Wise DJs,
First time poster here, although read this board for some time. I humbly come here and raise my hands up in saying i really need some sound advise on my situation...
I was pursuing a women 5 years older than me from last September, she's the architect and i'm the engineer for a project. Initially, when i asked her out she said yes. We had lunch (and had a good time) and proceed to have coffee. However, when i told her my age, her face dropped and i guess in that shock the whole thing turned a little awkward then. As the date ended, i thought i've kissed my chances goodbye.
But as we meet on the following weeks, i've received more and more positive vibes from her. She would just stare at me and when i asked her "What?", she'd just smile and walk away without saying a word. In fact, at one point i told her "don't be too quick to dismiss this boy" and she replied "i didn't dismiss you" while smiling coyly. So i thought that was game on.
To cut the story short, after couple of calls, messages, cards, Christmas gifts and subtle flirting (calling nicknames) which all she replied... I asked her out again. Last January i brought her to a place where she's never been but always wanted to explore. Suffice to say, she texted me to say she had a good time. I thought it was all going good..
Till 2 weeks ago when i gave her flowers and a homemade card. I was trying to show her i'm serious to take it to the next level. That i wasn't playing around... She was initially happy to receive it, but she said she was "surprised" (BS, she KNOWS i'm pursuing). So i gave her a call the next day, that's where she blew me off. While she admitted to having an interest in me back then (when i said "don't be too quick to dismiss this boy") apparently she changed her mind right after that. She never/couldn't explain why, and i was confused. And it was strange that if she changed her mind then, why then would she still entertain my advances later on?
So as i instinctively did what all DJ has mentioned before, where i told her i don't think i could even be her friend, i decided to do the Ganji (cut off all contacts technique) on her now. A week has passed...
I'll be seeing her for the first time after this incident in 2 weeks time for our project meeting... Should i still hope that through Ganji there's a possibility she would change her mind again and continue with Ganji? And how should i appear to her when i see her then? I'm seeking advise to raise back the interest level... I know many DJs would probably tell me to forget about her... I will. But i'm still wanting to give this girl some grace period. I'd do anything i can to have her change her mind back and realize what a loss she'll be having. She's 30 and younger guys like me are once in a blue moon. Don't know what you got till it's gone....
So, while i do know the rule of thumb is NEVER put her as a priority, but deep down i have that desire to have her come around... Advise please.
First time poster here, although read this board for some time. I humbly come here and raise my hands up in saying i really need some sound advise on my situation...
I was pursuing a women 5 years older than me from last September, she's the architect and i'm the engineer for a project. Initially, when i asked her out she said yes. We had lunch (and had a good time) and proceed to have coffee. However, when i told her my age, her face dropped and i guess in that shock the whole thing turned a little awkward then. As the date ended, i thought i've kissed my chances goodbye.
But as we meet on the following weeks, i've received more and more positive vibes from her. She would just stare at me and when i asked her "What?", she'd just smile and walk away without saying a word. In fact, at one point i told her "don't be too quick to dismiss this boy" and she replied "i didn't dismiss you" while smiling coyly. So i thought that was game on.
To cut the story short, after couple of calls, messages, cards, Christmas gifts and subtle flirting (calling nicknames) which all she replied... I asked her out again. Last January i brought her to a place where she's never been but always wanted to explore. Suffice to say, she texted me to say she had a good time. I thought it was all going good..
Till 2 weeks ago when i gave her flowers and a homemade card. I was trying to show her i'm serious to take it to the next level. That i wasn't playing around... She was initially happy to receive it, but she said she was "surprised" (BS, she KNOWS i'm pursuing). So i gave her a call the next day, that's where she blew me off. While she admitted to having an interest in me back then (when i said "don't be too quick to dismiss this boy") apparently she changed her mind right after that. She never/couldn't explain why, and i was confused. And it was strange that if she changed her mind then, why then would she still entertain my advances later on?
So as i instinctively did what all DJ has mentioned before, where i told her i don't think i could even be her friend, i decided to do the Ganji (cut off all contacts technique) on her now. A week has passed...
I'll be seeing her for the first time after this incident in 2 weeks time for our project meeting... Should i still hope that through Ganji there's a possibility she would change her mind again and continue with Ganji? And how should i appear to her when i see her then? I'm seeking advise to raise back the interest level... I know many DJs would probably tell me to forget about her... I will. But i'm still wanting to give this girl some grace period. I'd do anything i can to have her change her mind back and realize what a loss she'll be having. She's 30 and younger guys like me are once in a blue moon. Don't know what you got till it's gone....
So, while i do know the rule of thumb is NEVER put her as a priority, but deep down i have that desire to have her come around... Advise please.