The worst thing is falling in love with a stranger

DonGorgon · May 28, 2008

So there is this wonderful woman that works a a grocery store near to my house... In looks she is a 7 or 8 but her vibe and aura is so beautiful The moment we locked eyes the first time i fell hard for her ! I hate when this happens even though its rare cause all my game is gone from the jump! Its like i cant win cause I become AFC Xs 10.

So yesterday i wen to the grocery and was sitting outside texting a plate that i met in a club over the weekend and all of a sudden my princess walks up sees me and sits one seat over facing me just looking at me! it was soo out of the blue that i froze! I made eye contact but could not function at all , all my openers and lines where gone. She sat patiently for about 6 mins. then got up extra slow and said "hey" in a disappointed tone as she went back into the store.

I was caught off guard and was not ready at all so i wasted a great op. I know i will see her again but now i have the butterflies crap like a damn 10 year old when i see her.

Help!!!!!!

Nighthawk · May 28, 2008

Sigh... she's not a princess and you're not in love. But for future reference, if a hottie makes eye contact and you're stuck for a line, just say 'what?' in a ****y playful manner. If she blushes or acts at all interested, continue with the 'I saw you checking me out like some kind of stalker' vibe.

Reyaj · May 28, 2008

we have all been there and I probably would have reacted the same way. You are so caught off guard you kinda freeze up and get nervous...

If you are still interested in her I would walk up to her at another time and apologize for not introducing yourself and take it from there. At least you will know what her IL is and its worth pursuing..

Omen · May 28, 2008

DonGorgon said:
So there is this wonderful woman that works a a grocery store near to my house... In looks she is a 7 or 8 but her vibe and aura is so beautiful The moment we locked eyes the first time i fell hard for her ! I hate when this happens even though its rare cause all my game is gone from the jump! Its like i cant win cause I become AFC Xs 10.

So yesterday i wen to the grocery and was sitting outside texting a plate that i met in a club over the weekend and all of a sudden my princess walks up sees me and sits one seat over facing me just looking at me! it was soo out of the blue that i froze! I made eye contact but could not function at all , all my openers and lines where gone. She sat patiently for about 6 mins. then got up extra slow and said "hey" in a disappointed tone as she went back into the store.

I was caught off guard and was not ready at all so i wasted a great op. I know i will see her again but now i have the butterflies crap like a damn 10 year old when i see her.

Help!!!!!!

In the same boat as you, but I dont freeze, or not function or any of that. Just the whole aura and vibe deal that takes the 6 or 7 up to a 10.

We like to say... MAN i'm in love, but we aren't. We just out of know where meet that woman that we didnt think we'd plan on meeting or something.

Kind of like winning the lottery. You play here and there, and what ever, but then when you hit it big, your like.... Uhhh.... and all sorts of shocked or confused, cause you know this never happens to you.

I think we all have those rare occurrences that this type of thing happens. I've gone 6yrs just fine, i'd see a girl, talk to her, what ever, and then life goes on, and repeats. Then one day out of the blue months ago, I meet a woman who I talk too, again, same thing, and then all of the sudden, months later I find myself caught off guard by the way I feel about this one.

Now I dont feel like a 10yr old, but it is weird to have this type of feeling as I do since its been ages.

Nighthawk · May 28, 2008

If you are still interested in her I would walk up to her at another time and apologize for not introducing yourself and take it from there.

Don't apologize for anything. Haven't you got the hang of this approaching business yet Jayer?

Reyaj · May 28, 2008

I have on cold approaches in night life. But if you are admiring a girl and choosing her as a target and she suddenly appears when you aren't ready, I probably still need some work there.... that and day game

j-flex · May 28, 2008

"Women who you are most attracted to are usually most attracted to you as well. This may seem counter intuitive and I won’t get in to evolutionary psychology here, but really the women you find absolutely "MUST HAVE" tend to wind up seeing you as more attractive than other women also."

Francisco d'Anconia · May 28, 2008

DonGorgon said:
...So yesterday i wen to the grocery and was sitting outside texting a plate that i met in a club over the weekend and all of a sudden my princess walks up sees me and sits one seat over facing me just looking at me! it was soo out of the blue that i froze! I made eye contact but could not function at all , all my openers and lines where gone. She sat patiently for about 6 mins. then got up extra slow and said "hey" in a disappointed tone as she went back into the store....

Thus the importance of inner game more than relying on just memorized routines, you can never have a prepared line for every situation imaginable. Best bet is to be presentable for a possible impromptu meeting while you are out.

The ball could have started rolling with a simple "You should sit over here with me so we won't need to yell at one another." Nothing ****y, nothing funny, just stating an obvious fact. No need to make a simple meeting more difficult than it needs to be.

Bible_Belt · May 28, 2008

Why was she sitting there? That question alone gives you something to talk about. Smile and laugh just a little, and say "what are you doing? Are you loitering?" Make her think she looks silly sitting there doing nothing - getting her laughing with you at her, and you are in, go from there. After you get her engaged in conversation, you need to get her number because you have more to say but have to rush off. None of this "I think you're pretty. Will you go out with me?" crap.

Alle_Gory · May 28, 2008

DonS said:
She went and found you; sat there next to you for 6 FREAKING MINUTES; you never said one word out of fear, which she could sense; and then she drops the "hey" with disappoint in her voice.

Dude. Weak.

(to the OP)

DonGorgon · May 29, 2008

DonS said:
I think you are in trouble here. She went and found you; sat there next to you for 6 FREAKING MINUTES; you never said one word out of fear, which she could sense; and then she drops the "hey" with disappoint in her voice.

Women love the mystery of a new man: is he like Brad Pitt, or John Wayne, or is he a player that all the women love....oh, I'm going to go sit next to him and find out who he is as he runs his game on me....

Mystery solved; she sees you as scared and weak.

Yes there it is , the painful truth but I can handle it.... I guess i will just let it go then unless she talks to me first... which she likely will not:nervous:

DonGorgon · May 29, 2008

Francisco d'Anconia said:
Thus the importance of inner game more than relying on just memorized routines, you can never have a prepared line for every situation imaginable. Best bet is to be presentable for a possible impromptu meeting while you are out.

The ball could have started rolling with a simple "You should sit over here with me so we won't need to yell at one another." Nothing ****y, nothing funny, just stating an obvious fact. No need to make a simple meeting more difficult than it needs to be.

So right... there are so many simple things i should have done and said.. but.. i froze like ....

To be honest 90% of my best successful interactions with women have come from them initiating or choosing me first... It seems like when i choose them first i fail more often.. oh and i am not a hint taker , i can only deal well with straight forward clear communication which women seldom do...LOL

DonGorgon · May 29, 2008

Bible_Belt said:
Why was she sitting there? That question alone gives you something to talk about. Smile and laugh just a little, and say "what are you doing? Are you loitering?" Make her think she looks silly sitting there doing nothing - getting her laughing with you at her, and you are in, go from there. After you get her engaged in conversation, you need to get her number because you have more to say but have to rush off. None of this "I think you're pretty. Will you go out with me?" crap.

Thanks! 100% good angle.

DonGorgon · May 29, 2008

Alle_Gory said:
Dude. Weak.

(to the OP)

Yeh its sad i do get weak when i am very very attracted to a girl...

SharinganUser · May 29, 2008

Yes there it is , the painful truth but I can handle it.... I guess i will just let it go then unless she talks to me first... which she likely will not

Wrong, Don-O. You did make an error, but do NOT let it phase you. Don't worry about what happened before, just ask yourself "Do I still like this girl? and where do I go from here?"

connor32 · May 29, 2008

we've all been caught off guard like this. i bet the minute she left u thought of a hundred things to say.

Francisco d'Anconia · May 29, 2008

DonGorgon said:
....
To be honest 90% of my best successful interactions with women have come from them initiating or choosing me first... It seems like when i choose them first i fail more often.. oh and i am not a hint taker , i can only deal well with straight forward clear communication which women seldom do...LOL

It is easier when the woman is willing to take the risk and initiate contact. Though you have to ask yourself if there was ever a time where a woman was interested in you but preferred you to man up. Wait a second, there was a time. None the less, the chance of an interaction not panning out is definitely higher when you initiate the interaction. It's much easier to protect your ego when you play it safe and just avoid any interactions which aren't 100% guaranteed successful.

Birdem · May 29, 2008

LOL your princess. Man if you still feel like this you had no game from the jump.

Alle_Gory · May 30, 2008

DonGorgon said:
Yeh its sad i do get weak when i am very very attracted to a girl...

Best thing to do is get away from her.

If you screw this up by pursuing this the way you are, the following may happen:
1. You will regret it an kick yourself about it, when you screw it up.
2. She will hate you. You can never try again later. Closed door. Permanently.

Fix your problems. Come back another time.

DonGorgon · May 30, 2008

Birdem said:
LOL your princess. Man if you still feel like this you had no game from the jump.

LOL... every now and then a woman affects me like that... i dont know why but some just do...

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