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Ok so this mom I have been dating for a month and a half now tells me this saturday that she loves me at the club. I told her that I like her but I am not there yet and I don't wanna say that I love her unless I mean it. She said that she's fine with that. Then she also said she doesn't believe in a time frame "I don't believe in you need to wait for 3 month's at least to say you love them rule", she said if she feels that way she will express it. After that she's told me twice she loves me. Tonight in bed she tells the following: "I just want to clarify something, when I tell you that I love you, I mean in a way that I like you and that I am happy your with me (something along those lines) but not love love it's only been a month and a half." So I told her good try, you are crazy about me. I don't exactly remember what she said after that but I think she asked me why I think that she's crazy about me.
So I have come up with two explanation's and I need someone to give me there input
1) She wanted to trick me into saying that I love her, or wanted to see how I feel about her...
2) She feel's foolish that it's only been a month and a half and that she has already fallen in love with me and I am not on the same page as her in the relationship...?

Also she has hinted a few time's the following before she said she loved me:
I almost told you I loved you today ( in bed again )
Cuddling on couch once she told me what would you do if I told you that I loved you.
 
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102 posts means "love" along with words like "rape", "stalker" and the newly added "misogynist" should be a non issue when uttered by chicks for you. In other words these days through over use they have become as powerful as her saying "I just took a dump."

This is a no-brainer, as is not that hard to play off:

Her: I love you.

You: Your not the only one.

Or something equally ****y etc etc.

So I have come up with two explanation's and I need someone to give me there input
1) She wanted to trick me into saying that I love her, or wanted to see how I feel about her...
2) She feel's foolish that it's only been a month and a half and that she has already fallen in love with me and I am not on the same page as her in the relationship...?
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Option 3) Who cares? She doesnt need a therapist, your job is not to figure out her complexities and whims.

And if and when you do "love" her, heres a thought... show it with actions, everything else is irrelevant.
 
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Her: I love you.
You: I know.
 
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fvck i love this forum
greatly appreciated!
 
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Jitterbug said:
Her: I love you.
You: I know.
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Hey you stole that from Star Wars... ;-) lol
 

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Actually what I wanted to know was why sudden change of her attitude about the love part, not so much on how to handle the situation.
 
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Dole said:
Actually what I wanted to know was why sudden change of her attitude about the love part, not so much on how to handle the situation.
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She's a women, she's illogical. Never judge a women by what she says, always go by her actions.
 
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She told you that she loved you, but you didn't reciprocate. Therefore, she retracted her statement to save face and to regain or gain the upper hand.

The best move is not to show that it doesn't bothers you. Keep saying that you don't love her yet and let her keep falling deeper. You want to maintain the upper hand.
 
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WOOOOOOOOOOOOW!!!!!!!!!...your are in for some DEEP sh** my friend. Be very very cautious. :nervous:
 
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She told you that she loved you, but you didn't reciprocate. Therefore, she retracted her statement to save face and to regain or gain the upper hand.
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Ditto.

Either that or she was worrying that she might have come on a little too strong and doesn't want to scare you off, in which has she is a pretty intuitive chick, even if not very crafty.
 
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Dole said:
Ok so this mom I have been dating for a month and a half now tells me this saturday that she loves me at the club. I told her that I like her but I am not there yet and I don't wanna say that I love her unless I mean it. She said that she's fine with that. Then she also said she doesn't believe in a time frame "I don't believe in you need to wait for 3 month's at least to say you love them rule", she said if she feels that way she will express it. After that she's told me twice she loves me. Tonight in bed she tells the following: "I just want to clarify something, when I tell you that I love you, I mean in a way that I like you and that I am happy your with me (something along those lines) but not love love it's only been a month and a half." So I told her good try, you are crazy about me. I don't exactly remember what she said after that but I think she asked me why I think that she's crazy about me.
So I have come up with two explanation's and I need someone to give me there input
1) She wanted to trick me into saying that I love her, or wanted to see how I feel about her...
2) She feel's foolish that it's only been a month and a half and that she has already fallen in love with me and I am not on the same page as her in the relationship...?

Also she has hinted a few time's the following before she said she loved me:
I almost told you I loved you today ( in bed again )
Cuddling on couch once she told me what would you do if I told you that I loved you.
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http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=142038

Based on that link and thread...I am almost certain that she is not crazy for you. Quite the oposite...you are crazy for her.
 
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Dole said:
Ok so this mom I have been dating for a month and a half now tells me this saturday that she loves me at the club. I told her that I like her but I am not there yet and I don't wanna say that I love her unless I mean it. She said that she's fine with that. Then she also said she doesn't believe in a time frame "I don't believe in you need to wait for 3 month's at least to say you love them rule", she said if she feels that way she will express it. After that she's told me twice she loves me. Tonight in bed she tells the following: "I just want to clarify something, when I tell you that I love you, I mean in a way that I like you and that I am happy your with me (something along those lines) but not love love it's only been a month and a half." So I told her good try, you are crazy about me. I don't exactly remember what she said after that but I think she asked me why I think that she's crazy about me.
So I have come up with two explanation's and I need someone to give me there input
1) She wanted to trick me into saying that I love her, or wanted to see how I feel about her...
2) She feel's foolish that it's only been a month and a half and that she has already fallen in love with me and I am not on the same page as her in the relationship...?

Also she has hinted a few time's the following before she said she loved me:
I almost told you I loved you today ( in bed again )
Cuddling on couch once she told me what would you do if I told you that I loved you.
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I am assuming this is the same woman you wrote on the link I provided above. You wrote:

When we get in a argument sometimes she gets so mad that she tells me "were done" (she's done this to me 3 times). She's very feisty and I know she's only saying that for the moment. She's crazy about me and I know she don't mean it. It's a trick that I and some of you use on girl's to keep them on the edge.
Question: What can I do to turn this around or to get her to stop saying it? I already tryed talk to her, first time she said 'were done', the next day when everything was ok I brought it up and told her it made me laugh when she said that because I know she doesn't really mean it and she can stop using that line. She laughed about it and said ok, but still decides to use it...

Next time should I be the first one to tell her 'were done'?

For example, Today I brought up something that was on my mind that I was concerned about so that we can talk about it (we were on the couch laying down and she got a text message and she opened her phone infront of me and it was from her gf, under the girl's text she had a bunch of text message's with the name saved as "..." (three dots)). I know that most text message's she deletes and only saves important ones. So she tells me that she already told me about these text messages ( I dont remember ) and that they are from december before we even met. She was ready to show them to me and I said no I trust you it was just fishy so I wanted to bring it up. After that she tells me "Are we done now?". I am like 'done with what? this text message crap?' Shes like no "are we going our separate ways?". Wasn't sure how to react to this so I just played it cool and told her if that's what you really want. She's like well you are selfish blah blah ( bitter caused I called her selfish first before, long story ) then her phone rings. After she got off the phone she changes the topic. We make out before she gets out of my car and she's like "I really care about you, you know that right?"
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Quite the oposite...you are crazy for her.
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Doh! Busted.

LOL.

If this is the same manipulative b1tch, then I want to change my answer.

1- she absolutely is relenting because the power has shifted to you in terms of who holds the value. From what you've posted about her in the past, it is probably eating her alive.

2- She probably doesn't mean it. Seems like this girl thrives on emotional roller coasters. Who knows what is going on it that basket cases head (no offense)
 
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I think that she pretty much stated her truth about what she meant by I love you. Basically she enjoys your company, the way you treat her and she's informing you that she is enjoying the moments... but in the same sense she was letting you know that she's not trying to marry you or willing to Die for you yet. (Basic love...not extreme love was her point.) Just roll with it and keep doing what you're doing...Let her fall in REAL LOVE 1st...then you're set!
 

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And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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Latinoman think what you want. I don't have time to write up everything she does for me and stuff she says to me, her emotions/actions dedication certainly outweighs mine in the relationship. Just because I post on this forum doesn't mean I am totally blind and crazy about her. Yes I like her and I have feelings for her but some situation's I need a explanation from someone who's been through it to help me understand what's going on and how to handle it. Yes I am only 21, where as most of you are 25 and over, with a clear picture on relationship. But this girl would be my first girl to consider LTR, never been in one and I need practice. Yes she's creative and good at manipulating me but she's been in LTR all her life (five to be exact). So therefore she certainly knows how to get what she wants!
 
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Dole said:
Latinoman think what you want. I don't have time to write up everything she does for me and stuff she says to me, her emotions/actions dedication certainly outweighs mine in the relationship. Just because I post on this forum doesn't mean I am totally blind and crazy about her. Yes I like her and I have feelings for her but some situation's I need a explanation from someone who's been through it to help me understand what's going on and how to handle it. Yes I am only 21, where as most of you are 25 and over, with a clear picture on relationship. But this girl would be my first girl to consider LTR, never been in one and I need practice. Yes she's creative and good at manipulating me but she's been in LTR all her life (five to be exact). So therefore she certainly knows how to get what she wants!
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How can she be in 5 LTR when she is not even 25 yet? Do NOT count High School relationships as LTR.

And at 21...you should be dating...not getting stuck in a LTR.
 
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OK dating it is, i just want relationship experience thats it!
 
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Dole said:
OK dating it is, i just want relationship experience thats it!
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Personally I've always preferred positive experiences. Do you not see the headaches that she causes you? Your brainwashed by the great feeling her pvssy gives you.
 
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Her: I love you.

You: Your not the only one.
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Her: leaving and never returning.

Seriously, she just retracted to save face. You didn't tell her what she thought you would, she opened up too much and realized it way to late. That's all there is to it. Don't mention it to her again.
 
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