First Girlfriend Ever contacts me via Facebook

Any bets on where she is going with this?

A few facts-

1) Certified h0. Lied about number of sex partners. Admitted to living with an older attorney dude as an "arrangement" when she was 19. Believed to have fukked a friend of mine when we were together. Confirmed that she cheated with a mutual acquaintance.
2) Married. One kid. 39 years old. Stay at home mom for the past 3 years but currently looking for a job.
3) Asks a bunch of questions about me. Asks for my number so we can "catch up".
4) Saw my facebook pics and commented that I am a "party animal" and how I am "not the guy she used to know".

Is she-

a) Feeling nostalgic and looking up random people from her past
b) Feeling middle age creeping up and looking for attention from old flings
c) Feeling neglected, unappreciated, bored, [insert excuse to cheat here]
-or-
d) Feeling horny and looking for a quick score (the inner h0r rearing its ugly head) to satisfy a passing urge

Place yer bets gentlemen.....

I'd bet on:

e) Who gives a flying hairy rat's arse about a used up 39 y.o ho?

But since you don't have that, I'd say it's b) & c).

Probably isn't happy in her marriage anymore and is looking for some attention and validation.

I go with something in between b, c, and d.

The first question is, "Why is a 39 yr old MARRIED housewife on facebook looking up old boyfriends"?

Why am I even posting about this? Well, anyone who knows me can tell you that an interesting social experiment is right up my alley.

I'm going to let this play out and see where it goes. I am very curious to see her motivations.

Eh, just another woman who I can't even fathom anyone wanting to marry. Another bullet dodged for me. In a few weeks I am going out of town and will be visiting another one who happens to have a b/f.

Women are amoral creatures, to put it kindly.

How's the mileage on her Str8up?

She all used up or has she kept herself in top of the line condition??

STR8UP said:

Any bets on where she is going with this?

A few facts-

1) Certified h0. Lied about number of sex partners. Admitted to living with an older attorney dude as an "arrangement" when she was 19. Believed to have fukked a friend of mine when we were together. Confirmed that she cheated with a mutual acquaintance.
2) Married. One kid. 39 years old. Stay at home mom for the past 3 years but currently looking for a job.
3) Asks a bunch of questions about me. Asks for my number so we can "catch up".
4) Saw my facebook pics and commented that I am a "party animal" and how I am "not the guy she used to know".

Is she-

a) Feeling nostalgic and looking up random people from her past
b) Feeling middle age creeping up and looking for attention from old flings
c) Feeling neglected, unappreciated, bored, [insert excuse to cheat here]
-or-
d) Feeling horny and looking for a quick score (the inner h0r rearing its ugly head) to satisfy a passing urge

Place yer bets gentlemen.....

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Its good to know that has men learn from there mistakes, women never seem to -

Whilst men 'progress' women just 'regress' and thats the way it is.

Your post can be applied to probably most men who started out, i know if I met some of my Ex partners who i settled for in my AFC days, they would probably be like this chick or single mothers, or i dread to think what! tbh about it.

Men seem to pick themselves up and improve, women just keep doing the same thing over again, until BAM the clocks ticking, those long legs, big boobs aint so dam hot at 39 now are they?

Does not suprise me in the least, she probably thinks your the same guy who settled for her S*** way back when - how she is wrong and how women can not understand that Men when they date women like this, when we leave them, we improve, we expand, we grow, whilst there still the same and thats the crunch - Sounds like she is bored and wants some fun, with a safe option to me -

Its known i was married, would i ever go back to my ex - even though i get emails and texts from here now and again? Nope never, would not happen because Men change, we change and we become so much more and we out grow these people whilst there still stuck in the time-warp of life - and thats the best thing about being male - the older we get the better we become.

Though i've dated a good few quality women too, still even them you out-grow and always seem to drift up the ladder rather then down and a 39y old married women is not something men like me have on our radars, unless she is smoking hot with a nice firm as* for her age.

She is probably wanting some action and just complimenting you to get your attention.

And she has an history of cheating, she wont be faithful to the hubby, so it comes has no suprise she wants something out of the marriage, be thankful your not the smuck who put that ring on her finger.

She is doing the same thing she has always done, some poor afc married her and gave her a kid - are you doing the dirty's on him? You and every other bloke that took her eye.

Avoid - This is too much drama.

I'm placing my bet on:


b) Feeling middle age creeping up and looking for attention from old flings



Cheers!

Text msg me her name, STR8UP. I want to take a look before deciding on an option.

Id vote for trying to catch the one that got away[only one smart enough to know what she is], so c or d

Deep Dish said:

Text msg me her name, STR8UP. I want to take a look before deciding on an option.

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Haha....that's not fair to the rest of the kids. Ok maybe later....

As far as how well she has held up....well, it's hard to say from her pics but she's definitely put on a few pounds. Face wise she doesn't look like she's almost 40.

This kind of thing just never ceases to amaze me. even if her intentions are 100% innocent (when are they ever??....women KNOW the score with this kind of thing), I know if my wife was looking up old b/f's on facebook we wouldn't be married for very long.

I know, I know, they aren't ALL like that. (Only the vast majority of them.)

Every month or so I watch this whole thing play out with me or with one of my friends. My business partner's first girlfriend found him on myspace awhile back. If I remember correctly her husband made her delete the account, but now she's back on, sending him all sorts of messages and crap.

Chick who is gonna be my tour guide for a couple of days when I go on my trip next month- she tells me she is thinking about moving in with her b/f soon. We email back and forth, then she starts texting me. Tells me that she misses me, tells me she had a dream about me, blah, blah.

It's a tough, cruel world out there. If you insist on holding women in high regard and try to maintain the same expectations you had for them when you had an overly romanticized view of the world you're in for a long life of disappointment cause women with morals are more rare than 5 carat flawless diamonds.

anyone who knows me can tell you that an interesting social experiment is right up my alley.

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At least 5 years ago I read an article in Psychology Today about how the internet has made cheating much easier to do and how this has contributed to the increase in our society of women cheating. How it is that they look up old classmates and boyfriends and first loves - out of curiosity even - even when these women are in admittedly satisfying relationships - and one thing leads to another (AKA "THe Slippery Slope").

It's no longer an experiment. It's already well documented.

Here's some more about that by Dr. Glass, prior to her death, she was working on how the net has served up affairs
http://www.shirleyglass.com/quizfriendship.php

I'm going with b ) .....She's getting older, becoming less attractive and is now finally feeling a deprivation in male attention.
Like some of the other posters mentioned; one of the reasons I love being a man is that I can keep improving while the girls that rejected me in the past will be on the decline.

b) or c) for sure. What's a) doing there? I hope you aren't giving women too much credit now :nono:

jonwon said:

and thats the best thing about being male - the older we get the better we become.

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ƒuck yeah

She looked you up out of pure nostalgia. Everybody on facebook is looking up old flames. Just to see what could've been.

Depending on what she saw and your interaction with her then her intentions could be anything at this point.

Keep us updated and good luck

She Im'ed me on facebook today.

Started talking about random stuff. Seems like she might not be doing so well financially, had to get rid of her sportscar, looking to go back to work after being a housewife for several years.

Asked if I was married.

Told me that she is no longer "wild", and that she still likes to have fun but "in a nice way".

Two minutes later she makes a sexual comment about something completely non-sexual, then she tells me she still has a dirty mind.

Immediately after that she asks if she can call me right then. Told her I was working and had to run.

So.....anyone want to revise their vote?

Hmm, my search results came back somewhat inconclusive, yielding four possible ladies; two are packing on the pounds and of those two only one has an exact name match. Is she in Minneapolis?

STR8UP said:

She Im'ed me on facebook today.

Started talking about random stuff. Seems like she might not be doing so well financially, had to get rid of her sportscar, looking to go back to work after being a housewife for several years.

Asked if I was married.

Told me that she is no longer "wild", and that she still likes to have fun but "in a nice way".

Two minutes later she makes a sexual comment about something completely non-sexual, then she tells me she still has a dirty mind.

Immediately after that she asks if she can call me right then. Told her I was working and had to run.

So.....anyone want to revise their vote?

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I was going to cast my vote last night that this sounds like a woman planning to branch swing to another provider, but I ran into the 10 post role after arguing about homosexuality . This just reinforce what my first impression was.

Two minutes later she makes a sexual comment about something completely non-sexual, then she tells me she still has a dirty mind.

So.....anyone want to revise their vote?

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My vote is she's as classy as she ever was.

Deep Dish said:

Hmm, my search results came back somewhat inconclusive, yielding four possible ladies; two are packing on the pounds and of those two only one has an exact name match. Is she in Minneapolis?

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Where are you looking? She's on my facebook....

Anyway, a little more chit chat, and at this point it sounds like she is bored. The kid no longer needs babysitting and she's tired of being cooped up in a big house all day by herself.

I'm curious to see what she's up to, but I'm not gonna turn into a distraction or a sympathetic ear.

I left the room mid IM, I come back and she signs off with "Gotta go watch suchnsuch show. Talk to you tomorrow!!!!"

THIS is why there is more than a grain of truth to the philosophy that you need to be DOING something when interacting with a woman. I don't want to be best buddies with her. I don't want to have long phone convo's. Hell, I'm not particularly interested in keeping regular contact. I'm just fascinated by the dynamic.

Sometimes my curiosity can be a pain in the ass....