when to send a confirmation msg
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I personally dont think her friends are going to pull her away from you unless they know for sure your a creepy guy. They will be more intrigued than anything. Send her a reply that you will be in the area at such and such time and for her to give you a call when her friends leave....simple
True.... but its about confidence in yourself here. Yes I agree with you, just send her a message 1 hr to 45 min before your to meet but make sure the message isnt any AFC stuff...just bare minmum stuff and in a tone that says THIS is happening.
It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
you have to tone up the "Im not taking this bull****" attitude when she flakes, not the AFC attitude. Act like you couldn't care less if she flakes....TELL yourself this over and over till you believe it. That message is fine...If it was me I would leave out "i'll call you in an hour when im done." this takes the pressure off her to care(If shes being flaky). Put the ball in her court and let her chase you back for a reply.
stop worrying about ****ing it up think about how shes going to **** it up for herself.
send it an hour before.
stop worrying about ****ing it up think about how shes going to **** it up for herself.
send it an hour before.
Whats wrong with that! your a "busy" man right? If you decide to call her its cause you want to not that you are obligated to...
what is the point in saying 'text me' when you then say 'il call you'....
you get me?
say
'hey got your facebook message. im in my meeting now, text me when we're meeting.'
leave her guessing.
what is the point in saying 'text me' when you then say 'il call you'....
you get me?
say
'hey got your facebook message. im in my meeting now, text me when we're meeting.'
leave her guessing.
STOP right now.....
Stop "anticipating she's going to flake"
from the message from her she seems to be looking forward to it. so RELAX.
now if she said:
hey u how are you? well my friends coming today, and guess they will leave late afternoon. so "maybe" we could meet around 5 or 5.30. i "might" text you tomorrow ok?'
see the difference?
shes not going to think your trying to convince her unless you actually are.
call her as if your doing her a favour. If she asks for an extension of time dont let her know that your going to wait around. Tell her you have some stuff to do in the mall and if she wants to meet up then.then thats cool with you
Be a man here show her that you dont NEED her.
My main point is to try and have the situation where she is asking you the times not the other way around. your doing fine
BUT if she flakes dont get angry just say cool would've been fun.
If she askes to meet up on a diff day tell her cool but your busy at the moment and you might text/call her sometime soon.
Stop "anticipating she's going to flake"
from the message from her she seems to be looking forward to it. so RELAX.
now if she said:
hey u how are you? well my friends coming today, and guess they will leave late afternoon. so "maybe" we could meet around 5 or 5.30. i "might" text you tomorrow ok?'
see the difference?
shes not going to think your trying to convince her unless you actually are.
call her as if your doing her a favour. If she asks for an extension of time dont let her know that your going to wait around. Tell her you have some stuff to do in the mall and if she wants to meet up then.then thats cool with you
Be a man here show her that you dont NEED her.
My main point is to try and have the situation where she is asking you the times not the other way around. your doing fine
BUT if she flakes dont get angry just say cool would've been fun.
If she askes to meet up on a diff day tell her cool but your busy at the moment and you might text/call her sometime soon.
Never try to read a woman's mind. It is a scary place. Ignore her confusing signals and mixed messages. Assume she is interested in you and act accordingly.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Pete, her telling you she'll need to confirm actually is a sign that she may flake. ESPECIALLY since she's been flakey with you before.
The best way to handle that was to contact her to say "Look, since you're not sure about what time you'll be free, let's do this another time." Then I'd listen closely to her answer.
Why are you bothering with flakes who you know have low interest anyway? She feeds you mixed messages because she can't say NO.
The best way to handle that was to contact her to say "Look, since you're not sure about what time you'll be free, let's do this another time." Then I'd listen closely to her answer.
Why are you bothering with flakes who you know have low interest anyway? She feeds you mixed messages because she can't say NO.
MacAvoy
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I quickly skimmed your posts and it seems like your afraid to take a step because your afraid of what might go wrong 10 steps down. Just take a leap, stop over analyzing everything, if she's flaky & her friends are anti-internet meet up, your going to be screwed in a couple of weeks any ways when she tells them how you met.
Stop worrying about it, if its meant to be, then it will.
Stop worrying about it, if its meant to be, then it will.
DonGorgon
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You need to be very indifferent and you may need to flake on her to show that you could care less... she thinks you are too eager.
Man, you're missing something here. You have to treat this whole situation as though you know what you want, and you know how to get it. You shouldn't second guess yourself because you know who you are. You don't need this woman, so you don't have to walk softly around her in order to keep from scaring her away. You need to look at your situation with women differently. When they are with you, you should treat them as though you're doing them a favor by allowing them to be there with you. If you don't see yourself as something to be had, they won't either.
So, play the way you want it, and if she doesn't play along, then move to the next one. Don't be too available, don't be needy, don't be desperate, and don't be too eager. Play in a way that shows that you love your life, you love your hobbies, you love your friends, and you're a busy person. So, if she can't make time, so what! You've got things to do anyway and convey that.
So, play the way you want it, and if she doesn't play along, then move to the next one. Don't be too available, don't be needy, don't be desperate, and don't be too eager. Play in a way that shows that you love your life, you love your hobbies, you love your friends, and you're a busy person. So, if she can't make time, so what! You've got things to do anyway and convey that.
Until you start understanding what people are telling you, you won't know what to do. You won't know how to do it. You won't know when to do it. You have to work on yourself. You're making this girl "it". All consuming! Treat her as though she's just something on the side. Something that just adds to your collection of things that keep you busy.pete101 said:
