It really is pretty helpful for men to learn to love and appreciate women enough to learn how to satisfy them sexually.
Then, try to be open to making those emotional bonds happen too.
When a woman feels most supported and comforted, and fulfilled both mentally, emotionally, intellectually, and thoroughly sexually...she will have greater and greater difficulty walking away from you and being distracted by some dude who may just have a penthouse apt, Rolex, Ferrari, etc....
Know HOW to satisfy a woman sexually.
Take pride in appreciating a woman. Who she is. And what makes her so special to you.
Make the effort. Get up off the couch and make the effort.
The way you do one thing, shows the way you do ALL things.
Don't be lazy and apathetic. Dont be the sloth. The lethargic guy who wants everythign to just fall into his lap. It doesnt always work that way.
Get up and make the effort.
Make so that you give her the best you have to give her,so you can never look back in regret.
And if she STILLS moves on to a "BBD" then you know you did the best you could, and this woman was INCOMPATIBLE with you, the REAL you.
You can breathe a sigh of relief.
You can sleep at night.
You can feel comforted that you KNOW in your HEART that you did the best you could forher, and she was not capable of appreciating it...
..therefore...
YOU NEVER LOST ANYTHING.
When you love...love well.
And when you make love....make love well too...
Take the time to look at her as a woman, with flaws, but also with strengths.
With dreams, and hurts, just like you.
So she can never be 'above' you.
You can never put her on the pedastle ever again.
She's human.
That's all.
And if she doesnt appreciate you, then it's 'good to know'.
And not only do you 'move on', but YOU MOVE FORWARD.
Because you experienced MANY lessons, both with love, and with less love.
None of it was truly 'bad'.
Never go off the deep end and start to over analyze your behavior and interactions to your detriment.
This is a relationship, not a marathon OCD competition.
Be the best Man you can be.
And let HER deal with it the way SHE does.
You can't control her.
And most importantly, you can't CONTROL her Perception Filters.
She has that responsibility, fellas.
Not you.
She wasnt there observing you growing up. And you weren't there to teach her about you either. So dont go and blame people if they dont validate you. OR give you attention. Let go of that ego narcisssm.
Don't carry this weight, and stress, and anxiety about HOW she will react to you. Leave that thinking behind.
You weren't there to tell her "Hey,Im a good guy. Im not about hurting people or anything like that. Im an honorable guy. etc..."
So she can't KNOW you for sure.
And that's ok.
You should try not to take a lot of these things so personally.
Especially when you KNOW in your hear you really are doing the best you can, improving, learning, and growing, and being GENUINE about it...not trying to manipulate others with good behavior.
So if she cheats....oh well. You move on.
Sure, you grieve for a while. It's normal.
But if you love and respect yourself, and you know you did, and do the best you can, then it's really about her...not YOU.
And if the guy has more money than you? Fine. So what?
And if the guy has a better house? OR car? Or clothes? Or job?
Whatever...
It really doesnt matter.
See..
YOU"RE NOT COMPETING.
You don't 'compete'.
You live your life. Your path. And its not about wasting your precious energy competing with other dudes.
Compete with yourself.
Be disciplined with yourself.
And work on living the life of joy and fulfillment that is in alignment with YOUR desires and thought, and personality.
Set goals for yourself and complete them. Work on that.
Revel in your uniqueness.
Don't be that 'same guy'.
Be different. Mature. Calm. Cool. Self assured. Confident. Fulfilled. Abundance Mentality.
Be that guy...
He ALWAYS has another woman popping up in his life.
Always.
Guaranteed.
He's calm, and cool with women. He can relate with them on a cool, mature and masculine level.
Women know this. They pick up on it.
So he never has to worry that he 'lost' anything.
Especialy when it turned out all he lost was a bad relationship with a woman that didnt love him or didnt know HOW to love her man.
He lost a woman who had no self control or maturity.
I say: "Good riddance."
Life is too short.
I will find another good, kind, caring woman.
Who knows what she will find? And what the other guy's life will be like?
While he's chasing things, I will be living a dream life.
I enjoy the things I do have, and appreciate them, he spends his time in anxiety trying to live up to an image. Chasing parked cars, so to speak..
spending vlaueable time chasing, rather than living and enjoying.
Live and enjoy your life.
If she cheats on you, you walk.
Bye.
And you keep on your mission, because thats what youre doing anyway....
No deviation. No derailment. No crashes or explosions.
You let her go, and give her the opportunity to learn soemthing valueable from her poor choices, assuming you really ARE the stand up guy who doesnt bring negative consequences into his life.
Live well.
Live right.
Speak well.
Speak the truth.
Accept who you are.
Accept that people will do what they want to do. Allow that.
Dont be in opposition, allow people to fly their own flags.
And you seek people who truly want to be with you.
Dont begrudge others if you can. Its toxic.
Dont explain your values and your personal boundary, simply assert them.
Don't 'teach her a lesson.' Simply walk away.
Dont give your resources to those who wont appreciate them.
Right thinkiing
Right speech.
Right Action!
Live well.
Live free. Let go of the toxicity.
And learn about WHO you are and WHAT you want.
The better and more you do that, the better your life bcomes. and the less you deal with people who dont support you or your mission.
Drop the dead weight.
Not with hate.
But with love.
Compassion.
For them, and for yourself.
There is so much more out there to be enjoyed and experienced.
When we have one choice, we are slaves.
When we have two, we have a dilemma.
When we have more that two, we have abundance.
There is no ultimate truth.
Think about it....