I'm going to fight the next person that makes fun of me in real life

Demystify · Jun 12, 2008

A physical fight that is.

I've been constantly made fun of by several people for about ten years now (since 1998). I have had enough. It's time to put a stop to this. The next person who says something that gets to me has one coming.

Bible_Belt · Jun 12, 2008

How old are you? High school? Try to at least be smart about it and not get in trouble.

Even smarter would be to go and train in a fighting sport to blow off some steam and channel your anger. You will find that training to fight takes away your desire to fight in everyday life.

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If a guy is making fun of me in front of a girl and the girl laughs at his putdowns of me then he is scoring points with her and will probably get laid that same night or soon and part of the reason he gets laid was the points he scored by making her laugh from putdowns of me. So I'm not going to just go home and cry that some guy is making fun of me AND getting laid both. I'd rather kick the guy's ass and then I'll go home happy.

Where to begin? There's so much wrong with all of that, I could never get to all of it.

You sound pretty miserable, but the one person who holds most of the blame for that is you. Change your own life to make it better, instead of blaming people you keep hanging around, women, guys who get women, or anyone else. If you are unhappy, then the way to change that is within you, not in anything you do to some other guy or in fvcking or not fvcking some chick. It's you, fight with yourself, not anyone else.

ready123 · Jun 12, 2008

do you even know how to fight?

bbestar · Jun 12, 2008

Forget your past, and forgive and love those who offend you.

Thats how champions are made.

Demystify · Jun 12, 2008

ready123 said:
do you even know how to fight?

There's only one way to find out. I am good at throwing people into things.

I'm 23 by the way and I'd rather fight the person then channel it elsewhere.

If a guy is making fun of me in front of a girl and the girl laughs at his putdowns of me then he is scoring points with her and will probably get laid that same night or soon and part of the reason he gets laid was the points he scored by making her laugh from putdowns of me. So I'm not going to just go home and cry that some guy is making fun of me AND getting laid both. I'd rather kick the guy's ass and then I'll go home happy.

Desdinova · Jun 12, 2008

If a guy is making fun of me in front of a girl and the girl laughs at his putdowns of me

That's when you one-up him. Make fun of yourself and you can all have a good laugh. When you make fun of yourself, you steal away the subject of his joke, and you make the girl laugh. People who have to take themselves seriously all the time are boring as hell. If you can make fun of yourself and have a good laugh at yourself, you come out as being confident and funny. And we all know women love confident men.

Kicking the guys ass is just going to bring out the "mothering" instinct in the woman, and you still lose her because she'll be busy taking care of him in his time of need.

KontrollerX · Jun 12, 2008

Agree with Desdinova 110%.

Instead of working on your fighting skills work on your comedy skills and self deprication skills.

You really can defeat most assh0les in life if you have a killer wit and sense of humour.

Interceptor · Jun 12, 2008

All you're doing is manifesting violence into your life. Nothing more.
The core issue you have is not being addressed.
Fighting a guy will just be an outlet for violence, not satisfaction or empowerment.
You may get your ass kicked anyway. And if you beat the guy, you will never get his respect, only his hatred and animosity.

True empowerment is not being affected by some ignoramus making fun of you.

In some way or another, your behavior has invited people to pick on you and make fun of you.
It's in your behavior and what you are subcommmunicating.
People are not respecting you. And inviting violence will not command respect.

I know you are tired of being passive. But you are going to another extreme.
Violence.

You need to investigate what your body language is like.How you are being pereived by others, tone of voice, and how you are subcommunicating.

Address the inner issues first.
Make peace with that.

And the environment will shift accordingly.

Being angry only invited more anger and dissatisfaction.

Demystify · Jun 12, 2008

Desdinova said:
That's when you one-up him. Make fun of yourself and you can all have a good laugh. When you make fun of yourself, you steal away the subject of his joke, and you make the girl laugh. People who have to take themselves seriously all the time are boring as hell. If you can make fun of yourself and have a good laugh at yourself, you come out as being confident and funny. And we all know women love confident men.

Kicking the guys ass is just going to bring out the "mothering" instinct in the woman, and you still lose her because she'll be busy taking care of him in his time of need.

1) I'm not a funny guy NOR will I ever be a funny guy. I'm the type of guy that whenever I make a joke everyone makes sure NOT to laugh. I also laugh at my own jokes which is something I've tried for years to eradicate but I've failed miserably. The point is that if you met me you could easily tell that humor wasn't meant for me.

2) I'm not necesarrily trying to get the girl. I don't care if they hookup but it does bother me if he makes fun of me AND they hookup. So I can't at least payback for him making fun of me by fighting him.

Demystify · Jun 12, 2008

wutangfinancial said:
Are you ugly? Or really short/scrawny?

I consider myself average looking but just a little nerdy.

Tall and slightly lanky but I have started working out and I'm trying to achieve the V-shape.

DJDamage · Jun 12, 2008

Interceptor Bible belt and Des has got it nailed, read it again.

Demystify said:
I consider myself average looking but just a little nerdy.

Tall and slightly lanky but I have started working out and I'm trying to achieve the V-shape.

So you are a slighty lanky and a little nerdy?! those same characteristics that cause people to pick on you will also not help you in a fight.

Have you actually been in a fight? because if you haven't you probably are going to lose and lose bad.

If a girl laughs at you because of another guy's put down of you then she like him ain't worth your time or energy. You said you started working at the gym? that's good! now you have a goal, now you can be bigger and stronger and decrease the chances someone will pick on you. I do however believe that you also should be working on your social skills because by using your wit and charm you can pretty much get out of any situation or disarm potential situations without them getting out of hand.

Luke Skywalker · Jun 12, 2008

Well, if they haven't caused you any definate damages, then ignore them. However, if you can quantify some sort of damage and make a claim, then sue them, that will teach them a lesson if they have to cough up some dough and/or show up in court. Try a small claim's court action or something.

Get away from violence. Go to court and argue instead - fight with intelligence and paper work and become a lawyer.

Flyer · Jun 12, 2008

I had the same feeling before.

I trained in boxing before. Rage just shoots in the head and all i could see was red. Then I realised what I can actually do to another person in that state.

So I took a vowed: never to fight unless there is no way out. and if I ever had to fight, I'd fight to kill.

Unless you want to end up in jail or dead. WALK AWAY. ALWAYS. (hell, I'd run)

The Bat · Jun 12, 2008

If you've never fought before, are tall, and slightly lanky, then no doubt you're going to get your ass whooped. Big time. Make no mistake about it. All the guy would have to do is slap you in the face to knock your glasses off. And then maybe tell you to go back to your orgy with Harry Potter and Warcraft. What woman wants to sleep with a tall, nerdy dork?

You see what I just did? I bet you want to jump in to this screen and punch me in the face.

Now ask yourself, why? Why did you just let me bother you, even when I don't know you? Why are you taking yourself so seriously?

The problem isn't those guys or those girls.

The problem is you. You're doing something, saying something, acting something, looking like something that would allow other guys to make fun of you.

You want to fix it? Start with self-improvement.

Hook up with a personal trainer so you can train your body properly. Change your diet to add on some weight. Read up on some GQ forum about styles and looks to change your clothing. Go out and develop interests outside the "nerdy" zone. Don't get me wrong, I love playing video games as much as the next guy. But I don't go to the extreme that some nerds do.

Most guys don't make fun or put down other guys out of the blue. They would have to see you as somebody who looks weak, acts weak, talks weak, and ergo is weak. Are you any of the above? If so, fix yourself first.

Then worry about picking fights.

Rhoto · Jun 12, 2008

Demystify said:
A physical fight that is.

I've been constantly made fun of by several people for about ten years now (since 1998). I have had enough. It's time to put a stop to this. The next person who says something that gets to me has one coming.

Those who start fights never end them.

You shouldn't let otherwise irrelevant people make you feel less worthy.

HandyAndy · Jun 12, 2008

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m8s6KkwPqj8

Demystify · Jun 12, 2008

I don't care if I lose the physical fight. The point is that I need to be a real man and stand up for myself.

I don't dress badly and I don't play computer/video games.

ready123 · Jun 12, 2008

you're gonna learn the hard way

DJDamage · Jun 12, 2008

Demystify said:
I don't care if I lose the physical fight. The point is that I need to be a real man and stand up for myself.

How about you first become a real man and then get into a fight? 2 mins of fist pumping is not going to change who you are in your eyes or theirs. You will actually look more like a kid then a man because that is what kids do when they can't solve a problem.

Only fight for a good reason and this is not a good reason but a poor reason. You are not in prison where you have to show you are a badass so nobody will mess with you, you have choices and the ability to change yourself for the better.

comic_relief · Jun 12, 2008

Desdinova said:
That's when you one-up him. Make fun of yourself and you can all have a good laugh. When you make fun of yourself, you steal away the subject of his joke, and you make the girl laugh. People who have to take themselves seriously all the time are boring as hell. If you can make fun of yourself and have a good laugh at yourself, you come out as being confident and funny. And we all know women love confident men.

Kicking the guys ass is just going to bring out the "mothering" instinct in the woman, and you still lose her because she'll be busy taking care of him in his time of need.

Actually if you really want to one up a person

agree with them! that is what i did and once you take control of the situation, you can turn the tide of the battle in your favor.

I use that a lot.

Example:
Him: "Comic, your a f!ggot!"
Me: "Only for you big boy"

Him: "Hey! What!?!"
Me: "What are you scared of homo's or something?" *looks at girl* "He's a homophobe, and it is really bad to stay near those types of people, why don't we head out?"
Her: "Yeah lets go"

I just agreed with him and turned it around. I do it all the time.

comic_relief

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