Spy software

Stewie666 · Dec 28, 2007

I would like to install a spy software on my computer to find out what does my girlfriend do while I'm at work. I have some doubts about her honesty because I caught here 2 times telling me lies, small ones but still lies. I would like to know what is she talking on her messenger and with who. If I find out that she is constantly lying to me I will dump her. I have serious doubts about this. It seems like a low thing to do but I will feel good if my concerns turn out to be justified. I will end the relation an go on with my life. If I'm not wright I will fell like a fool, a paranoid and love her even more.

What do you think I should do ? I know It is kind of sad to do such a thing but the feeling she is lying to me is too strong and I need a confirmation. Honesty is very important to me and I can't go on with this relation knowing that she is lying. Have you or one of your friends ever done something like this ?

Prodigy746 · Dec 28, 2007

install a keylogger. It will save everything she types.

Stewie666 · Dec 28, 2007

I have just the wright software. I just need to know what do you think about spying on her moves.

j0n024 · Dec 28, 2007

I say do it no sense in coming home to your house with a girl that isnt being faithful but STILL wastes your money....just do it....good luck and update.

iamagirl · Dec 28, 2007

that's beyond creepy. why don't you try getting over your own trust issues instead of invading her privacy?

ER!C L!VE · Dec 28, 2007

Keylogger worked for me. Proved to me exactly what I expected - she was cheating. It saved me alot of time, money and possibly a future divorce if we got married.

My buddy hired a PI to follow his girl and proved exactly as he expected - she was cheating. Saved him WAY more money than he would have lost if he got married to the girl.

Usually your gut is correct. If a woman hires a PI and busts a guy, then it's 'you go girl'. If a guy does it, then many women and AFC guys will tell him he has 'issues'. Dr. Phil will agree with the girl & AFC guys btw (homeboy caters to the masses). :cheer:

iamagirl · Dec 28, 2007

to clarify:

it would still be creepy as **** if it was a girl doing the spying.

plus, whats the best that could come from your spying on her? so nothing comes up first time. now you still don't know whether to trust her, but now you've got a dirty secret of your own. so you keep spying on her, waiting for some bit of evidence to appear. even if you come to trust her eventually, you've betrayed her trust in spying on her. this is if you're ever satfisfied. which is unlikely. spying tends to turn into a long-term activity.

ER!C L!VE · Dec 28, 2007

iamagirl said:
to clarify:

it would still be creepy as **** if it was a girl doing the spying.

plus, whats the best that could come from your spying on her? so nothing comes up first time. now you still don't know whether to trust her, but now you've got a dirty secret of your own. so you keep spying on her, waiting for some bit of evidence to appear. even if you come to trust her eventually, you've betrayed her trust in spying on her. this is if you're ever satfisfied. which is unlikely. spying tends to turn into a long-term activity.

Speaking from experience or keyboard jockey?

iamagirl · Dec 28, 2007

experience.

ER!C L!VE · Dec 28, 2007

iamagirl said:
experience.

Ok. So you're telling him not to do it b/c it's 'creepy' and that he'll have trust issues. Well, you're talking from a female point of view.

I'm telling him what I know from a male's point of view who has been 'that guy'.

My advice worked for me and another person I know and it saved us both time and money.

I don't know any guy who did some reasearch (aka spying) on his girl and regretted it. However, I'm sure I could find many who didn't do their research and are kicking themselves because they didn't follow their gut instinct.

I'm not going to discuss this further with you as I've made my point and don't care to argue about it.

The Deacon · Dec 28, 2007

It's pretty obvious there are trust issues in this relationship, so let me just speak from personal experience (this isn't in any effing DJ bible):

If you can't trust her, just confront her about it. She did tell you a couple of lies, didn't she? If she gives you that bullcrap about "why don't you trust me" just say that she has lied to you in the past. If she proceeds to give you more of her bullcrap (as women habitually do) just say "I'm breaking up with you." No keyboard logger or nothing. You'll save even more time and money.

My point is, if you can't trust her and she can't trust you, just don't be in the relationship altogether. This isn't just a KJ speaking, I'm talkin from good ol' experience here.

blackbelt2k · Dec 28, 2007

I say do it. You have every right to know whats going on in YOUR home. And if you catch her, please, don't just bust her. Make it memorable and classic, and report it to us, so we can share in your joy of a battle won for us.

Mr. Wolf · Dec 28, 2007

Stewie666 said:
I would like to install a spy software on my computer to find out what does my girlfriend do while I'm at work.

You are wired, insecure, and creepy. Instead of playa hating, why don't you love yourself and the world around you more. When you give love, it is returned to you ten folds. Get passionate about loving yourself and your world. Never playa hate, it's not healthy.

NSUballer · Dec 28, 2007

If you dont trust a young woman, which many today cant be trusted, then just break it off with her. Usually when a girl lies about "small'' things shes lying about larger things as well. Theres no room for lies in a relationship.

I suggest you give her some of her own medicine. Instead of going to work find someone to go out with. Or after work dont come home or answer your phone for a while. See how she reacts. Maybe drop in unexpectedly for lunch or something. I dont condone spying on anyone but do what ya gotta do.

redspicyflag · Dec 28, 2007

redspicyflag · Dec 28, 2007

spiff said:
I concur

eh

why so?

There really is no reason to worry about one girl so much

If ya do

Go spin some more plates

redspicyflag · Dec 28, 2007

really?

lol

Luthor Rex · Dec 28, 2007

Mr. Wolf said:
You are wired, insecure, and creepy. Instead of playa hating, why don't you love yourself and the world around you more. When you give love, it is returned to you ten folds. Get passionate about loving yourself and your world. Never playa hate, it's not healthy.

Where's STR8UP to tell this guy how full of sh!t he is?

Maybe the world you live in is full of sunshine and puppies, but here on planet earth the puppies need to be protected and the sun isn't always out.

This guy needs to protect himself and his property. If she claims abuse he will be kicked out of HIS OWN home.

Living together & marriage are way too serious to NOT run background checks on who you are dealing with.

Trust but Verify.

:rockon:

CrunchyNut · Dec 28, 2007

If you feel the need to spy, the relationship is as good as over in my opinion. If you look at it more logically, there are 2 potential outcomes that could occur when you spy on her.

Outcome 1: She is cheating. You have found out, and end the relationship.
Does this mean that you have justified the spying? No, it shows that your instincts were correct, and that you should have broken up with her anyway. Certainly it is true that no more good has come out of spying on her than would have occurred had you simply dumped her.

Outcome 2: She is not cheating. Now you have broken her trust by spying on her. Again, no more good comes out of spying on her. The relationship stays together but at a cost. If she knew (regardless of whether she does know in reality) that you had spied on her, she would no longer trust you.

All in all, spying is not a good thing then!

MightyMate · Dec 30, 2007

Spy on her why not. Can be fun!

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