guru1000
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There are many threads in the "Mature Man" addressing concerns of matters that are REALLY not roadblocks. Example, "I do not have a car".
The first thought that comes to my mind is "How can this be an obstacle??". I could easily be in this position and use it to my advantage. I would simply do a reverse qualifying frame control tactic and the girl would end up justifying to me why she is worth it.
Often I overlook a suggested concern by assuming everyone has the gift of gab. Certainly with a quality of GAB, one can pitch his way out of any dynamic by reverse qualifying.
I come from the school where I can pick up a telephone and have investors who I have never previously met send million dollar checks to me based on the pitch I deliver them. Certainly, no HB can be a match of wits with me. In saying this, I often take for granted my gift and forget that I naturally use it in every interaction throughout my life.
The KEY in speech is establishing the correct frame. This is all of it!
How does one always establish the correct frame?
If I were to call you right now and say I was Donald Trump. How would you treat me? How would you react to me? What is I was a homeless bum on the street, how would you treat me then?
The Gift of Gab is not what you say. It is most often from who is saying it.
Case in point, two identical pitches from two different people can have dramatically different results.
If I were to SELL you that I am a billion dollar producing GURU, would you take these words more seriously than if I was just another internet poster? This is the key to SALES. This is as well is the key to ANY interaction.
When you are sitting on a date with an HB 9.5, there are many dynamics at play. She brings the looks to the table but WHO ARE YOU?
Are you another guy fawning over her?
Are you a guy who rarely goes on dates?
Are you Larger Than Life, who has dozens of HB 9.5's dying to date you?
Yes the Prize Mentality is often repeated but not truly understood. This however, is the foundation of speech. If you establish the correct frame of being a PRIZE than it is not important what you say. You can SAY ANYTHING.
OK, how does one establish a PRIZE frame to work from ?
To establish a PRIZE frame, you have to be the PRIZE. To BE, you must think, look and act as one. How does the PRIZE think, look and act?
Is he cool/collected or nervous?
Is he confident or desperate?
Is he bold or fearful?
If he Larger Than Life?
Is he a Big or Small Thinker?
Is he strong or weak minded?
Does he have convictions?
Does he speak of plans, events or people?
How does he dress? Designer or Kmart?
How are his mannerisms? Body Languge?
Does he appear sharp or sloppy?
If he overweight or athletic looking?
Is he clean cut ?
How is his hair? Sharp?
What kind of watch and shoes does he wear?
Does he have a sharp tongue or slurred speech?
Is he witty?
Do an inventory check. What are you missing from the above questions.
I was out on a first date six months ago. This is what she tells me within the first 5 minutes.
I wish there was an all in one solution of how to bring every dynamic into your frame. When interacting, you have to paint a picture through Visual ( Appearance), Physical Communication (mannerisms), Verbal Communication (What would the Prize say?)
When I was younger, I used to look at all the top producers of my industry and given a situation, think how they would respond. I did that so long until I myself became one of them.
Case in point,
In any interaction, the frame will always belong to the Prize. The Prize will qualify, while the other party(ies) will seek approval.
Here are a few things to look for to see if your Prize frame is correctly established:
- Is she antsy/nervous?
- Does she speak immediately once there is silence?
- Is she qualifying herself or you?
- Does she speak more about herself or ask questions about you?
- What do her eyes say?
If a woman calls you ****y, this is her natural defense mechanism previous to her surrendering to your frame. Never justify your prizability. Always respond "Yes, I am."
I hope this thread clarifies that the only speech/pitching/gab that is important is by who delivers it.
Good Luck.
The first thought that comes to my mind is "How can this be an obstacle??". I could easily be in this position and use it to my advantage. I would simply do a reverse qualifying frame control tactic and the girl would end up justifying to me why she is worth it.
Often I overlook a suggested concern by assuming everyone has the gift of gab. Certainly with a quality of GAB, one can pitch his way out of any dynamic by reverse qualifying.
I come from the school where I can pick up a telephone and have investors who I have never previously met send million dollar checks to me based on the pitch I deliver them. Certainly, no HB can be a match of wits with me. In saying this, I often take for granted my gift and forget that I naturally use it in every interaction throughout my life.
The KEY in speech is establishing the correct frame. This is all of it!
How does one always establish the correct frame?
If I were to call you right now and say I was Donald Trump. How would you treat me? How would you react to me? What is I was a homeless bum on the street, how would you treat me then?
The Gift of Gab is not what you say. It is most often from who is saying it.
Case in point, two identical pitches from two different people can have dramatically different results.
If I were to SELL you that I am a billion dollar producing GURU, would you take these words more seriously than if I was just another internet poster? This is the key to SALES. This is as well is the key to ANY interaction.
When you are sitting on a date with an HB 9.5, there are many dynamics at play. She brings the looks to the table but WHO ARE YOU?
Are you another guy fawning over her?
Are you a guy who rarely goes on dates?
Are you Larger Than Life, who has dozens of HB 9.5's dying to date you?
Yes the Prize Mentality is often repeated but not truly understood. This however, is the foundation of speech. If you establish the correct frame of being a PRIZE than it is not important what you say. You can SAY ANYTHING.
OK, how does one establish a PRIZE frame to work from ?
To establish a PRIZE frame, you have to be the PRIZE. To BE, you must think, look and act as one. How does the PRIZE think, look and act?
Is he cool/collected or nervous?
Is he confident or desperate?
Is he bold or fearful?
If he Larger Than Life?
Is he a Big or Small Thinker?
Is he strong or weak minded?
Does he have convictions?
Does he speak of plans, events or people?
How does he dress? Designer or Kmart?
How are his mannerisms? Body Languge?
Does he appear sharp or sloppy?
If he overweight or athletic looking?
Is he clean cut ?
How is his hair? Sharp?
What kind of watch and shoes does he wear?
Does he have a sharp tongue or slurred speech?
Is he witty?
Do an inventory check. What are you missing from the above questions.
I was out on a first date six months ago. This is what she tells me within the first 5 minutes.
Isn't it amazing what a woman can imagine based on the impression you give her? More importantly, did it matter what I said on that date. I could have said anything with the same result.
I wish there was an all in one solution of how to bring every dynamic into your frame. When interacting, you have to paint a picture through Visual ( Appearance), Physical Communication (mannerisms), Verbal Communication (What would the Prize say?)
When I was younger, I used to look at all the top producers of my industry and given a situation, think how they would respond. I did that so long until I myself became one of them.
Case in point,
Take note, this above scenario could only work with a guy who looks like the Prize as well. In other words, if you look clean cut, sharp and well taken care of , than you fit the IMAGE.
In any interaction, the frame will always belong to the Prize. The Prize will qualify, while the other party(ies) will seek approval.
Here are a few things to look for to see if your Prize frame is correctly established:
- Is she antsy/nervous?
- Does she speak immediately once there is silence?
- Is she qualifying herself or you?
- Does she speak more about herself or ask questions about you?
- What do her eyes say?
If a woman calls you ****y, this is her natural defense mechanism previous to her surrendering to your frame. Never justify your prizability. Always respond "Yes, I am."
I hope this thread clarifies that the only speech/pitching/gab that is important is by who delivers it.
Good Luck.
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