Ok I met this girl a month ago. Since then, she's been staying over my house about 75% of the time. At first she tells me she wants to take it slow (don't all girls?) That lasted about 9 days... then we had sex. We had sex a few more days after that. Now it's been a little over 2 weeks, and NO sexual contact. Kissing yes, anything else no. At first I thought she might have been pregnant, but she's not... So I guess 1 of those weeks I can thank Aunt Flow.
I've meet most of her family, she's met mine. She's leaving things behind in my condo. Razor, shampoo, hair spray, tooth brush, etc. no pads though. When she's with me she refers to my place as home. Usually girls say "blah blah blah your place." She's even bought me some things for it...
But here's what it setting off little red flags in the back of my mind. The kissing has almost come to a screeching halt. It's only when I pick her up, we go to bed/wake up, and when I drop her off. Lately though, when I drop her off it's been hugs??? WTF??? and when I try to kiss her on the lips she turns in and I kiss her cheek. I tell her no a real kiss, then she kisses me on the lips.
She's also a heavy texter. I won't stop her from talking to friends, but I find it disrespectful at times. Because who is she really talking to? Is she bored? We do plenty of things together.... whatever.
My days off are always Tuesday and Wednesday. She tells me that she's got my days off this week... She stayed over Sunday into Monday because my sister flew in earlier in the week, and she wanted to meet her. So the plan was for the 3 of us to get lunch on Monday before my sister flew out. So in the morning she had to go home early to watch her niece so her sister could run an errand. So Monday night when I got out of work I picked her up and we went back to my place. She was complaining that her stomach hurt and she went to bed. I made the best of it and played GTA4 lol... I know she was sick though because I could hear her vomiting at like 5am. Later on she felt better and we went to my mothers for dinner (this is Tuesday night). After that she wanted to hang out with the girls so I took her home. She said she'd call me back to let me know if she wanted to stay over again. She was going to stay home, and she did because she called to say good night at like 2am from her sisters house. She calls me up Wednesday and tells me she has to fill in that night at work. But she's sorry that she "couldn't" stay over last night, and that she definitely wants to stay over Thursday night.
Still with me??
She calls up today, and because she filled in on Wednesday they gave her today off. BUT she had to watch her niece again but she wasn't sure what time her sister and husband would be home, so she'd call me to tell me what the plan was. **Oh yeah BTW she's about 10 minutes away from work so I usually pick her up on my way home**. She never calls. I get home at 1am and get a call from her sisters house. She's sorry she didn't call earlier. But she'll call tomorrow when she gets minutes on her phone (she uses phone cards.)
Am I making something out of nothing, or is there something else going on? I mean for a 21 year old girl to be staying out with a guy almost every night, and nothing sexual to be happening raises some concern. My buddy said it's nothing, and that she's setting up hoops for me because she's trying to determine if I just want sex or a relationship.
But you'd think that not having sex in over 2 weeks is enough to have the guy move on right? I'll admit it, we clicked from the start and I really like this girl. But I feel I'm at the point where the more she does these stupid little games, the more attraction I lose. I guess I should follow my signature.
I've meet most of her family, she's met mine. She's leaving things behind in my condo. Razor, shampoo, hair spray, tooth brush, etc. no pads though. When she's with me she refers to my place as home. Usually girls say "blah blah blah your place." She's even bought me some things for it...
But here's what it setting off little red flags in the back of my mind. The kissing has almost come to a screeching halt. It's only when I pick her up, we go to bed/wake up, and when I drop her off. Lately though, when I drop her off it's been hugs??? WTF??? and when I try to kiss her on the lips she turns in and I kiss her cheek. I tell her no a real kiss, then she kisses me on the lips.
She's also a heavy texter. I won't stop her from talking to friends, but I find it disrespectful at times. Because who is she really talking to? Is she bored? We do plenty of things together.... whatever.
My days off are always Tuesday and Wednesday. She tells me that she's got my days off this week... She stayed over Sunday into Monday because my sister flew in earlier in the week, and she wanted to meet her. So the plan was for the 3 of us to get lunch on Monday before my sister flew out. So in the morning she had to go home early to watch her niece so her sister could run an errand. So Monday night when I got out of work I picked her up and we went back to my place. She was complaining that her stomach hurt and she went to bed. I made the best of it and played GTA4 lol... I know she was sick though because I could hear her vomiting at like 5am. Later on she felt better and we went to my mothers for dinner (this is Tuesday night). After that she wanted to hang out with the girls so I took her home. She said she'd call me back to let me know if she wanted to stay over again. She was going to stay home, and she did because she called to say good night at like 2am from her sisters house. She calls me up Wednesday and tells me she has to fill in that night at work. But she's sorry that she "couldn't" stay over last night, and that she definitely wants to stay over Thursday night.
Still with me??
She calls up today, and because she filled in on Wednesday they gave her today off. BUT she had to watch her niece again but she wasn't sure what time her sister and husband would be home, so she'd call me to tell me what the plan was. **Oh yeah BTW she's about 10 minutes away from work so I usually pick her up on my way home**. She never calls. I get home at 1am and get a call from her sisters house. She's sorry she didn't call earlier. But she'll call tomorrow when she gets minutes on her phone (she uses phone cards.)
Am I making something out of nothing, or is there something else going on? I mean for a 21 year old girl to be staying out with a guy almost every night, and nothing sexual to be happening raises some concern. My buddy said it's nothing, and that she's setting up hoops for me because she's trying to determine if I just want sex or a relationship.
But you'd think that not having sex in over 2 weeks is enough to have the guy move on right? I'll admit it, we clicked from the start and I really like this girl. But I feel I'm at the point where the more she does these stupid little games, the more attraction I lose. I guess I should follow my signature.