this girl. I can tell because of a similar experience I had. I tried to set up a date with a girl who later revealed she was going to see her parents for vacation then come back. Then I was desperate to try to set up a date for after she came back before she even left. I learned the lesson the hard way I should have just said "have a nice vacation" and re-initiated contact/let her contact me sometime after she got back. You don't want to give them the impression that you missed them but rather the opposite (make em think you didn't even know they were gone!)

This is what we get when we give them too much attention and seem too anxious. The moment they know you want them they lose interest.

Rescue Mission said:

what the hell is wrong with YOU?

Why didn't you CALL her before leaving your house? CALL CALL CALL

everything you did was through text........to do EVERYTHING through text is such a pvssy maneuver, I KNOW that you were afraid to actually talk to her on the phone, I can SMELL the fear that you had when it came to calling her.......I bet should could smell the fear too, that's why she flaked.

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If this girl is older, possibly..

But, if it's a young girl like 17-20. Very unlikely this is the case, IMO. If the chick wanted to see him as bad as she claimed, I don't think a phone call would have made a difference. Especially, when he mentioned he was busy during the day to her. Young girls like to text anyway.

How old is this girl? I am going to guess like 18-19. Which this type of stuff is very common. There are a million reasons why she could have flaked. Who the fvk knows. You will find out soon enough. Don't respond. Wait for the phone call / 2nd text. I am going to guess the first text comes tomorrow and the 2nd during next week.

This is standard **** brother. Don't let it faze you. Keep spinning plates.

CantTouchMyStyle said:

I don't think a phone call would have made a difference. Especially, when he mentioned he was busy during the day to her. Young girls like to text anyway.

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You are not trying to be another girl you want to be a man. Calling a woman lets her hear your voice and that gets her thinking about you in ways texts don't.

You want to be another one of her girlfriends? text her. If you want to set yourself apart you call her and set the frame.

f283000 said:

You are not trying to be another girl you want to be a man. Calling a woman lets her hear your voice and that gets her thinking about you in ways texts don't.

You want to be another one of her girlfriends? text her. If you want to set yourself apart you call her and set the frame.

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I am not reading the entire novel again, but I don't think he specifically stated whether or not he had ever talked to her on the phone. I am assuming he did.

I think it's acceptable if he didn't speak to her on the phone the day of the "date"

Most of us have been there. It's happened to me a LOT before I learned. Like others have said, she sounds like the classic attention wh0re. You can never rely on girls like that. Developing any kind of emotional attachment or building up your hopes with such girls is asking for trouble and they will drag your confidence through the dirt if you let them.

Even if you win their attention by playing it cool, it will be short lived. Once you have boosted her ego, she's happy and will move on to the next guy.

Best solution is just to move on and ditch her.

Forget this girl, man. Flaking is a massive sign of disrespect. She doesn't value your time.

Don't contact her. She will most likely contact you soon enough, and she'll have some bullsh!t excuse no doubt.

Even if she says sorry I wouldn't give her a second chance just so she can do it again. Remember, fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.

And it doesn't matter what she said / says. Always judge her by actions, not words. She's just a common attention wh0re.

I agree that calling on the phone is more 'manly', but I've personally gotten innumerable hookups from just texting girls, especially those in the 18-25 bracket. You can't just assume that calling instead of texting is going to change a girl from flake to cvm-salivating wh0re.

WhitePimp and Can'tTouchMyStyle are spot on!

It doesn't matter if you text or call them. A girl at this age, texting would be more to your benefit. The "Its more manly to call" deal is just ridiculous. C'mon guys, women aren't THAT critical if we text or call them. They're more critical during the meetup. Are you more concerned about being more manly OR are you more concerned about setting a meetup? I'd take the latter.

Welcome young padawan, prepare to experience more of these. Think 1 flake is bad? Your just getting started. The best in field have dealt with this numerous times. She, as the other guys said, was definitely an A.W. who obviously is not secure with herself and likes to play games. That says alot about these women. They're frustrated they can't meet the guys they truly want but at the same time try to play games. Don't forget, they also try to convince themselves that they are with guys they really want. But if that was the case, then there'd be no need for them to be like this. A secure woman, even at her age which is rare, would just tell you: Sorry, I'm just not interested or No Thanks rather than lead you on.

But here's the thing, if you thing your pissed and upset now, imagine when it's done to women. This girl here would get DEVASTATED when this happens. I'm talking they get very drunk and go in tears when they are flaked on or rejected by a guy they want. They can dish but can't get dished back to. Its why they're not worth dating. I know, some secure women will sometimes play games since its in a woman's nature, but there are some who are only worth hooking up and nothing more. Then some complain, "Why don't any guys want to date me?" And they dont' realize its cuz they just aren't worth dating.

My friend, feel these emotions your feeling right now. Its very natural. Too natural. Once you've done that, its the first step toward improvement. That
s how we get experience and move forward, expecting this.

As another poster said, it's not you but her. Don't be surprised if the next time she sees you with a girl, even if she's a little less cuter, she'll be looking at you alot more or even jealous because she now realizes that your more of a catch than she thought. That's the nature of women i'm afraid!

So keep doing what your doing and from now on...when you expect to meet up with a girl, Have a backup plan just in case it doesn't pan out and hell, even expect that she won't show up UNTIL you see her. This is how one remains apathetic, coming to peace in terms of each girl you plan to meetup with backing out.

Hope this helps

Several years ago I had one flake in similar fashion. I said hell with her and moved on and a couple of weeks later she got in touch with me. WORST mistake ever giving her another shot!!! I guess her options failed and she came my way.

I dated her for about a month and it was a huge disaster. This broad thought I was the CEO of her bar bill!! I stopped it quickly!!

Choose wisely my friend!!

Okay, but this guy was sitting there and texting her over and over as he was being flaked on......I mean, he actually did not even TRY to call when she wasn't replying to his texts, he just kept texting and texting, and stayed away from calling like it was a disease!!!

I am all for texting chicks, I have done that too, I've sent the girls I fvcked dozens and dozens of texts, but DAMN, I still actually called them once in a while too, ESPECIALLY if it was before hanging out just to say "hey i'll be there in 15 minutes" - i mean, that phone call right there, the "i'll be there in 5/10/15 minutes", that is as automatic of a phone call as you can make to a chick, to a friend, to a family member!!!

Who the hell texts "i'll be there in an hour, where do you live?" and then texts "hello, im leaving now so I should be there in 20 minutes, where do you live?".............and then..........just...........sits..........and...........waits.........FOR 2 MORE HOURS.........like a totally PASSIVE PVSSY!!!

I guess I should clarify a few things.

I never went to her house or her neighborhood. I wasn't sitting anywhere waiting for her. I simply texted her a bit before. I was at a buddies house shooting pool and simply just texted her. We have talked on the phone before, just not that day. I didn't feel the need to call her when It was obvious she was flaking. I wasn't going to give her the satisfication.

I never texted her "over and over" I sent two texts. I didn't wait anywhere for 2 hours lmfao. I was at a friends house shooting pool with multiple friends enjoying myself. The flake was just annoying especially after she was texting me earlier in the day about our "date".

And fwiw - still no excuse yet. I am going out tonight and getting laid by another prospect most likely.

Hey, Learn, I'm not sure if you posted on Attractionforums aswell, because I just saw you're thread over there on this flake situation, with a username "Learn".

I also got FLAKED on tonight, I was going to make a thread about it, but I'll just merge it in here. It was my FIRST OFFICIAL RETARDED FLAKE. I consider it one of the most retarded statements a human being can ever make, take note:

"Babe, sorry, I can't make it today, something came up, but cya another day ok xx .."

In those exact words. Something came up? See you another day? Why am I not bothered by it?, because I had a feeling she would, plus I had another date lined up before her. I was probably going to FLAKE HER, but she beat me to it. No skin off my nose, moral here? Have PLAN B at any cost, I've just come back in from a great date with this girl I've been speaking to for 2weeks. Went to see Clash of The Titans, got a Makeout ........................She wants to see me over the course of the Easter Weekend now. As for the bytch who flaked, her LOSS.

Sounds like an attention wh0re.

Perhaps you did something wrong in the initial phase of attraction. Folks, this is why you spin more plates! You need to know that women, even fat ones and ugly ones, got men lined up out the door waiting for their turn. You didn't rank high on this one's priority bracket, so now you're in line.

To call a woman out on her bs needs to be done by actually calling. DOn't text because that's the wussy move.

I'd just let this one go. She just wasn't that into you.

Ever build up something in your head and when it comes time to
actually do it, you're like, nah, forget it.

Like if you said, I am so excited to try surfing this summer, I can't wait! Its going to be awesome. Then when you get down the shore you just end up hanging out with your buds and playing frisbee. You just didn't want it bad enough, you were simply "in the moment" when you were thinking about trying to surf.

I think this is kind of what goes on with these girls. They are a kind of bored with themselves at the time and excitingly cheer on your advances (something new and something to do) only to flake out last minute. That does not in ANY WAY reflect on you being inadequate just like you can't say surfing isn't totally f*cking awesome just because you decided to back out.

So it basically comes down to a few things.

-The girl was just too lazy to put in the effort to meet up.

-She found something else to do that night (as stupid as it may have been), meaning she didn't see meeting a guy as important enough to bother with.

-She really isn't interested in hooking up at the moment, her mind is just
not there. (she accepted your advances only as a "something fun to do" spontaneous reaction, not because she really wants to date)

All these things have NOTHING to do with you. In fact her initial reaction probably showed she thought you were a cool good looking guy but because of reasons listed above, she flaked anyway.

We men don't really understand this as in if a good looking chick approaches us it doesn't matter what state we are in
we will put the effort in because we have to work to get laid. Girls don't, decent looking girls know they can
drag their feet when it comes to dating. They are in the drivers seat. Its just a fact of life.

The solution really is to pursue (takes a lot of effort) Sometimes you have to force the issue
to get what you want (like if your friend dragged you down to the surf shop, rented the board for you, made
you put on your wet suit and said get your a$$ out there)

or

the timing has to be right for her

lakeshore said:

Ever build up something in your head and when it comes time to
actually do it, you're like, nah, forget it.

Like if you said, I am so excited to try surfing this summer, I can't wait! Its going to be awesome. Then when you get down the shore you just end up hanging out with your buds and playing frisbee. You just didn't want it bad enough, you were simply "in the moment" when you were thinking about trying to surf.

I think this is kind of what goes on with these girls. They are a kind of bored with themselves at the time and excitingly cheer on your advances (something new and something to do) only to flake out last minute. That does not in ANY WAY reflect on you being inadequate just like you can't say surfing isn't totally f*cking awesome just because you decided to back out.

So it basically comes down to a few things.

-The girl was just too lazy to put in the effort to meet up.

-She found something else to do that night (as stupid as it may have been), meaning she didn't see meeting a guy as important enough to bother with.

-She really isn't interested in hooking up at the moment, her mind is just
not there. (she accepted your advances only as a "something fun to do" spontaneous reaction, not because she really wants to date)

All these things have NOTHING to do with you. In fact her initial reaction probably showed she thought you were a cool good looking guy but because of reasons listed above, she flaked anyway.

We men don't really understand this as in if a good looking chick approaches us it doesn't matter what state we are in
we will put the effort in because we have to work to get laid. Girls don't, decent looking girls know they can
drag their feet when it comes to dating. They are in the drivers seat. Its just a fact of life.

The solution really is to pursue (takes a lot of effort) Sometimes you have to force the issue
to get what you want (like if your friend dragged you down to the surf shop, rented the board for you, made
you put on your wet suit and said get your a$$ out there)

or

the timing has to be right for her

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Flaking, IMO, makes me have a standpoint like starplayer. You can't force the issue. The girl just wasn't that into you. If she was, she would've made time to meet even if she got a boyfriend. If an excuse was real, she would've made a counter offer. Fact. Just leave this attention wh0re alone.

Starplayer, I'd get you equipped with +1 rep if I spread enough around.

I have an update..

She just called me a few hours ago from a different number. I didn't recognize the number, almost didn't answer it, but decided to. She caught me off guard. I didn't expect her to call, obviously.

She basically tells me that she's sorry, her mom shut off her phone and it won't let her text out, but she can receive texts. Or something to that affect. I wasn't even paying close attention to be honest.

I just shrugged it off like I didn't give a fvck, because I don't now, and said that I was really busy and that maybe I would text her sometime and ended the call.

Her excuse is BS obviously, she called me from a different #, she could have called to tell me, but didn't.

Just a weird situation though.....

I am thinking straight NO CONTACT until she contacts me again?