This thought crossed my mind the other day.
You know what the worst kind of woman is?
The worst kind of woman is the one who is getting d!ck from some dude, but still "shopping around".
You know the type. This is the woman who sill go through all of the motions dating you, showing high interest at every turn, but when you go to escalate physical intimacy the door slams shut.
This is a woman who is having her needs partially met. Partially meaning her SEXUAL needs are being met. So she really has no need or desire to be seeking out another sexual partner, so she will seek to fill only her emotional needs through another man.
Of course this type of woman is just as susceptible to being "taken away" as any other woman, but in most cases it takes superhuman attraction to do so. This woman WANTS a man she can talk about her day with, kiss and cuddle and THEN get it on with, but if someone is laying the pipe to her he will often be smart enough to give the chick just enough emotional support that she feels like there MIGHT be the opportunity to fulfill the rest of her needs with him.
The problem comes in when this woman tries to spin plates while she has this fukk buddy/ quasi-b/f. She KNOWS that it isn't really a relationship to speak of, so true to her nature as a woman she is always looking for the BBD.
So what us guys end up with are a bunch of essentially "unavailable" women running around accepting dates, showing "high interest", maybe even "messing around" with you a little, all the while you are thinking "maybe if I just hold on a LITTLE longer I might get some!"
These women are hard to spot in the beginning. They act just like any other single woman who is looking for the man of her dreams. Unfortunately it usually takes at least a couple of dates to figure out her game.
Hell, I didn't even realize what was going on in these types of situations until a couple of years ago when I started messing around with a buddy's ex. I had his permission, and we would all go out and at the end of the night we would end up back at my place making out. I got as far as dry humping and even slid a couple of fingers across her dripping wet pu$$y once or twice, but she would always shut it down before any clothes came off.
Anyway, come to find out by putting 2+2 together that the two of them were still fukking. This was later confirmed by a third party (the chicks best friend). By then I was like "AhHA!" and a little light bulb popped up above my head. Now I was aware of the dynamic at play.
This happened again not too long after where I went out with a chick a couple of times, had her in my bed doing everything BUT the final act, and come to find out that her ex husband had just moved back to the states and that she was infatuated with him and had this fantasy of him dropping his new wife and kids to be with her again.
You can't win in a situation like this, and you often can't spot it up front.
There were a couple of other women since then as well that I suspected of having this sort of arrangement, but was never able to confirm.
So nowadays I try to keep my eyes open.
What brought this back to my attention is a girl that works next door to me. Super friendly, cute, semi-freaky chick who throws out buying signals left and right. First it was "the look" and the smile and the body language. yesterday she started with some kino.
Great, you say. "Hook it up". But there's a problem.
Two out of the last three weeks I ran into her at the lakefront with a male coworker of hers, who already has a g/f. First time he was only with freaky chick. The last time his real g/f was there as well. As soon as I walk up, freaky chick is being all friendly with me as usual, and he immediately starts rubbing her shoulders. At that point I knew it was a lost cause.
The strange thing is he did this in front of his g/f! It didn't really register with me at the time, but I'm almost thinking that the shoulder rub thing might have been to impose a "claim" on this chick. Other people aren't stupid and they can sense when there might be a "threat". Incidentally, his real g/f didn't look too happy....
Maybe they are into some freaky ass threesome sh!t...I dunno. But every indication I got was that this was supposed to be on the DL. It was confirmed that he IS fukking this other chick on the side the other day, BTW.
So there it is.
It's almost like saying "Watch out for out of control semi-trucks" when you are sitting in a restaurant eating. Nobody can predict when a car is gonna slam into the front of a crowded building, but it happens from time to time. Unfortunately, this thing with women is quite a bit more common than out of control vehicle hitting restaurant patrons, but you get the idea.
I guess the point is "Don't waste your time on women who don't give reciprocate on ALL levels".
Just keep your eyes open....
You know what the worst kind of woman is?
The worst kind of woman is the one who is getting d!ck from some dude, but still "shopping around".
You know the type. This is the woman who sill go through all of the motions dating you, showing high interest at every turn, but when you go to escalate physical intimacy the door slams shut.
This is a woman who is having her needs partially met. Partially meaning her SEXUAL needs are being met. So she really has no need or desire to be seeking out another sexual partner, so she will seek to fill only her emotional needs through another man.
Of course this type of woman is just as susceptible to being "taken away" as any other woman, but in most cases it takes superhuman attraction to do so. This woman WANTS a man she can talk about her day with, kiss and cuddle and THEN get it on with, but if someone is laying the pipe to her he will often be smart enough to give the chick just enough emotional support that she feels like there MIGHT be the opportunity to fulfill the rest of her needs with him.
The problem comes in when this woman tries to spin plates while she has this fukk buddy/ quasi-b/f. She KNOWS that it isn't really a relationship to speak of, so true to her nature as a woman she is always looking for the BBD.
So what us guys end up with are a bunch of essentially "unavailable" women running around accepting dates, showing "high interest", maybe even "messing around" with you a little, all the while you are thinking "maybe if I just hold on a LITTLE longer I might get some!"
These women are hard to spot in the beginning. They act just like any other single woman who is looking for the man of her dreams. Unfortunately it usually takes at least a couple of dates to figure out her game.
Hell, I didn't even realize what was going on in these types of situations until a couple of years ago when I started messing around with a buddy's ex. I had his permission, and we would all go out and at the end of the night we would end up back at my place making out. I got as far as dry humping and even slid a couple of fingers across her dripping wet pu$$y once or twice, but she would always shut it down before any clothes came off.
Anyway, come to find out by putting 2+2 together that the two of them were still fukking. This was later confirmed by a third party (the chicks best friend). By then I was like "AhHA!" and a little light bulb popped up above my head. Now I was aware of the dynamic at play.
This happened again not too long after where I went out with a chick a couple of times, had her in my bed doing everything BUT the final act, and come to find out that her ex husband had just moved back to the states and that she was infatuated with him and had this fantasy of him dropping his new wife and kids to be with her again.
You can't win in a situation like this, and you often can't spot it up front.
There were a couple of other women since then as well that I suspected of having this sort of arrangement, but was never able to confirm.
So nowadays I try to keep my eyes open.
What brought this back to my attention is a girl that works next door to me. Super friendly, cute, semi-freaky chick who throws out buying signals left and right. First it was "the look" and the smile and the body language. yesterday she started with some kino.
Great, you say. "Hook it up". But there's a problem.
Two out of the last three weeks I ran into her at the lakefront with a male coworker of hers, who already has a g/f. First time he was only with freaky chick. The last time his real g/f was there as well. As soon as I walk up, freaky chick is being all friendly with me as usual, and he immediately starts rubbing her shoulders. At that point I knew it was a lost cause.
The strange thing is he did this in front of his g/f! It didn't really register with me at the time, but I'm almost thinking that the shoulder rub thing might have been to impose a "claim" on this chick. Other people aren't stupid and they can sense when there might be a "threat". Incidentally, his real g/f didn't look too happy....
Maybe they are into some freaky ass threesome sh!t...I dunno. But every indication I got was that this was supposed to be on the DL. It was confirmed that he IS fukking this other chick on the side the other day, BTW.
So there it is.
It's almost like saying "Watch out for out of control semi-trucks" when you are sitting in a restaurant eating. Nobody can predict when a car is gonna slam into the front of a crowded building, but it happens from time to time. Unfortunately, this thing with women is quite a bit more common than out of control vehicle hitting restaurant patrons, but you get the idea.
I guess the point is "Don't waste your time on women who don't give reciprocate on ALL levels".
Just keep your eyes open....
