Breakdown of first date...opinions?

Finally met my online lady. Weve been talking for a few months and it happened. We met for coffee. On meeting her I greeted her with a simple kiss on the cheek..she reciprocated. She had the most amazing eyes ..it was easy to keep looking at her. I gave her a warm smile most of the time...90 % . I took her hand gently with mine momentarily and commented on her ring...she didnt mind at all.
I also let her do 90% of the talking. she enjoyed it..
I wanted to end the date first but lost track of time. She had to go back to work. I paid and walked her to the corner from her work. Walking along we chatted I intentionally brush her with my side as we walked...she liked it. At the corner I said Im going the other way.
She said bye and the llook on her face was like she expected a kiss but i stood tall not to kiss her. I said talk soon with a straight face and she stuck a short hand out for a shake...I couldnt leave her hand there so I gave it a little shake and walked away
Whats the next step? Wait a few days before contact? She was a bit bigger than I thought but sexy...

Not bad, sounds like she's into you.

Though I don't understand why you didn't kiss her?

romanticman said:

Whats the next step?

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Grow a pair.

SmoothTalker said:

Not bad, sounds like she's into you.

Though I don't understand why you didn't kiss her?

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I was reading her facial cue and she in split second gave it away that she was expecting it.
However I pulled back so as to create a little uncertainty in her. I believe this is in the dj bible ...never kiss on the first date. Make her hungry... If this dj theory is true then we will find out.
The meet was good then uncertainty in the end...this was my goal.
The next meet if there is one I will go for it.

Mantis Toboggan said:

Grow a pair.

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I was hoping for a helping attitude and as I improve to help others..

I was hoping for a helping attitude and as I improve to help others..

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He was trying to help, he was suggesting you should have kissed her. If you don't start being physical with her, she's going to think you are a wussy, too afraid to kiss her. It is your role as the male to initiate.

When you talk about "DJ theory" and keeping her hungry, that would apply more to making her wait before you contact her again and not being too available. When you are with her you want to provide her with a full emotional experience so she will miss it and want more. This not kissing her business is your brain interfering with your game.

romanticman said:

I also let her do 90% of the talking. she enjoyed it...

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That's the only thing I would have done differently.

I'd rather it be 70/30.

You want to talk a decent amount, as long as what you're saying has substance. ``

If you're an interesting conversationalist women find that very attractive.

Every thing else sounds solid. Good work man.

zekko said:

He was trying to help, he was suggesting you should have kissed her. If you don't start being physical with her, she's going to think you are a wussy, too afraid to kiss her. It is your role as the male to initiate.

When you talk about "DJ theory" and keeping her hungry, that would apply more to making her wait before you contact her again and not being too available. When you are with her you want to provide her with a full emotional experience so she will miss it and want more. This not kissing her business is your brain interfering with your game.

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Thank you. As I have mentioned I have been talking to her for a while. She had mentioned a few talks ago that she doesnt kiss on the first date. Also as I have seen here a guy who holds off for a kiss makes her worry a bit more in herself as a woman. The next time should be great. As a novice don juan I want to put this theory to the test. In saying that I possibly could have blown a second date based on this theory because the date itself went really well. If she really wanted the kiss and didnt get it then I could be toast. Time will tell if its bs or not and I will post it here.

tsmith2334 said:

That's the only thing I would have done differently.

I'd rather it be 70/30.

You want to talk a decent amount, as long as what you're saying has substance. ``

If you're an interesting conversationalist women find that very attractive.

Every thing else sounds solid. Good work man.

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Thanks.I value your feedback. I do know that everything I said she gave a huge smile and giggle. We had a big connection. The date was perfect right until the end where I did not kiss her. This may be the deal breaker but I wanted to put the theory to the test. Either she got tturned off or she will want me more. Time will tell.