Hey guys,
First time poster.
I met this girl this past week. We exchanged contact info, got together on two occasions to 'hang out' but most of that time we were making out. I told her I just got out of a relationship about a month ago so I was looking to go slow and she said that was cool because she didn't want to get hurt.
Anyway, last night I met up with her and two of her girlfriends at a bar. We bar hopped two or three times during the night and she was pretty drunk. So she and I were making out a lot, ect. She was always rubbing up against me and fawning over me. Seriously I would be sitting there just sipping my drink and I would look over and she would give me the doggy dinner bowl look. I've never been fawned over by any woman like that before, let alone one of this caliber. She is a tall blond and looks like she was the head cheerleader in high school. But my point is her interest level was HIGH!
Her friends however were luke warm. Her one friend was on a cell phone everywhere we went trying to hook up a booty call of her own so I didn't get a chance to make an impression on her. The other friend was kind of hefty and pissed off about it (or men, or life in general!) and kept giving me the evil eye all night. Here I always thought it would be super-cool to hang with a group of girls all night on the bar circuit. After all, I've spent so much time hanging out with my male friends in bars I was always jealous of the guys with lots of women. But man I gotta tell you, girls suck to hang out with! So CATTY! lol
So eventually after we closed down the bar the one girl heads off to her booty call and we head back to the hefty girl's apartment. My girl is from out of town by the way and she was spending the night at hefty girls place. At hefty girls' apartment we all just sit around, drink a bit more, eat and watch a movie. Hefty girl sits in one chair, me and my girl in another. Now obviously my girl and I want some alone time so we're just waiting for hefty girl to go to bed. But hefty girl keeps texting and calling some guy she wants to come over. The guy wasn't even taking her calls and she was calling him or texting him dozens of time! Lesson learned indifference truly works friends! Another lesson is if a girl is truly interested in you, she will chase. Forget looking for subtle IOI's. Anyway, eventually hefty girl does go to bed and says to us "don't fvck on my couch, fvck on the floor". Ha ha, that was so funny I just had to share it with somebody. I felt like such a player.
Well I wasn't gonna close the deal that night. I wasn't comfortable fvcking with hefty girl just on the other side of the door and maybe coming into the living room at any moment.
I told my girl, no fvcking tonight, just playing. We did a lot of other stuff, heavy make out, me fingering her, ect ect. Whatever problem I have with this girl, it's not a lack of sexual attraction on her part. She pretty much begged me to fvck her most of the time but I told her we needed to save it for next time.
Anyway, sex aside, she didn't want me to go home last night. We stayed up til' 5 am talking. We went outside and sat on the step in the cool night air and got to know each other better. She kept saying to me "I'm falling for you" and "what did you do to me, give me a love potion?". Now I'm thinking "danger danger" because I truly liked this girl and didn't want her getting too attached because I'm not ready for that yet. So I kept telling her "let's just take this slow, hang out and see what happens" and I also expressed to her I'm not quite over my ex yet and I don't want her to get hurt'. But overall she was completely clingy with me and telling me how much she wanted me sex wise, relationship wise, ect. And of course her telling me that stuff about getting attached so soon did raise a red flag for me.
Finally at 5 am I drove home. I sent her a text in the morning telling her I was still turned on. She didn't text me back and I thought no big deal because she told me early on she had plans for today. Then later I did call her just to chat but no answer, so I leave a message.
A few hours later she calls me. I ask her how her day was, ect. and she said "oh I've had drama today, my ex came over blah blah blah and he has been wanting to give it another shot for a few months now and I'm confused. I don't want you to get hurt".
So what's the best way to respond to that???
I tried to be cool about it and also use the Str8up 'walk away method'. I said "hey that's understandable. I'm glad you told me this now."
She said "we can still be friends" and I said "no thanks, don't need that drama in my life". Then I removed her from my myspace page later on.
However, maybe an hour went by and I texted her saying "maybe I had been a bit hasty about kicking you out of my life completely, who knows, maybe we can hook up the future" or I said something like that. I just had to leave the door open her because she was THAT HOT and I had thought she was really into me but she never texted back.
What do you guys make up all this?
First time poster.
I met this girl this past week. We exchanged contact info, got together on two occasions to 'hang out' but most of that time we were making out. I told her I just got out of a relationship about a month ago so I was looking to go slow and she said that was cool because she didn't want to get hurt.
Anyway, last night I met up with her and two of her girlfriends at a bar. We bar hopped two or three times during the night and she was pretty drunk. So she and I were making out a lot, ect. She was always rubbing up against me and fawning over me. Seriously I would be sitting there just sipping my drink and I would look over and she would give me the doggy dinner bowl look. I've never been fawned over by any woman like that before, let alone one of this caliber. She is a tall blond and looks like she was the head cheerleader in high school. But my point is her interest level was HIGH!
Her friends however were luke warm. Her one friend was on a cell phone everywhere we went trying to hook up a booty call of her own so I didn't get a chance to make an impression on her. The other friend was kind of hefty and pissed off about it (or men, or life in general!) and kept giving me the evil eye all night. Here I always thought it would be super-cool to hang with a group of girls all night on the bar circuit. After all, I've spent so much time hanging out with my male friends in bars I was always jealous of the guys with lots of women. But man I gotta tell you, girls suck to hang out with! So CATTY! lol
So eventually after we closed down the bar the one girl heads off to her booty call and we head back to the hefty girl's apartment. My girl is from out of town by the way and she was spending the night at hefty girls place. At hefty girls' apartment we all just sit around, drink a bit more, eat and watch a movie. Hefty girl sits in one chair, me and my girl in another. Now obviously my girl and I want some alone time so we're just waiting for hefty girl to go to bed. But hefty girl keeps texting and calling some guy she wants to come over. The guy wasn't even taking her calls and she was calling him or texting him dozens of time! Lesson learned indifference truly works friends! Another lesson is if a girl is truly interested in you, she will chase. Forget looking for subtle IOI's. Anyway, eventually hefty girl does go to bed and says to us "don't fvck on my couch, fvck on the floor". Ha ha, that was so funny I just had to share it with somebody. I felt like such a player.
Well I wasn't gonna close the deal that night. I wasn't comfortable fvcking with hefty girl just on the other side of the door and maybe coming into the living room at any moment.
I told my girl, no fvcking tonight, just playing. We did a lot of other stuff, heavy make out, me fingering her, ect ect. Whatever problem I have with this girl, it's not a lack of sexual attraction on her part. She pretty much begged me to fvck her most of the time but I told her we needed to save it for next time.
Anyway, sex aside, she didn't want me to go home last night. We stayed up til' 5 am talking. We went outside and sat on the step in the cool night air and got to know each other better. She kept saying to me "I'm falling for you" and "what did you do to me, give me a love potion?". Now I'm thinking "danger danger" because I truly liked this girl and didn't want her getting too attached because I'm not ready for that yet. So I kept telling her "let's just take this slow, hang out and see what happens" and I also expressed to her I'm not quite over my ex yet and I don't want her to get hurt'. But overall she was completely clingy with me and telling me how much she wanted me sex wise, relationship wise, ect. And of course her telling me that stuff about getting attached so soon did raise a red flag for me.
Finally at 5 am I drove home. I sent her a text in the morning telling her I was still turned on. She didn't text me back and I thought no big deal because she told me early on she had plans for today. Then later I did call her just to chat but no answer, so I leave a message.
A few hours later she calls me. I ask her how her day was, ect. and she said "oh I've had drama today, my ex came over blah blah blah and he has been wanting to give it another shot for a few months now and I'm confused. I don't want you to get hurt".
So what's the best way to respond to that???
I tried to be cool about it and also use the Str8up 'walk away method'. I said "hey that's understandable. I'm glad you told me this now."
She said "we can still be friends" and I said "no thanks, don't need that drama in my life". Then I removed her from my myspace page later on.
However, maybe an hour went by and I texted her saying "maybe I had been a bit hasty about kicking you out of my life completely, who knows, maybe we can hook up the future" or I said something like that. I just had to leave the door open her because she was THAT HOT and I had thought she was really into me but she never texted back.
What do you guys make up all this?
Right on man. Actions speak louder than words but even actions have no relevance from one moment to the next in chick logic. The girl will always do what feels right to in any given moment.
