The DJ bible is great but most of it isn’t written for people like you and me, people in high school. I have seen a few pattern in recent threads lately and I have decided to write this to help people overcome the obstacles that present themselves in high school life. It can be a scary place, are you afraid? Fear. What are you afraid of? Are you scared of rejection? Or are you really scared of the uncertainty success brings? Perhaps it what people will say? Read on my friend and remove those unnecessary obstacles from you life.
------------Rejection-----------
Most people come here with one girl they like. Just one. They think they love her and can't think about anyone else. So sad. You have to realize that you have no claim to this person. Especially if you barely know them, or worse, have barely even talked to them. It is easy to get infatuated but realize that this is just you LUSTING after her body. It isn't love or anything else. It is pure lust.
It has been proved that the human nervous system can't tell the difference of a real experiance from a vividly imagined one. So you know how you IMAGINED yourself on a sate with that hot babe? Your brain thinks it is REAL. This accounts for a lot of infatuation. The moral of the story is not to fantasize about a girl you know. It leads to infatuation. If you must make sure to fantasize about a few girls, not just one. Scrap your obsession with one girl. You can use your imagination to your advantage too.
If you are still struggling with oneitus go here and read lesson 14. It really helped me.
So now you have gotten over your oneitus you should not be worried about getting rejected... right? Take your head out your ass and realize that beautiful girls are everywhere. Don't tell yourself that all the hot ones are either sluts and *****es. It's not true. You are just trying to brainwash yourself so you don't have to try. If you think that you either don't know women very well or don't know any of these girls well enough. Or maybe you aren't 'cool' enough yet for them to give you any attention.
Once you finally wake up and see that attractive women aren't rare and aren't in short supply it should be easy to find backup girls. Hell I don't even call them that because I game them all at once. When that happens you shouldn't be afraid because you always have someone else.
Unless you are afraid of...
-----------People-------------
So many people walk around to scared to act. Why? They are shy. They walk around with a spotlight on themselves overanalyzing everything they do. "Will they think I'm cool?" they ask themselves. "Will she like me?" "Am I sitting right?" "Did I look at her too long?" You have to realize NOBODY CARES. You think people notice everything you do? You are sadly mistaken. Everyone is way to busy with heir own problems to notice everything about you. They all have their spotlight on themselves exactly like you do.
The sad truth of the matter is that you could get hit by a car and die tomorrow and in a week no one will care apart from your close friends or family. No one will remember you. Don't dwell on it for too long. Just use it to do what you want. Hell maybe if you actually go out and do something some people will care?
But are you still scared of....
-----------Gossip---------------
In high school people are going to gossip. It's a fact, and it is usually unavoidable. However don't let you hold you back. People only gossip because they have nothing more interesting going on in their own sad excuses for lives. Would you rather be the one getting gossiped about or the one gossiping? Sure they might say 'hey did you hear he got rejected by that hot chick' but it's not likely. If any guys says that well did they have the courage to go up to her? Did they ever score with her? I think not. They haven’t got sh!t on you buddy.
But imagine if you succeed. Everyone will be saying 'OMG he got with that hot chick'. The girls will look at you different. The guys will either be jealous or congratulate you and you will find newfound respect. You have to be able to deal with people putting you down. It will probably happen. They are just jealous. Don't worry about them, they aren't worth it. On the other side you will probably find some new friends from how they respect you after getting with that girl.
Most bad gossip fades in a day and gets old. Then no one cares. Let them talk. Expect fame, expect fortune, expect girls and expect rumours. That's the way of a pimp and a celebrity. Make it your way.
I know. It's all happened to me.
But maybe you still can't....
-------Get people to like you-------
This is easier then people make it out to be. All you have to do is SMILE and BE FRIENDLY.
...That's it. There is no magic formula. It is simple. Seriously how can you dislike someone who is friendly and smiling and means you no harm? The thing is people often talk about how much they hate everyone and expect to be liked. It doesn't work like that. You have to like people in order to be liked. People can pick up when you don't like them. Find something good in everyone you know. They will notice.
When you talk to someone think "I'm going to make them glad that they talked to me". That way you are sincere and the focus in on them not on you or ulterior motives. People pick up on this.
Read How To Make Friends and Influence People
Its all well and good to be ****y and funny but leave ****y out when you are talking to guys. They don't appreciate it and will think your a wanker. This doesn't mean not to be funny, outgoing and talkative. Just don't float your own boat, let others to do it for you.
Remember to NEVER talk anything bad behind someone’s back. Not only does that make you negative but it also makes you a type of person people don't like. The other person will probably find out anyway, in which case you will lose a lot of respect. If you don't say anything bad about people behind their backs it is much more likely that they will do the same to you.
Also you should know that respect and being liked are two completely different things. People that are respected might be talked about behind their back because people are scared of them, and also because they are jealous. It is definitely possible to have both though, just don't confuse them the next time you get disrespected.
So now you are likable. But are you good at...
------------Rejection-----------
Most people come here with one girl they like. Just one. They think they love her and can't think about anyone else. So sad. You have to realize that you have no claim to this person. Especially if you barely know them, or worse, have barely even talked to them. It is easy to get infatuated but realize that this is just you LUSTING after her body. It isn't love or anything else. It is pure lust.
It has been proved that the human nervous system can't tell the difference of a real experiance from a vividly imagined one. So you know how you IMAGINED yourself on a sate with that hot babe? Your brain thinks it is REAL. This accounts for a lot of infatuation. The moral of the story is not to fantasize about a girl you know. It leads to infatuation. If you must make sure to fantasize about a few girls, not just one. Scrap your obsession with one girl. You can use your imagination to your advantage too.
If you are still struggling with oneitus go here and read lesson 14. It really helped me.
So now you have gotten over your oneitus you should not be worried about getting rejected... right? Take your head out your ass and realize that beautiful girls are everywhere. Don't tell yourself that all the hot ones are either sluts and *****es. It's not true. You are just trying to brainwash yourself so you don't have to try. If you think that you either don't know women very well or don't know any of these girls well enough. Or maybe you aren't 'cool' enough yet for them to give you any attention.
Once you finally wake up and see that attractive women aren't rare and aren't in short supply it should be easy to find backup girls. Hell I don't even call them that because I game them all at once. When that happens you shouldn't be afraid because you always have someone else.
Unless you are afraid of...
-----------People-------------
So many people walk around to scared to act. Why? They are shy. They walk around with a spotlight on themselves overanalyzing everything they do. "Will they think I'm cool?" they ask themselves. "Will she like me?" "Am I sitting right?" "Did I look at her too long?" You have to realize NOBODY CARES. You think people notice everything you do? You are sadly mistaken. Everyone is way to busy with heir own problems to notice everything about you. They all have their spotlight on themselves exactly like you do.
The sad truth of the matter is that you could get hit by a car and die tomorrow and in a week no one will care apart from your close friends or family. No one will remember you. Don't dwell on it for too long. Just use it to do what you want. Hell maybe if you actually go out and do something some people will care?
But are you still scared of....
-----------Gossip---------------
In high school people are going to gossip. It's a fact, and it is usually unavoidable. However don't let you hold you back. People only gossip because they have nothing more interesting going on in their own sad excuses for lives. Would you rather be the one getting gossiped about or the one gossiping? Sure they might say 'hey did you hear he got rejected by that hot chick' but it's not likely. If any guys says that well did they have the courage to go up to her? Did they ever score with her? I think not. They haven’t got sh!t on you buddy.
But imagine if you succeed. Everyone will be saying 'OMG he got with that hot chick'. The girls will look at you different. The guys will either be jealous or congratulate you and you will find newfound respect. You have to be able to deal with people putting you down. It will probably happen. They are just jealous. Don't worry about them, they aren't worth it. On the other side you will probably find some new friends from how they respect you after getting with that girl.
Most bad gossip fades in a day and gets old. Then no one cares. Let them talk. Expect fame, expect fortune, expect girls and expect rumours. That's the way of a pimp and a celebrity. Make it your way.
I know. It's all happened to me.
But maybe you still can't....
-------Get people to like you-------
This is easier then people make it out to be. All you have to do is SMILE and BE FRIENDLY.
...That's it. There is no magic formula. It is simple. Seriously how can you dislike someone who is friendly and smiling and means you no harm? The thing is people often talk about how much they hate everyone and expect to be liked. It doesn't work like that. You have to like people in order to be liked. People can pick up when you don't like them. Find something good in everyone you know. They will notice.
When you talk to someone think "I'm going to make them glad that they talked to me". That way you are sincere and the focus in on them not on you or ulterior motives. People pick up on this.
Read How To Make Friends and Influence People
Its all well and good to be ****y and funny but leave ****y out when you are talking to guys. They don't appreciate it and will think your a wanker. This doesn't mean not to be funny, outgoing and talkative. Just don't float your own boat, let others to do it for you.
Remember to NEVER talk anything bad behind someone’s back. Not only does that make you negative but it also makes you a type of person people don't like. The other person will probably find out anyway, in which case you will lose a lot of respect. If you don't say anything bad about people behind their backs it is much more likely that they will do the same to you.
Also you should know that respect and being liked are two completely different things. People that are respected might be talked about behind their back because people are scared of them, and also because they are jealous. It is definitely possible to have both though, just don't confuse them the next time you get disrespected.
So now you are likable. But are you good at...
