Hi fellow Don Juans-in-training,
I've got a question for you guys. There's this HB8 I know at college who I really like. That is not to say I suffer from one-itis in any sense; I've always been a bit of a ladies' man and regularly flirt/ get with my fair share of girls. Anyway, she's in the year below me (she's 19, I'm 20), and because we share a lot of interests, we see each other regularly. She has a bf of about 14 months back at home, but it is clear that their relationship has fallen into a bit of a rut. They have split up and got back together several times, they hardly ever see each other in term time, and she is constantly out at parties/ social events which are renowned at my college for being good places for singles to hook up.
About a month and a half ago, I began to pick up vibes that she was interested in me. For a period of about two weeks, I played the classic seduction game as well as I have ever played it. I would try various ****y/ funny routines on her for a few days at a time, neg her constantly, then pull away and avoid her for a day or so, then repeat. It worked a treat and was a lot of fun as well; she became increasingly flirty, touchy-feely and receptive to kino. Basically, she was responding in what this site and others call the “high level of interest” category: she actually asked me to come and see her more often on two occasions (needless to say I played hard to get…), described me as ‘unpredictable’ etc.
Things came to a head at a meal with a group of mutual friends about two weeks ago. I deliberately sat a few seats away from her to see what she would do to get my attention; not surprisingly she spent the whole meal sending flirty messages to me via her girlfriends who were seated between us. After the dinner, we all went out to a bar together. By this point, we were both fairly drunk and she came to sit and flirt in my personal space. When it came to the point when people wanted to go clubbing, I made excuses, told my tipsy/confused HB8 she would have to try harder if she wanted me to go out, and headed back to my room, knowing full well that she would follow. After about 30 minutes, she came to my room, we made small talk for about 10 minutes, and then made out for about 45! We did not have sex: I wanted her to feel she had to get rid of her bf before sleeping with me, and she told me explicitly that she didn’t want to have sex (although in hindsight I’m sure we could have if I had wanted to).
It was whilst making out that I now think I made a crucial mistake: she told me she had had a crush on me for 3 weeks and I (foolishly) admitted that the feeling was mutual. The next day, she seemed very distant, and I was surprised to receive a text that evening along the lines of “LJBF, I have a bf who I love, and with whom things are only bad because we go to college on opposite sides of the country, I need to give him a second chance.” Later the same evening, she came over to verbalise what she had said by text. My response was the standard “I’ve got enough friends.” I wanted to make it clear to her that she was not indispensable to me, and make her realise what she was missing out on.
Two or three days passed of me addressing her in purely perfunctory terms (she sent me various emails asking questions about our mutual hobby which she could have easily answered herself with a bit of thought) and teasing other girls in front of her. I then received a fairly emotional email from her telling me that her feelings for me hadn’t changed, asking me to acknowledge the fact she likes me, saying she misses me more than her bf, and pleading for things to be better between us when we next see each other. In response, I told her that she had made her decision and that I hoped she gets what she wants. Her reply was essentially a repeat of her first email; this I ignored. I refuse to let her string me along whilst she works out that her old bf is a loser- she can’t expect to have her cake and eat it. Two weeks after college broke up for Easter, her FB relationship status is that she is still with her old bf. I have only heard from her in the form of another couple of emails asking pointless questions.
I am in a slight quandary here. I know plenty of girls who I have been gaming for a few months who would gladly go out with me, but I still like this HB8, despite my best efforts to forget about her and see other girls. My plan as things stand is to give her and her joke of a bf until the end of the holidays (2 more weeks) to work out where they stand, then (whether they break up or not) continue my policy of acting in a polite/ perfunctory way towards her whilst doing my best to game other girls in front of her. If she comes round/ acts jealous, great, if not, then it’s her loss.
Any thoughts?
Cheers,
Wodinart
I've got a question for you guys. There's this HB8 I know at college who I really like. That is not to say I suffer from one-itis in any sense; I've always been a bit of a ladies' man and regularly flirt/ get with my fair share of girls. Anyway, she's in the year below me (she's 19, I'm 20), and because we share a lot of interests, we see each other regularly. She has a bf of about 14 months back at home, but it is clear that their relationship has fallen into a bit of a rut. They have split up and got back together several times, they hardly ever see each other in term time, and she is constantly out at parties/ social events which are renowned at my college for being good places for singles to hook up.
About a month and a half ago, I began to pick up vibes that she was interested in me. For a period of about two weeks, I played the classic seduction game as well as I have ever played it. I would try various ****y/ funny routines on her for a few days at a time, neg her constantly, then pull away and avoid her for a day or so, then repeat. It worked a treat and was a lot of fun as well; she became increasingly flirty, touchy-feely and receptive to kino. Basically, she was responding in what this site and others call the “high level of interest” category: she actually asked me to come and see her more often on two occasions (needless to say I played hard to get…), described me as ‘unpredictable’ etc.
Things came to a head at a meal with a group of mutual friends about two weeks ago. I deliberately sat a few seats away from her to see what she would do to get my attention; not surprisingly she spent the whole meal sending flirty messages to me via her girlfriends who were seated between us. After the dinner, we all went out to a bar together. By this point, we were both fairly drunk and she came to sit and flirt in my personal space. When it came to the point when people wanted to go clubbing, I made excuses, told my tipsy/confused HB8 she would have to try harder if she wanted me to go out, and headed back to my room, knowing full well that she would follow. After about 30 minutes, she came to my room, we made small talk for about 10 minutes, and then made out for about 45! We did not have sex: I wanted her to feel she had to get rid of her bf before sleeping with me, and she told me explicitly that she didn’t want to have sex (although in hindsight I’m sure we could have if I had wanted to).
It was whilst making out that I now think I made a crucial mistake: she told me she had had a crush on me for 3 weeks and I (foolishly) admitted that the feeling was mutual. The next day, she seemed very distant, and I was surprised to receive a text that evening along the lines of “LJBF, I have a bf who I love, and with whom things are only bad because we go to college on opposite sides of the country, I need to give him a second chance.” Later the same evening, she came over to verbalise what she had said by text. My response was the standard “I’ve got enough friends.” I wanted to make it clear to her that she was not indispensable to me, and make her realise what she was missing out on.
Two or three days passed of me addressing her in purely perfunctory terms (she sent me various emails asking questions about our mutual hobby which she could have easily answered herself with a bit of thought) and teasing other girls in front of her. I then received a fairly emotional email from her telling me that her feelings for me hadn’t changed, asking me to acknowledge the fact she likes me, saying she misses me more than her bf, and pleading for things to be better between us when we next see each other. In response, I told her that she had made her decision and that I hoped she gets what she wants. Her reply was essentially a repeat of her first email; this I ignored. I refuse to let her string me along whilst she works out that her old bf is a loser- she can’t expect to have her cake and eat it. Two weeks after college broke up for Easter, her FB relationship status is that she is still with her old bf. I have only heard from her in the form of another couple of emails asking pointless questions.
I am in a slight quandary here. I know plenty of girls who I have been gaming for a few months who would gladly go out with me, but I still like this HB8, despite my best efforts to forget about her and see other girls. My plan as things stand is to give her and her joke of a bf until the end of the holidays (2 more weeks) to work out where they stand, then (whether they break up or not) continue my policy of acting in a polite/ perfunctory way towards her whilst doing my best to game other girls in front of her. If she comes round/ acts jealous, great, if not, then it’s her loss.
Any thoughts?
Cheers,
Wodinart
