Solomon
Master Don Juan
Intro:
I've noticed a trend latley with guys who are getting burned by their Wings or burning them(myself included, getting burned I mean). Not just with community guys but non-community guys as well. To be a good Wingmen one must understand that there underlying rules that are spoken about and that aren't(especially if you are a community guy!). Honestly It's not complicated as they seem and their some basic principles if you follow them which can make you a great wingmen. I've been on both sides of the fence (being a good wing) and also (being a bad wing) and with the experince over time I have aquired here are somethings that helped me become a Good Wingman.
Communciation
Communication is essential when it comes to any foundation in terms of a relationship. Communciacation is essential as well when you out on the field with your wing. You ever see an umpire doing signals to his pitcher at a baseball game? what he is doing is communicaitng to him what he wants done. Whether it's a guy you have known all your life or a guy you just met that night. Communicating with your wing can make the game a whole lot easier. When I say communicating, I'm not necessarily talking stratgey in terms of "ok, I'm going in, i'm gonna neg her, then Dhv and blah blah" I'm talking about picking up on subtle stuff that can help you not only run an interaction better but also help you become a better wing by helping your wing improve. For instance I like to study my wings, to see what their weakness and strengths are. Is he afraid to open? Does go direct a lot? etc etc. Knowing these things can help find a balance when you are in an interaction. One of my wings and I have even use "signals" to let each other know whats up. For instance when I brush my hair with my hand that means "come in right now and save my ass". If I cough it means "time to eject" subtle stuff like this helps. Also body language helps as well, if my wing is standing a certain way or whatever, I can tell if he isn't feeling the chick or what not(this takes time though). You don't have to have this down to a science but talking to your wing, after the night is done and giving each other feedback can help.The more you communicate the better your chemistry is, the better the chemistry is. The better you guys work togther as a team
Opportunity
I read a post by Edger were he was talking about a wing basically not taking a chicks number or whatever. As a good Wing you always look for opportnitiy's to help your Wingman out. The point is there gonna be times when you talk to a girl and she might not like you but she liks your Wing instead. Sometimes you have to put your ego aside and swallow your pride(I'll tak more on this a bit later). For example, A wing and I went out on the field a few months ago. There was a girl who we ran into that I liked, but I never pulled the trigger. So that night I did, however she told me she wasn't into me (ouch) and thought my wing was "cute". Now I could have done what Edger's boy did and make some lame excuse, or been insecure and jealous. However I didn't do any of that, I introduced my wing to the girl and they hit it off. Later that night when we grabbed a bite to eat. I asked my Wing if he number closed her, he said he didn't. So I texted her friend (who I number closed) a message with my Wing's number telling her to text my Wing(which she did). To make a long story short because I decided to do this, he ended up F-closing her that night. Had I not done this my Wing would have never had the opproutnity to even talk to her.
Bros b4 Hoes
This one might as well be called respect. Anytime you do something that's questionable there is a rule that I like to think of which is simple. What would I do if someone did that same thing to me? Amogging in fun is cool but to do so in front of a girl in seriousness is not(or even in fun at times). If you Amogging your bud to build yourself up in front of a target and put him down. That's not cool what so ever. Another thing that's not cool is to try to hook up with a chick that your Wing is clearly interest in. If he is making a move back off, to talk to her as soon as he has his back turned or not in the vincity and trying to get with her is a shady move. In the spirit of competiton there is nothing wrong with having fun, but when you do questionable things to c**ckblock your Wing, your being a bad Wingmen. As I said before in "Opportunity" if you talking to a chick and she isn't feeling you, are you gonna let your ego and pride get in and be jealous and insecure? Or are you gonna come from an abdudance mindset thinking "hey I can't bang her but it's ok cause My wing can, and there tons of other chicks around". Yeah sometimes it stinks that she is into your Wing and not you, but as a DJ with an Abdudnace mentality you realize there so many women around that you will meet another one. And maybe in the future your Wing may return the favor to you.
Fun
When you go out remember your main objective should always be to have fun. Being a Wingman is to enjoy each others company and when it comes to DJing putting each other in postion to succed. Having a Wing can help you so much if you guys push each other to become better DJs not only with your game. But also in life. Women and petty issues shouldn't be the reason for a Wingship or Friendship to go south. I've experinced this/seen this way to many times. At the end of the day there more rules that are underwritten but basically guys, if you have respect for each other and enjoy each others company; half of these issues wouldn't escalate to a point that they become issues.
Sarge on
I've noticed a trend latley with guys who are getting burned by their Wings or burning them(myself included, getting burned I mean). Not just with community guys but non-community guys as well. To be a good Wingmen one must understand that there underlying rules that are spoken about and that aren't(especially if you are a community guy!). Honestly It's not complicated as they seem and their some basic principles if you follow them which can make you a great wingmen. I've been on both sides of the fence (being a good wing) and also (being a bad wing) and with the experince over time I have aquired here are somethings that helped me become a Good Wingman.
Communciation
Communication is essential when it comes to any foundation in terms of a relationship. Communciacation is essential as well when you out on the field with your wing. You ever see an umpire doing signals to his pitcher at a baseball game? what he is doing is communicaitng to him what he wants done. Whether it's a guy you have known all your life or a guy you just met that night. Communicating with your wing can make the game a whole lot easier. When I say communicating, I'm not necessarily talking stratgey in terms of "ok, I'm going in, i'm gonna neg her, then Dhv and blah blah" I'm talking about picking up on subtle stuff that can help you not only run an interaction better but also help you become a better wing by helping your wing improve. For instance I like to study my wings, to see what their weakness and strengths are. Is he afraid to open? Does go direct a lot? etc etc. Knowing these things can help find a balance when you are in an interaction. One of my wings and I have even use "signals" to let each other know whats up. For instance when I brush my hair with my hand that means "come in right now and save my ass". If I cough it means "time to eject" subtle stuff like this helps. Also body language helps as well, if my wing is standing a certain way or whatever, I can tell if he isn't feeling the chick or what not(this takes time though). You don't have to have this down to a science but talking to your wing, after the night is done and giving each other feedback can help.The more you communicate the better your chemistry is, the better the chemistry is. The better you guys work togther as a team
Opportunity
I read a post by Edger were he was talking about a wing basically not taking a chicks number or whatever. As a good Wing you always look for opportnitiy's to help your Wingman out. The point is there gonna be times when you talk to a girl and she might not like you but she liks your Wing instead. Sometimes you have to put your ego aside and swallow your pride(I'll tak more on this a bit later). For example, A wing and I went out on the field a few months ago. There was a girl who we ran into that I liked, but I never pulled the trigger. So that night I did, however she told me she wasn't into me (ouch) and thought my wing was "cute". Now I could have done what Edger's boy did and make some lame excuse, or been insecure and jealous. However I didn't do any of that, I introduced my wing to the girl and they hit it off. Later that night when we grabbed a bite to eat. I asked my Wing if he number closed her, he said he didn't. So I texted her friend (who I number closed) a message with my Wing's number telling her to text my Wing(which she did). To make a long story short because I decided to do this, he ended up F-closing her that night. Had I not done this my Wing would have never had the opproutnity to even talk to her.
Bros b4 Hoes
This one might as well be called respect. Anytime you do something that's questionable there is a rule that I like to think of which is simple. What would I do if someone did that same thing to me? Amogging in fun is cool but to do so in front of a girl in seriousness is not(or even in fun at times). If you Amogging your bud to build yourself up in front of a target and put him down. That's not cool what so ever. Another thing that's not cool is to try to hook up with a chick that your Wing is clearly interest in. If he is making a move back off, to talk to her as soon as he has his back turned or not in the vincity and trying to get with her is a shady move. In the spirit of competiton there is nothing wrong with having fun, but when you do questionable things to c**ckblock your Wing, your being a bad Wingmen. As I said before in "Opportunity" if you talking to a chick and she isn't feeling you, are you gonna let your ego and pride get in and be jealous and insecure? Or are you gonna come from an abdudance mindset thinking "hey I can't bang her but it's ok cause My wing can, and there tons of other chicks around". Yeah sometimes it stinks that she is into your Wing and not you, but as a DJ with an Abdudnace mentality you realize there so many women around that you will meet another one. And maybe in the future your Wing may return the favor to you.
Fun
When you go out remember your main objective should always be to have fun. Being a Wingman is to enjoy each others company and when it comes to DJing putting each other in postion to succed. Having a Wing can help you so much if you guys push each other to become better DJs not only with your game. But also in life. Women and petty issues shouldn't be the reason for a Wingship or Friendship to go south. I've experinced this/seen this way to many times. At the end of the day there more rules that are underwritten but basically guys, if you have respect for each other and enjoy each others company; half of these issues wouldn't escalate to a point that they become issues.
Sarge on