KarmaSutra
Banned
- Joined
- Oct 13, 2005
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I'll preface with a short story which happened about 45 minutes ago.
I'm standing in line at Publix checking out and there is a fairly attractive 30-ish woman stading two people ahead of me. She's being a complete cvnt to the checkout guy, who can't even make eye contact with her, he's completely submissive and takes every left hook this b!tch throws at him. So she's going on and on about how her day has been hell and how he needs to get her grocies bagged correctly (whatever that means) and that he's a complete incompetent.
"Yes ma'am, No ma'am." Is all he says to her. I was going to step in and say something but I needed this brother to let this sink in deep. She finally leaves and the other woman ahead of me asks him why he takes that kind of abuse?
With doe like eyes he looks at her and says: "That's how I was raised." She said that you don't accept rudeness from anyone, regardless of gender. He pitifully replies back with: "But I don't know any other way to be?" The poor thing shook her head in disbelief and walked away with her groceries.
My turn. I look him square in the eye and ask him when he goes on break. He says in about thirty minutes and why? "Stay here until I get back." I tell him. I go to the customer service counter and ask to speak to the manager. Some dweeb walks up and I tell him that the guy on the express line is my cousin and I need to talk to him about a personal matter right now. He gets a girl to cover him and the guy looks at me all bewildered. I take him outside and offer him a cigar. He's never smoked in his life so I help him get it lit and give him the Karma cigar cliff's notes version.
Boys, this guy had less confidence than the lonliest of AFC's. I ask him about his life and that I help brothers who are in his predicament turn thier lives around. He tells me about his upbringing (he's a whopping 21 years young) and that he's never had a girlfriend or female friends at all. As he spoke all I could hear are excuses and defeatist mentality spewing out of his mouth.
Then I stopped him and told him that today is the first day of the rest of his life. As he needs to get back to work, I give him my phone number and I write down the url for this place, SoSuave. I give him specific brothers' posts to read and process but he is not to become a member yet. His eyes are wide and full of light and promise for the first time, probably in his life.
This is when I realized what a dramatic and lifelong affect this place has become in my life and that sometimes I do take it for granted. I get to spread knowledge and information with other like minded, (mostly) adult brothers and in turn, I have new points of view and perspectives to appreciate. This can do nothing but good to any and all of us.
What I want to know is if any of you have had the opportunity to turn someone on to this place and what experiences and impacts it has had on your life and the lives of those whom you've led here.
I'm standing in line at Publix checking out and there is a fairly attractive 30-ish woman stading two people ahead of me. She's being a complete cvnt to the checkout guy, who can't even make eye contact with her, he's completely submissive and takes every left hook this b!tch throws at him. So she's going on and on about how her day has been hell and how he needs to get her grocies bagged correctly (whatever that means) and that he's a complete incompetent.
"Yes ma'am, No ma'am." Is all he says to her. I was going to step in and say something but I needed this brother to let this sink in deep. She finally leaves and the other woman ahead of me asks him why he takes that kind of abuse?
With doe like eyes he looks at her and says: "That's how I was raised." She said that you don't accept rudeness from anyone, regardless of gender. He pitifully replies back with: "But I don't know any other way to be?" The poor thing shook her head in disbelief and walked away with her groceries.
My turn. I look him square in the eye and ask him when he goes on break. He says in about thirty minutes and why? "Stay here until I get back." I tell him. I go to the customer service counter and ask to speak to the manager. Some dweeb walks up and I tell him that the guy on the express line is my cousin and I need to talk to him about a personal matter right now. He gets a girl to cover him and the guy looks at me all bewildered. I take him outside and offer him a cigar. He's never smoked in his life so I help him get it lit and give him the Karma cigar cliff's notes version.
Boys, this guy had less confidence than the lonliest of AFC's. I ask him about his life and that I help brothers who are in his predicament turn thier lives around. He tells me about his upbringing (he's a whopping 21 years young) and that he's never had a girlfriend or female friends at all. As he spoke all I could hear are excuses and defeatist mentality spewing out of his mouth.
Then I stopped him and told him that today is the first day of the rest of his life. As he needs to get back to work, I give him my phone number and I write down the url for this place, SoSuave. I give him specific brothers' posts to read and process but he is not to become a member yet. His eyes are wide and full of light and promise for the first time, probably in his life.
This is when I realized what a dramatic and lifelong affect this place has become in my life and that sometimes I do take it for granted. I get to spread knowledge and information with other like minded, (mostly) adult brothers and in turn, I have new points of view and perspectives to appreciate. This can do nothing but good to any and all of us.
What I want to know is if any of you have had the opportunity to turn someone on to this place and what experiences and impacts it has had on your life and the lives of those whom you've led here.
