still heartbroken

so my ex and i have been broken up for 3 weeks now. i was doing great everyday up until last night. we lived together and now im living with my parents to save money. ive been keeping myself busy working out, hnging out with friends, gone out with other girls, and im on match.com. any other advice? i miss her nd in way i really hope she regrets breking u nd is missing me too. any other advice? also any advice on how to suceed on match.com?

Romjuan said:

so my ex and i have been broken up for 3 weeks now. i was doing great everyday up until last night. we lived together and now im living with my parents to save money. ive been keeping myself busy working out, hnging out with friends, gone out with other girls, and im on match.com. any other advice? i miss her nd in way i really hope she regrets breking u nd is missing me too. any other advice? also any advice on how to suceed on match.com?

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I'm in a similar situation in that I just recently moved back with the folks. I'm trying to may college loans and a few others before I get back out completely.

I did put a profile on plentyoffish.com (I have no advice there) but don't know how I will fair due to my current living situation. I would say just focus on moving out of your parents house and once you get back on your feet, worry about dating then.

Online game is hard. she can read your profile and see you are allergic to pets-She has a dream of 2.5 kids and a dog. You are done before you start. ShE can totally dissect your profile,little things turn her off. Several of the profiles on match won't be active. If you don't turn off your profile, match keeps it up,so if you forget-you'll be up there for years. IF she spells humour,colour etc. fair chance she is from Brittain or Nigeria[full of scams-parrents died,living with grandparents,wire me money to visit you]
Get the rest of your life figured out before you look seriously at dating-it's hard to be confident when your life is a wreck.

Romjuan said:

so my ex and i have been broken up for 3 weeks now. i was doing great everyday up until last night. we lived together and now im living with my parents to save money. ive been keeping myself busy working out, hnging out with friends, gone out with other girls, and im on match.com. any other advice? i miss her nd in way i really hope she regrets breking u nd is missing me too. any other advice? also any advice on how to suceed on match.com?

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My solemn advice for you is take a step back and take a look at your life. Life is passing you and us by. There is no guarantee how much longer you will live on this earth, things can change in an instant.

I think it is quite clear that *hoping* and *wishing* she regrets breaking up is a complete waste of your time. She might regret it, and she might not. In the meantime, go live.

Kailex said:

And I hope you are tall and have a good job. It seems that most women will only give you the time of day if you are taller than 6'0 and make more than $100K even if they are only 5'0 and are a part-time employee at Subway.

Good luck.

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Funny but true..oh and you will need a GSOH, all your own hair, a sweet romantic personality who loves walks on the beach and candlelit dinners, and don't forget that a "fit and athletic " body is a minimum requirement . After all, it will be your job to do all the yard work at her place and wash her car while she sits on the couch watching DH DVDs or Grey's Anat. with a huge bag of Dorito's to keep her company.
That is the price you will pay for the 'privilege' of dating a 5' waitress who believes that she is a goddess.

You forgot that said waitress is also chubby and has seen more sausages than the deli chicks at Safeway.

Always be moving forward. Every time you look back at your past with your ex you are wasting time and your life. It's over for a reason. You may not feel it right now but you will in time. The less time you waste pining over her will result in less regret later on. Someday in the future you will look back and see that it was for the best.

Stay busy, enjoy your family, and friends, improve yourself and your life right now. It is the perfect time for these type of things.

Goodluck

Dear Jitterbug,
"said waitress is also chubby and has seen more sausages than the deli chicks at Safeway"Tres drole Jitters,and also right on the hammer.

Romjuan said:

so my ex and i have been broken up for 3 weeks now. i was doing great everyday up until last night. we lived together and now im living with my parents to save money. ive been keeping myself busy working out, hnging out with friends, gone out with other girls, and im on match.com. any other advice? i miss her nd in way i really hope she regrets breking u nd is missing me too. any other advice? also any advice on how to suceed on match.com?

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I feel your pain, but as long as you have this mentality of 'hoping she does this or feels that' will buy you nothing but more pain.

The fact that she will 'feel' or 'do' something about you is irrelevant. Most likely you and her are done, and it's for the better; ESPECIALLY for you.

So even if she 'feels' different in a few months, doesn't necessarily mean your relationship is going to work out. In fact, 99% says it wouldn't. Most of of the time when an ex comes back it is just for affirmation. They'll stick around for a week or two then come up with some crumby excuse why they can't see you anymore.

Trust me. I've been through it SO many times with my ex. I'll stop talking to her for months and just when I'm about to start getting serious with another chick, she'll magically pop into my life and try to drag me back in. When I was young and dumb, I'd take these advances and just end up falling for her again. Then she'd tell me she wants to take a break and we wouldn't talk for another few months.

It was a vicious cycle.

It's in your best interest to forget the ways in which you can touch her emotionally again and make her attracted to you; just FORGET it. If she was attracted to you in the first place, she would have stuck with you. Something must have hit her that said, 'hey I want a different kind of guy in my life.' It happens to the best of us.

And you should be thinking the same thing. 'Hey I want a different kind of girl in my life.'

I don't think jumping back into the relationship game is good right now. And match.com has a lot of that.

If I were you I'd just meet some randoms around town and go for a few k-closes and f-closes. If you jump right back into a relationship now with a woman, you're going to be super-needy. This is another recipe for disaster.

Gain your manhood back, lose the idea of womanly comfort, and become an animal. This is your time to improve yourself as a man and come back better than ever.

I can't tell you the satisfaction I get when my ex sees me now with other women, while I just laugh in her face when she comes at me with those, "But I miss you so much WC2.. give it another chance" lines..

Thanks for the reply wc2. its actually quite ironic that you made this reply tonite because i was doing fine up untill an hour ago. I logged on here to get my mind off missing her and i my post was bumped. Your reply made me feel better. its hard to work on moving forward because its like you have your good days and then your bad days. Ill go three days without missing her, then bam, out of the blue start missing her. all i can think about is her dating some other guy, and that guy touching (what was once) my property. sucks man..