Over the passed few years, in actively and consciously meeting women, I have learned a few things. Some of these came as enlightening epiphanies, some came with groans and slaps to the forehead. But they all came with experience. Anyway, here are some things that I have learned over the years:
- It’s supposed to be fun. You can’t and won’t win em all. Get something out of every interaction you have with a woman. Learn something. Entertain yourself with her.
- Be willing to change, but only for yourself.
- It really is a numbers game. Play the numbers, roll with the punches. It’s a roller coaster, ups and downs, baby. “When you’re up, it’s never as good as it seems and when you’re down it seems like you’ll never get up again.” You will.
- “Good things come to those that wait”. Not this time. Good things come to those that act. The 3-second rule works on many levels.
- Silence is a tool. As such, it can be used correctly and incorrectly.
- Social proof is the closest thing to magic you or I will ever see. It can come out of nowhere, and it is self perpetuating. Learn how to use it.
- In general, it is bad form to apologize. For anything. You can admit you were wrong, you can offer to make things right, but don’t apologize.
- There is no such thing as overconfidence. There is such a thing as taking yourself too seriously, however.
- Do not ask permission to do or say anything. Never ask a woman if you can kiss them, hug them, hold them, f*ck them, etc.
- Agreeable is boring.
- Jealousy is a LJBF's best friend.
- Humor covers a multitude of sins. Laughing is an aphrodisiac. Learn to be funny. Listen to comedy albums. George Carlin, Eddie Murphy, Chris Rock.
- The best part of any relationship is the beginning.
- Wishful thinking is suicide.
- A gift should say “I was thinking of you”, not “I was thinking of f*cking you”
- Never ask questions that are designed to find out what she thinks of you. This is from this board, I think. Whoever articulated it that way, props.
- Role reversal is great fun, and it works. Act like she is trying to get into your pants. Play hard to get. Fight fire with fire.
- Persistence is a valid tactic. It can be very rewarding. Remember to keep your sense of humor about it.
- Learn to understand and speak body language. Go people watching. Interact with everyone you meet.
- Nobody likes a complainer. Unless he’s really funny.
- Be romantic, but don’t be a p*ssy. She already has one, what makes you think she wants another?
- Al Green, D’Angelo, Portishead… and candles.
- A fireplace is a worthwhile investment.
- A drop of vanilla extract in your bottle of cologne. One spray on your throat, one on your chest, and a little behind your ears.
- The only thing that matters with a woman is now. What she thought of you 10 minutes ago is probably different from what she thinks of you now and what she might think of you 10 minutes from now. So don’t worry about what she thinks of you.
- You must lead. Even if you don’t know where you’re going. Make it an adventure. Take her hand and lead.
- Touch her first, immediately, briefly. Let the kino progress naturally. Don’t force it.
- Women make a lot of assumptions when they first meet you. A lot more these assumptions than you think are made based on your haircut and your shoes.
- Life isn’t fair and dating is a part of life. Dating, dealing with women, isn’t and isn’t supposed to be fair. Get over it.
- There is no such thing as playing out of your league. Everyone is in the same league. There may be all-stars and scrubs, but even all-stars lose and even scrubs can become all-stars with practice.
- Smoking socially will turn some women off, but will help you meet a lot of other women.
- Women love dogs.
- Take periodic breaks from the game. Focus on your other interests. Get your sh*t straightened out. Do something else, then come back.
- Get her to call you, do you favors, adjust her schedule for you, etc.
- Making and having rules is good, but make sure you and she can stick to them.
- The difference between being congruent and sending mixed signals: Being congruent has to do with who you are. Sending mixed signals is about how you feel about her.
- If you plan to get serious with a woman, there are a few things you should take into account. First, she will turn into her mother. Second, she will turn into her mother.
- Women marry their fathers.
- A woman will test you and keep on testing you. Don't get too comfortable. Stay on your toes.
- Good dancers are good in bed.
- Good kissers are good in bed.
- The “f*ck 10 other women” cure for one-itis usually kicks in long before you get to 10.
- Don’t let flirting drag on. Stop while it’s still fun. Close, or leave and come back.
- Women like sex just as much as we do. They like to talk about it just as much as we do too, maybe even more. But not in the same way.
- “It’s not what you hope for, it’s not what you deserve, it’s what you take.” Take action, get action.
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- It’s supposed to be fun. You can’t and won’t win em all. Get something out of every interaction you have with a woman. Learn something. Entertain yourself with her.
- Be willing to change, but only for yourself.
- It really is a numbers game. Play the numbers, roll with the punches. It’s a roller coaster, ups and downs, baby. “When you’re up, it’s never as good as it seems and when you’re down it seems like you’ll never get up again.” You will.
- “Good things come to those that wait”. Not this time. Good things come to those that act. The 3-second rule works on many levels.
- Silence is a tool. As such, it can be used correctly and incorrectly.
- Social proof is the closest thing to magic you or I will ever see. It can come out of nowhere, and it is self perpetuating. Learn how to use it.
- In general, it is bad form to apologize. For anything. You can admit you were wrong, you can offer to make things right, but don’t apologize.
- There is no such thing as overconfidence. There is such a thing as taking yourself too seriously, however.
- Do not ask permission to do or say anything. Never ask a woman if you can kiss them, hug them, hold them, f*ck them, etc.
- Agreeable is boring.
- Jealousy is a LJBF's best friend.
- Humor covers a multitude of sins. Laughing is an aphrodisiac. Learn to be funny. Listen to comedy albums. George Carlin, Eddie Murphy, Chris Rock.
- The best part of any relationship is the beginning.
- Wishful thinking is suicide.
- A gift should say “I was thinking of you”, not “I was thinking of f*cking you”
- Never ask questions that are designed to find out what she thinks of you. This is from this board, I think. Whoever articulated it that way, props.
- Role reversal is great fun, and it works. Act like she is trying to get into your pants. Play hard to get. Fight fire with fire.
- Persistence is a valid tactic. It can be very rewarding. Remember to keep your sense of humor about it.
- Learn to understand and speak body language. Go people watching. Interact with everyone you meet.
- Nobody likes a complainer. Unless he’s really funny.
- Be romantic, but don’t be a p*ssy. She already has one, what makes you think she wants another?
- Al Green, D’Angelo, Portishead… and candles.
- A fireplace is a worthwhile investment.
- A drop of vanilla extract in your bottle of cologne. One spray on your throat, one on your chest, and a little behind your ears.
- The only thing that matters with a woman is now. What she thought of you 10 minutes ago is probably different from what she thinks of you now and what she might think of you 10 minutes from now. So don’t worry about what she thinks of you.
- You must lead. Even if you don’t know where you’re going. Make it an adventure. Take her hand and lead.
- Touch her first, immediately, briefly. Let the kino progress naturally. Don’t force it.
- Women make a lot of assumptions when they first meet you. A lot more these assumptions than you think are made based on your haircut and your shoes.
- Life isn’t fair and dating is a part of life. Dating, dealing with women, isn’t and isn’t supposed to be fair. Get over it.
- There is no such thing as playing out of your league. Everyone is in the same league. There may be all-stars and scrubs, but even all-stars lose and even scrubs can become all-stars with practice.
- Smoking socially will turn some women off, but will help you meet a lot of other women.
- Women love dogs.
- Take periodic breaks from the game. Focus on your other interests. Get your sh*t straightened out. Do something else, then come back.
- Get her to call you, do you favors, adjust her schedule for you, etc.
- Making and having rules is good, but make sure you and she can stick to them.
- The difference between being congruent and sending mixed signals: Being congruent has to do with who you are. Sending mixed signals is about how you feel about her.
- If you plan to get serious with a woman, there are a few things you should take into account. First, she will turn into her mother. Second, she will turn into her mother.
- Women marry their fathers.
- A woman will test you and keep on testing you. Don't get too comfortable. Stay on your toes.
- Good dancers are good in bed.
- Good kissers are good in bed.
- The “f*ck 10 other women” cure for one-itis usually kicks in long before you get to 10.
- Don’t let flirting drag on. Stop while it’s still fun. Close, or leave and come back.
- Women like sex just as much as we do. They like to talk about it just as much as we do too, maybe even more. But not in the same way.
- “It’s not what you hope for, it’s not what you deserve, it’s what you take.” Take action, get action.
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