This past year a lot of stuff has gone on. I've drastically improved my social circles, and have mad a lot of new friends. more particularly girls. I guess my big issue was growing up and learning to accept myself. I think i've done a pretty good job of that as of late, and once you accept yourself, other people will accept you. The only problem is that I feel like i'm becoming more and more afc. Not anything drastic, like calling everyday, or buying gifts, etc, etc. I'm actually not interested in anyone at the moment, and i think a couple of girls are surprisingly interested in me, but I don't like these girls. What i discovered i'm good at is conversation, and that's what i am. I'm a conversationalist. I can go in public, see a stranger, and befriend that stranger. I used to not have the confidence to do this, but after a while I just took the dive. All of my friends say I'm charismatic, but my best friend that's a girl told me earlier that, "I dont know how to flirt." I thought this was weird, but i went over it in my head and it's true. I really don't.
I talk to girls, I get to know girls, I help girls, but i don't go out of my way. I just like helping people. Like if a girl is doing hw and needs help, i'll go over and teach her how to do it, and people really appreciate that, but i honestly don't know how to put the moves on someone. I used to try REALLY hard, and no success came to it, so one day I said "Fvck it!" and just gave up all together. I decided that I was going to try to develop friendship with people instead, and it's paid off, but i feel like it's time to step it up. I treat every girl i know like my sister, who's only a year younger than me, so i'm always look at as a sort of brother to girls. I've even been told that before.
The first step is shedding that "big brother" persona i have going for me, and I also need to learn where to draw the line. I"m not an ******* so when i say some stuff, girls take offense to it. I told one of my friends that she needed to wear more makeup one day, and i told another girl she was 'kinda big' too. How do i go about doing this? To me, the whole kino thing make me uncomfortable, and to be honest, the actual thought of having a girl friend makes me uncomfortable. I keep making excuses telling myself i'm not mature enough for anything of the sort, but I know that these excuses will hold me back.
I always thought that flirting was indirectly saying, "I like you" and I'm pretty terrible at conveying that idea. How do I get better at it? What are some examples. I always insult whoever it is, and feel like an ******* afterwards.
I talk to girls, I get to know girls, I help girls, but i don't go out of my way. I just like helping people. Like if a girl is doing hw and needs help, i'll go over and teach her how to do it, and people really appreciate that, but i honestly don't know how to put the moves on someone. I used to try REALLY hard, and no success came to it, so one day I said "Fvck it!" and just gave up all together. I decided that I was going to try to develop friendship with people instead, and it's paid off, but i feel like it's time to step it up. I treat every girl i know like my sister, who's only a year younger than me, so i'm always look at as a sort of brother to girls. I've even been told that before.
The first step is shedding that "big brother" persona i have going for me, and I also need to learn where to draw the line. I"m not an ******* so when i say some stuff, girls take offense to it. I told one of my friends that she needed to wear more makeup one day, and i told another girl she was 'kinda big' too. How do i go about doing this? To me, the whole kino thing make me uncomfortable, and to be honest, the actual thought of having a girl friend makes me uncomfortable. I keep making excuses telling myself i'm not mature enough for anything of the sort, but I know that these excuses will hold me back.
I always thought that flirting was indirectly saying, "I like you" and I'm pretty terrible at conveying that idea. How do I get better at it? What are some examples. I always insult whoever it is, and feel like an ******* afterwards.