10/25/08 FR Time to retire my "wings"

Field Report Oct 25th 2008

I went out on Saturday with two of my best friends, and I realized that you know, even though we have fun, things and times have changed. We get to the bar; I buy the first round for my boys (Azzell and capo). We link up with another dude who I’m tight with. His name is R-jay. There is a 10 set going on, I know like 2 of the guys in the set from last week. I open them up, they introduce me to a bunch of the girls. Come to find out its some HB Asians b-day. And she is f’d up. Basically she and her girl are putting on a show (nice)






Highlight of then light

This isn’t really a highlight however, the fact that I’m working on “the weakest” (escalation/attraction) Part of my game is a positive sign. I opened up two HB blondes. Who were seated, (and just finished a bottle of wine from the looks of it). I honestly don’t remember much(the apex of my buzz was in full steam). However I do remember that I played the Neil Srauss 5 question game. Which I won, but I was so bent* that I thought I lost. I was so uncalibrated and I got in my head and the HB was just looking at me:nervous: . I also tried to make up a game on the spot to no avail. I didn’t know how to further continue. I tried to get the chicks on the dance floor, but I think they were just there to drink (go figure). The set lasted about 5 minutes.

Lowlight of the night

I just got done with the set, and I see my buddy Capo. I wanted him to help me re-open up that set(the HB blondes)However, he was being a punk and just standing there watching the crowd. I saw 3 blondes behind me; I instantly pulled out my digital camera. (for my dragon Ball z guys the Digital camera is my kamahameha wave). I asked the chick to take a flick of my buddy and I. She is like sure where is your buddy? I look over he is standing two feet away. I say “Hey capo lets take a flick”. He is like “naw I’m cool” just acting totally anti-social. I try to pull him by the shoulders, he wouldn’t budge. I try again, nope he won’t move. Now mind you the chick is standing there watching this all go on. She then looks at me and says “do you even know the guy?” I look at her embarrassed , and try to play it off by making a funny face. I was pissed, Capo and I got into it(he doesn't want any incriminating photo's to end up on myspace because of his girl...pfft*), but I walked away and re-framed myself. I didn’t need the negative energy. We patch things up two minutes later (that’s what real brothers do)

Other highlights

Azzell opened up a two set. I got the cam out, the chicks were friendly but wasn’t feeling our age?(They were two years older, wtf? lol)

Who is this chick? (I opened her up early, oh it was to crowded to spit game, oh well)




Things I did well
1. I expanded my social proof a bit more; Ryan and Mike are cool peoples. Every time I see Ryan he always buys me a drink.
2. Yeah I blew the 2set something fierce. But the fact that I didn’t back down is a big thing. I’m still riding high from last week confidence wise. And I learned that sometimes you can't do everything yourself.
3. I was able to re-frame myself quickly, and not let the fight between Capo and me ruin my night.(Thanks sosuave for that!)

Things I need to work on
1. To have a good wing is someone who isn’t scared and realize that maybe it’s time to move on from my buddies(instead of trying to rely on them rely on myself)
2. When I enter a set try to bounce it to another spot, It was loud in this type of scenario I don’t know I proably coulda came stronger.
3. Ease up on the liquor. I wasn’t trashed but the fact is, when you drink it affects your motor, and your ablitiy to think

*bent=drunk
*Capo and I get into it the next day again, His whole argument is that he doesnt want to take flicks with girls. Funny part is the girl was taking the flicks she wasn't even gonna be in the pics. The argument was petty.

Overall: It was a decent night, however I was not happy with my wings at all. All they did was stand there, being totally lame. I understand that Capo respect his girl, but the fact that he just stood there was baffling. I mean I remember this guy use to have fun, and now its eeeh. Azzell was ok to a point. But I didn't really see him open any sets, I guess their mentality is "If stand around looking cool maybe some chicks will talk to us"

P.s. My halloween FR is gonna be crazy....stay tuned hahahaha

I'm loving these FR's. Where are you guys located anyway?

I'd love to find a wing in my area to do something like this with!

Vice said:

I'm loving these FR's. Where are you guys located anyway?

I'd love to find a wing in my area to do something like this with!

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I'm in St paul minnesota, but There should be guys in your area, just go to the wingman forum post a new thread, I've seen florida threads there. I've met one guy of here (Bilo) he is cool peoples.

I have to reread this again because I'm multitasking at the moment, but it sounds like it would of been perfect to do the neil strauss best friends test. I did it yesterday and I could tell it made me appear to have more value. In case you don't know it goes like:

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So now that I'd opened the set, it was time to demonstrate value and
blow Heidi out. I ran a piece I'd invented after meeting the fake sisters in
Miami-the best friends test.
"I have to ask you guys: How long have you known each other!" I began.
"About six years," one of the girls said.
"I could totally tell."
"How?"
"Rather than explain, I'll give you two the best friends test."
The girls leaned in toward me, thrilled by the idea of an innocous test.
Guys in the community have an expression for this phenomenon: I was giving
them "chick crack." Most women, they say, respond to routines involving
tests, psychological games, fortune-telling, and cold-reading like addicts
respond to free drugs.
"Okay," I said, as if I were about to ask a serious question. The girls
huddled in closer. "Do you both use the same shampoo?
They looked at each other to decide on an answer, then turned to me
and opened their mouths to speak.
"The answer doesn't matter," I cut them off. "You already passed."
"But we don't use the same shampoo," one of the girls said.
"But you both looked at each other before you answered. See, if you
didn't know each other well, you'd keep eye contact with me. But when two
people have a connection, they look at each other first and communicate almost
telepathically before answering. They don't even need to speak to each
other."
The two girls looked at each other again.
"See," I exclaimed. "You're doing it right now."
They burst out laughing. Big points for Style.

Noob said:

nice nice. i like the hat man, (assuming thats you?)

its good to see your approaching, and also recognising what you did wrong. you shouldnt really rely on wings at all, infact just chill with your boys, and leave them for a while and do approaches by yourself if they are not up for it.

next time your out, aim for 10 rejections. approach guys/girls.

nothing much more i can say-looks like your having fun
keep it up brother.

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Yeah thats me in the hat (a hat does wonder, I had a chick kinoing me 2 mintues after I walked in the place, playing with my hat. Go figure)

lol @ 10 rejections

Thats waaaaaaay to easy...

I'm past "opening up sets" the part on my game I'm working on is creating attraction and "hooking".


Thanks 4 the shout though appericate that

Just came home from doing the best friends routine.

I did that exact routine, and then walked away as they were laughing and joined Joe back at our table. Joe said to me "Let's go for the close". Joe closed up his food (which he barely ate) and said "false time constraint."

We went back for some more chit chat. I had them guess my age, guess Joe's age, all that stuff. Same old routines. Then Joe hit them with the false time constraint, and gave the one girl his name and number. The girl on the far left said to me "wait what's your name?" I said "I didn't tell you?" she said "No you didn't." I playfully said "well my name's Kevin, what do you want my number too? Geez. I should give HIM my number."

I gave the girl my number, playfully saying "make sure he gets that." And then we walked away. I found it funny how she wouldn't let me leave until I gave out my number. I had wanted to try this, based on several phone calls in which I had told Joe "what we should try doing is not getting numbers, but building enough attraction so that when we give our numbers, they'll come to us. Attraction is not a choice. We can't make them hang out with us by calling them. We can only hope we attract them enough so that they'll call."

So we gave it a try, and they may or may not call. Still it was a good approach and #close. Suddenly I wasn't tire...

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Noob

Thank you. I'm glad there is inspiration and motivation out of writing those field reports, which is the purpose of them really. I cleaned out my PM's, thanks for the heads up on that. I will definitely put the link in my sig.

Good point though. Overall sense of well being is important, and to not let rain, or cold affect that is really important. While it may not be possible to be high on life 100% of the time, it's not a bad idea to strive to be.