I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
The other day I made a post about sings of high Interest Level in long-term relationships. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=136066
A couple responses I got were:
Hygiene: I shower and wear clean clothes everyday. A girl appreciates a guy who smells and looks good! Not, like you just woke up or smelling like B.O. You never know who you might run into either. Which, will tie into the next tip...
Style: Now, I'm not saying go out to the nicest store and buy the most exspensive clothes. You just want to be well dressed to your style. You want to wear clothes that look nice! Not clothes with holes in them and stains all over it. Women also like guys who match. Examples; I'am a Oakland Raider fan. So, sometimes I wear a all white Oakland sweat-shirt with matching hat. Lets say you have black boots; you could wear a black shirt to match with it. That is all up to you. But, the point here is that, you want to look good. Dress to impress!
Being fun: You always want to be in a good mood. Always having a positive attitude, being social, funny, sexual and ect.. Just overal having a good time where ever your at. How do you expect a girl to stay around if your always boring?? :yawn:
Being unpredictable: Yes, we should already know this but, its a key part. You always want to be UNpredictable with your woman. Such as; changing up the things you two do together. Don't eat at the same place all the time, don't wear the same clothes all the time, stop telling the same jokes over and over, shave differently, style your hair different, be ****y&funny, give her some attention then pull away, wear different cologne... ALL kinds of things you do to keep fresh!! If you find your self watching movies every saturday night. Switch it up and go for a walk or to a party. Keep switching things up and do different things. You get the picture lets move on...
Be a MAN: This one is also a crucial part. Women want a MAN not a boy! You must be the dominate one in the relationship. How can you be the MAN or Dominate one? You have to be the one; making decisions. You decide, what to do, where to go, what time, how you do it. You lead and she follows. If your girl is acting up and doing something you don't like. You communicate with her and tell her how you feel. You don't let her use you for your sh!t. :box: Tease her every now and then.
You can also, be the gentleman. Such as; opening doors for her, playing for her once in awhile, and giving compliments once in awhile. Simple things like this she will appreciate and love. Just don't over do it.
Sex: As I mentioned above; being UNpredictable also includes with sex. One of the main reasons why we cheat is because of sex. If you can't give your woman great sex she could get it somewhere else.
So, to keep your sex life interesting and alive. You gotta be Dominating and unpredictable. Examples; Talk dirty while having sex, switch up what positions you do each time, do foreplay instead of just jumping right in, try new positions, do some role-playing.. As for the Dominating part. Don't ask to have sex; lead into it. Or flat out tell her what the business is. Don't ask her: "Do you want to do doggystyle now?" Flip that b!tch over and get to work. Aslong as you can keep your sex life interesting and know how to give it to her good. She will stay around for awhile. :rockon:
If you would like more greater detail on this subject. I Highly suggest you read this article: Sir_Chancealot's Advanced Sexual Techniques - http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16888
Friendship: What is it that makes a friend? Is it the way he acts? Is it because you got stuff in common or have the same hobbies? Most likely the answer is yes. Being in a LTR with your girl is like having a best friend. Establishing a friendship with her along with the attraction and love. Having the same hobbies and interests makes it easy for the two of you to hang out and enjoy each others company. So, find things you both love doing. Whether it's going to a museum, going to a park, watching movies, playing a sport, video games.. ect. It's not always about sex in a relationship and you need more than just that.
Giving each other space: Give the "gift" of her missing you. You do not need to see each other every day. You don't need to call and text her everyday. Let her go and hang out with her friends. Go and see your friends or have your own personal time. Don't call her all the time wondering; where she is at, who she is with, what she is doing ect... Which, will bring me to my next tip.
Jealousy: Being jealous is a major turn off to women. They will flirt with other guys, dance with other guys, have guy friends, go out to partys, talk about other guys... Whatever the situation is. Girls just want to have fun like us. If you keep her locked up and not let her have fun being greedy. She will be turned off and might leave you because, of your insecuritys. Just know girls will do this and you just gotta ignore it. Go flirt with other girls yourself. I'm not saying cheat on your woman. But, have some fun and meet people.
Unless she is going over board and really doing something you don't like. Then, you can act up and let her know. :cuss:
The "Nice Guy": This is a given and probably the first thing you learn. Don't be a nice guy or turn into one later in the relationship. Don't tell her how you feel about her all the time, don't buy her gifts all the time, don't pay her way all the time, don't be needy and clingy. If this stuff is happening it needs to stop! :nono:
Communication: You must be able to communicate with your girlfriend to help keep the relationship going. You need to be able to tell each other how you feel about things. You need to be able to solve problems together. Plan things out and so on.
Gifts: I've never been big on giving women gifts. I only do it on special occasions. Like christmas, valentines day, birthdays, and anniversarys. Those are really the only times you need to give your girl a gift.
Now, on your anniversary. I am NOT talking about every month. I'm saying like the 6 month or 1 year mark you been together. It also doesn't have to be expensive. Something that she likes/loves and comes from you is good enough. :flowers:
Maintaing your Don Juan status: Sometimes after you get the girl you wanted you're thinking; "Great I finally have her I can stop being a Don Juan. Or "After awhile your go from Don Juan to AFC." You ALWAYS have to be a Don Juan. It IS a lifestyle and it's not for everybody. If you start to feel your slipping. Take a step back and see what you are doing wrong. Thats how relationships can fall apart because, your not being the MAN she first fell in love with. Get back to your roots and keep IMPROVING your game!
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I would say these are the main things you need to focus on to keep your girl. Overall you're just doing the same thing how you did in the first place to get her. Keep taking her on little dates, being mysterious, being the good catch, and all that good stuff.
I hope these tips will help some of you out. If you have any other tips/questions/comments please feel free to respond.
A couple responses I got were:
dotcomwill said:very strong indeed! Now You need to give a tip on sustaining this
So, tonight gentlemen, I decided to give some tips on keeping a girl interested in a Long-Term Relationship! :cheer:DJ1234 said:
Hygiene: I shower and wear clean clothes everyday. A girl appreciates a guy who smells and looks good! Not, like you just woke up or smelling like B.O. You never know who you might run into either. Which, will tie into the next tip...
Style: Now, I'm not saying go out to the nicest store and buy the most exspensive clothes. You just want to be well dressed to your style. You want to wear clothes that look nice! Not clothes with holes in them and stains all over it. Women also like guys who match. Examples; I'am a Oakland Raider fan. So, sometimes I wear a all white Oakland sweat-shirt with matching hat. Lets say you have black boots; you could wear a black shirt to match with it. That is all up to you. But, the point here is that, you want to look good. Dress to impress!
Being fun: You always want to be in a good mood. Always having a positive attitude, being social, funny, sexual and ect.. Just overal having a good time where ever your at. How do you expect a girl to stay around if your always boring?? :yawn:
Being unpredictable: Yes, we should already know this but, its a key part. You always want to be UNpredictable with your woman. Such as; changing up the things you two do together. Don't eat at the same place all the time, don't wear the same clothes all the time, stop telling the same jokes over and over, shave differently, style your hair different, be ****y&funny, give her some attention then pull away, wear different cologne... ALL kinds of things you do to keep fresh!! If you find your self watching movies every saturday night. Switch it up and go for a walk or to a party. Keep switching things up and do different things. You get the picture lets move on...
Be a MAN: This one is also a crucial part. Women want a MAN not a boy! You must be the dominate one in the relationship. How can you be the MAN or Dominate one? You have to be the one; making decisions. You decide, what to do, where to go, what time, how you do it. You lead and she follows. If your girl is acting up and doing something you don't like. You communicate with her and tell her how you feel. You don't let her use you for your sh!t. :box: Tease her every now and then.
You can also, be the gentleman. Such as; opening doors for her, playing for her once in awhile, and giving compliments once in awhile. Simple things like this she will appreciate and love. Just don't over do it.
Sex: As I mentioned above; being UNpredictable also includes with sex. One of the main reasons why we cheat is because of sex. If you can't give your woman great sex she could get it somewhere else.
So, to keep your sex life interesting and alive. You gotta be Dominating and unpredictable. Examples; Talk dirty while having sex, switch up what positions you do each time, do foreplay instead of just jumping right in, try new positions, do some role-playing.. As for the Dominating part. Don't ask to have sex; lead into it. Or flat out tell her what the business is. Don't ask her: "Do you want to do doggystyle now?" Flip that b!tch over and get to work. Aslong as you can keep your sex life interesting and know how to give it to her good. She will stay around for awhile. :rockon:If you would like more greater detail on this subject. I Highly suggest you read this article: Sir_Chancealot's Advanced Sexual Techniques - http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16888
Friendship: What is it that makes a friend? Is it the way he acts? Is it because you got stuff in common or have the same hobbies? Most likely the answer is yes. Being in a LTR with your girl is like having a best friend. Establishing a friendship with her along with the attraction and love. Having the same hobbies and interests makes it easy for the two of you to hang out and enjoy each others company. So, find things you both love doing. Whether it's going to a museum, going to a park, watching movies, playing a sport, video games.. ect. It's not always about sex in a relationship and you need more than just that.
Giving each other space: Give the "gift" of her missing you. You do not need to see each other every day. You don't need to call and text her everyday. Let her go and hang out with her friends. Go and see your friends or have your own personal time. Don't call her all the time wondering; where she is at, who she is with, what she is doing ect... Which, will bring me to my next tip.
Jealousy: Being jealous is a major turn off to women. They will flirt with other guys, dance with other guys, have guy friends, go out to partys, talk about other guys... Whatever the situation is. Girls just want to have fun like us. If you keep her locked up and not let her have fun being greedy. She will be turned off and might leave you because, of your insecuritys. Just know girls will do this and you just gotta ignore it. Go flirt with other girls yourself. I'm not saying cheat on your woman. But, have some fun and meet people.
Unless she is going over board and really doing something you don't like. Then, you can act up and let her know. :cuss:
The "Nice Guy": This is a given and probably the first thing you learn. Don't be a nice guy or turn into one later in the relationship. Don't tell her how you feel about her all the time, don't buy her gifts all the time, don't pay her way all the time, don't be needy and clingy. If this stuff is happening it needs to stop! :nono:
Communication: You must be able to communicate with your girlfriend to help keep the relationship going. You need to be able to tell each other how you feel about things. You need to be able to solve problems together. Plan things out and so on.
Gifts: I've never been big on giving women gifts. I only do it on special occasions. Like christmas, valentines day, birthdays, and anniversarys. Those are really the only times you need to give your girl a gift.
Now, on your anniversary. I am NOT talking about every month. I'm saying like the 6 month or 1 year mark you been together. It also doesn't have to be expensive. Something that she likes/loves and comes from you is good enough. :flowers:
Maintaing your Don Juan status: Sometimes after you get the girl you wanted you're thinking; "Great I finally have her I can stop being a Don Juan. Or "After awhile your go from Don Juan to AFC." You ALWAYS have to be a Don Juan. It IS a lifestyle and it's not for everybody. If you start to feel your slipping. Take a step back and see what you are doing wrong. Thats how relationships can fall apart because, your not being the MAN she first fell in love with. Get back to your roots and keep IMPROVING your game!
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I would say these are the main things you need to focus on to keep your girl. Overall you're just doing the same thing how you did in the first place to get her. Keep taking her on little dates, being mysterious, being the good catch, and all that good stuff.
I hope these tips will help some of you out. If you have any other tips/questions/comments please feel free to respond.
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