A year and half down the tubes??(logicial DJ's needed!!)

What's up DJ's

I'll try to input as much as I can here.
So my best friend aka My room mate, has been dating this women for a year and half. Now mind you this guy is the "Mystery DJ" always calm, confident, quiet, hard to read, etc etc. While I was in college happy just to get scraps, this guy would spin 10 plates in a summer. But anyway....


My best friend(L) has been super busy with school as of late. There have been some cracks in the relationship from what I could gather. She is a bit insecure even though she is a pretty girl. They had a big blow up a couple weeks ago over a silly video I posted on facebook. Long story short the video is like four months old, and L said jokingly (and drunk) and I quote "Tina I might flirt with some girls tonight" that's it, the chick blew her gasket over it, a silly little vid. I ended up taking it down, but Tina then was sprinigng up "trust", and that she questioned L now.

Fellas, L is as faitfull as a monk who is still a virgin up in mount everest. The guy works part time, comes home and stuides till ****ing 3 o' clock in the morn, wakes up and does the same shiit again. He finnally got fed up, because he, couldn't meet the demands anymore. So he talked to her they decided to scale some things back, and just chill and take a "break" but not a break, if that makes any sense

So last night was Halloween, and she was suppose to come meet L at our spot so they can all go out and meet me and my buddies. L sends me a text at 11:25 saying "she flaked one me, I'm staying home". Whose ass do I see an hour later at the club? yup you guessed it, Tina's ass. She was with her girlfriend, I was happy to see her cause I thought L was with, NOPE, he wasn't. The fellow DJ i was with saw this clear and so did I

So before work I asked L what Tina said. He is like "she just said she wouldn't make it" I showed him the evidence that i got courtsey of The solo Field Cam. This guy is unreactive as can be, but I saw the wind knocked out of him. I mean this chick is a "good girl" hate to use that cliche, and there is she is smiling and cheesing at the club and camara, after telling him she wouldn't go out.

Is it premature to say it's over? can this be salavage? the real trust issue here is this broad lying, maybe I'm over-analysing, but was she projecting her mistrust on him because she already had "mentally existed" the relationship?


Anyway

thoughts appericated

Sometimes chicks need a week to cool off over shyt like that. If its really over between them, I bet it was on its way out before that happened, and that was her 'logical reason' to break it off.

Logically I would say stay out of it. Let the man take his own lumps. You know how women are (or you should). He's been perfect boyfriend, and perfect is boring right? She thought she had his balls in a purse and see the video and he caves in and becomes her bytch right? He should have told her to go to hell right? Instead she now has no respect for him and can run all over him right? You already know the deal. Right?

Warrior74 said:

Logically I would say stay out of it. Let the man take his own lumps. You know how women are (or you should). He's been perfect boyfriend, and perfect is boring right? She thought she had his balls in a purse and see the video and he caves in and becomes her bytch right? He should have told her to go to hell right? Instead she now has no respect for him and can run all over him right? You already know the deal. Right?

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You right I should stay out of this, none of my business
However the dude is my brother, and we have gone through thick and thin, stuff that a lot of friendships don't go through. From the outside looking in, it's easy to assess things, but emotionally you don't know the storm the brother faced, the saracfices he made to be with her and neither do I. He doesn't need my advice, he is a smart cat, but like I said, when feelings are involved even the smartest guy's can make some dumb mistakes.

So yeah I know the deal, and I know he does too, He got caught slippin, even the coolest cat sometimes makes a mistake here and there.....it's part of the game, you let your guard down, the chink in the armor will get exposed

Solomon said:

You right I should stay out of this, none of my business
However the dude is my brother, and we have gone through thick and thin, stuff that a lot of friendships don't go through. From the outside looking in, it's easy to assess things, but emotionally you don't know the storm the brother faced, the saracfices he made to be with her and neither do I. He doesn't need my advice, he is a smart cat, but like I said, when feelings are involved even the smartest guy's can make some dumb mistakes.

So yeah I know the deal, and I know he does too, He got caught slippin, even the coolest cat sometimes makes a mistake here and there.....it's part of the game, you let your guard down, the chink in the armor will get exposed

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Yah. My best friend looks like colin farrell and acts like ever AFC on this board all rolled into one. He opens his mouth for 5 mins and turns off every girl in earshot. I don't even go out with him anymore. He dates the biggest ***** skank bpd wack jobs on earth and they both try to suck me into it as I'm an easy going laid back guy. I learned on his last cheating fiance, stay the hell away from his relationships, nothing but drama. To this day he still asks me did I fvck her, because she likes to play games and say that she'd fvcked all of his friends.

Solomon,

The very first question I have is - why does this matter to you so much that you posted about it? Obviously, this is not your relationship but it's as if you have something at stake. Is it because you think you caught your buddy being lied to by a woman? If so I can understand that. However, I am curious is there something more? Do you think you caused it and are worried about it? Please tell me that you aren't "best friends" with the girl.

As to the situation, you've described him as a guy who can pull 10 plates in short order and is now settled down (as best he can be). I think the YouTube thing just confirmed for her what she already knew - that 'L' will eventually fool around a bit because he's just too young to settle down for good at this young of an age.

They've started the dance. She knows he'll fool around. She'll now start getting attention from other guys to reign him in. He'll eventually feel too pressured and shag the next hottie who doesn't want anything from him but the prize.

Plus, there' really nothing that serious here. You didn't bust her with other guys (assuming you would have mentioned it). She's a woman, in college and it's Halloween. I think there's like 17 people in the entire nation who are in college and don't want to party on Halloween - especially on a Saturday with a full moon.

As the others said, stay out of this stuff. If anything, use her to get more high quality plates for yourself.

She Is A Bpd!!!

UPDATE:

Sinistar, you know what I'll be honest, yeah @ first I was like "WTF no big deal" this all a joke, I figured hell she will even get a good laugh out of this vid thing, but then working late night hours, my over-analyticial mind got the best of me, and I started feeling guilty like "oh shiit" if they break up it's my fault. Last thing I need is my best bud being mad at me over some silly shiit, when this was all a joke

Anyway

The chick is a BPD. Why? My buddy tried talking to her, she wouldn't answer him. He was bummned out knowing it was over, hell he even facebooked messaged her friends cause she was acting out of wack (avoiding him and stuff, showing guilty signals of someone who is cheating)
She has been seeing another guy, get this, two days after the relationship is over, and the new guy is a bum

• Smokes weed
• No job
• NO car
• She picks him up to hang out etc etc
• The guy bums around the place, when she is at class, less then a week after the break up!

How DO i know this? coincedently(sp) a mutual buddy is banging the room mate he is there all the time, so he sees/knows everything. Honestly my buddy (the mutual one) was pissed, he has been in a similar situation and honestly took this personal, her room mate is shocked as well guys, why? this girl is a fuccing good girl(or so we thought) I mean the Sarah Palin type, knamean? anyway my room mate kept saying


Honestly I was suprised, how do you go from a guy going to college, nice car, lives in a nice part of town, to a bum? my buddy also kept saying how cold of a personaity she was. But I never saw that

I advised him and told him, right now she is gong for the "bad boy adventure" and once she figures out these bums ain't worth shiit, she will run back to him. He is like "naw solo, you know me better" but honestly guys he is a bit lit


I told him to chill out, and the best revenge is success

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Just an update

Anytime something doesn't 'add up' meaning someone lies, as happened here, or something seems 'out of place'....things are never or were never as they seem. There is either something to cover up like cheating or there are different intentions on the part of one of the individuals and they never had the same intentions as the other.

L took the relationship WAY too seriously. 110% guarantee if he would've listened to his gut or looked harder he would've realized things with her weren't as they should have been, and he knew it. Guys make this mistake way too much. We always have the chance to break it off first. We are actually more intuitive to these things then women are, believe it or not.

Problem is too many guys fall into the trap once that happens of somehow thinking he can use his mechanical skills and 'fix' things when they weren't ever meant to be fixed in the first place.