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Master Don Juan
Women are attracted to a guy who is persistent, but they are put off by a guy who is pushy. Most men don't know the difference.
The key is understanding that women are fickle. They will reject you one day, and then lust after you the next. That is simply part of being female. Men will remember a rejection forever, but the woman will have forgotten.
Other men are simply pushy. They don't give women enough time to have a change of thought. As soon as they are told no, then they immediately ask the same thing again. That is the difference between pushy and persistent. The latter can handle rejection without turning a blind eye to the same girl later, after she might be feeling different.
Obviously, this is not to encourage oneitis - it is more to help with plate-spinning. Sometimes, a girl will reject you, so you give her space and go talk to other girls, that is the right thing to do - just remember to come back to that girl later. Forget the earlier rejection, and throw out a light and different proposal from last time. Sometimes the same girl will be like a completely different person - you just caught her at a better time.
It helps to not take rejection personally. Once you have been told no by the same girl who later told you nothing but yes, you begin to understand that women change their mind a lot. That is the female prerogative. I have seen t-shirts that say 'I have the pvssy; I make the rules.' And I agree. But there is plenty of pvssy, and each pvssy's set of rules change all the time.
So, when she says "no"...or just ignores you, which is even worse...she means it. You lost. You fail. It hurts, I know. Leave the poor girl alone, because you just struck out. Walk away and go talk to other girls...but don't hate her for hurting you. It is hard to do, but you have to leave it behind. After time has passed, she might feel very differently, but that can only be taken advantage of if you let the first rejection go.
Pushy is getting offended and firing back insistence. Patient is understanding women. Don't get offended. Understand that women are fickle, and realize that you can still keep them on the shelf for when the tide of the emotions shifts back into your favor.
The key is understanding that women are fickle. They will reject you one day, and then lust after you the next. That is simply part of being female. Men will remember a rejection forever, but the woman will have forgotten.
Other men are simply pushy. They don't give women enough time to have a change of thought. As soon as they are told no, then they immediately ask the same thing again. That is the difference between pushy and persistent. The latter can handle rejection without turning a blind eye to the same girl later, after she might be feeling different.
Obviously, this is not to encourage oneitis - it is more to help with plate-spinning. Sometimes, a girl will reject you, so you give her space and go talk to other girls, that is the right thing to do - just remember to come back to that girl later. Forget the earlier rejection, and throw out a light and different proposal from last time. Sometimes the same girl will be like a completely different person - you just caught her at a better time.
It helps to not take rejection personally. Once you have been told no by the same girl who later told you nothing but yes, you begin to understand that women change their mind a lot. That is the female prerogative. I have seen t-shirts that say 'I have the pvssy; I make the rules.' And I agree. But there is plenty of pvssy, and each pvssy's set of rules change all the time.
So, when she says "no"...or just ignores you, which is even worse...she means it. You lost. You fail. It hurts, I know. Leave the poor girl alone, because you just struck out. Walk away and go talk to other girls...but don't hate her for hurting you. It is hard to do, but you have to leave it behind. After time has passed, she might feel very differently, but that can only be taken advantage of if you let the first rejection go.
Pushy is getting offended and firing back insistence. Patient is understanding women. Don't get offended. Understand that women are fickle, and realize that you can still keep them on the shelf for when the tide of the emotions shifts back into your favor.