Let's put the height issue to a close!!

As someone who is considered tall (5'11.5" flatfooted) and someone who has done extensive research on the subject of height and dating, I would like to put some things to rest.

Do tall men have an advantage over men of average height and short men?

YES

Are short men (5'7" and under) at a disadvantage when it comes to women?

YES

Eventhough I answered Yes to both questions, height is just one of MANY factors that plays a part in the attraction game.


I am sick and tired of certain dating "experts" and men of short and average stature posters on discussion boards constantly saying the following:

" A mans height is the MOST IMPORTANT thing when it comes to attracting a woman."

" If a man IS NOT atleast 5'10" inches tall he is not considered attractive."

" How TALL a man is more important than looks, body shape, money and job status.

" A 6'2" UGLY man is still more attractive to women than a 5'7" man with a HANDSOME face.

PLEASE STOP ALL OF THE NONSENSE!! If height were more important than the handsomeness of a mans face, money, build, confidence etc.

IF THE ABOVE STATEMENTS WERE TRUE THEN:

MEN who are 5'11" and taller (ONLY 1 in 4 men in US are this height) would be GETTING GORGEOUS WOMEN all of the time because 100% of women would only want to get with 25% of all men.

As a tall man I would be getting laid all of the time because women would be so attracted to my height I would not have to do anything else NOR would I be at THIS WEBSITE!!

You WOULD NOT see shorter men or men of average height with attractive women.

My mothers attractive 40 year old cousin WOULD NOT have some 5'6" pudgy guy as her boyfriend.

My gorgeous and intelligent 2nd cousin WOULD NOT be dating a man who stands only 5 feet 9 inches tall.

My 5'5 3/4" friend WOULD NOT be engaged to an attractive women who is going to be a doctor.

Of course, there are thousands of examples like this throughout the country.


AS A TALL MAN, I AM SICK AND TIRED" Of short men or men of average height thinking TALL MEN live in a world with NO PROBLEMS or WE GET ALL OF THE WOMEN!

I AM SICK AND TIRED: Of men who are not tall thinking their life would be 10X greater if they only had a couple of more inches to their stature.

IF you are tall like myself, you take height for granted and you will just find other insecurities about yourself.

HEIGHT IS OVERRATED!!

You have to understand that this is Sosuave.

95% of the people that post here are KBJ.

They blame women and other external things for their lack of success because they can't see that in reality it is their big ego that's holding them back.

im 5 7" and ive never had any problems with women. either have my 2 brothers and are all around the same height

obviously it might limit your potential partners somewhat (as might, having a certain colour of hair or being a certain frame) but anyone who wants to blame their height on lack of success is being very simplistic.

dont get me wrong id probably prefer to be 5 9" if given the choice, but i can honestly say me and my 2 brothers have had exceptional success with women.

ill not lie and say a guy thats very small, like under 5 5" might find it a bit harder, but even those guys, if they can find a shorter girl height shouldnt be a big issue

Not to mention it is biologically better TO NOT be tall.

Shorter people DON'T slouch, have poor posture, have to worry about hitting their heads on things and have QUICKER reaction times.

Ever notice GREAT highschool wrestlers and martial artists ARE USUALLY NOT TALL??

ChrizZ said:

You have to understand that this is Sosuave.

They blame women and other external things for their lack of success because they can't see that in reality it is their big ego that's holding them back.

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We have to be angry at women and pity ourselves. Otherwise there is no point to this site.

Why do you think porn is so popular? No questions asked and she does what we want.

How about this....I got rejected based on my height! Girls would straight up tell me...oh I don't date guys shorter then me,it's just weird!..Let's be friends because I do like you.

Viking25 said:

How about this....I got rejected based on my height! Girls would straight up tell me...oh I don't date guys shorter then me,it's just weird!..Let's be friends because I do like you.

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Sometimes its an easy out for women -- their rejection isn't solely based on height, its based on the whole package of which height is one component.

I'm 6'10 -- I met this girl at a wedding and we went out on a date together afterwards. She didn't give me a 2nd, and I heard through the grapevine that it was because she just thought I was too tall and wasn't her thing.

Was she rejecting me based on my height? Possibly -- but more likely was that she just wasn't attracted to me and we didn't really connect to the great extent necessary to overcome that on a personality level.

I get caught up a lot on using my height as a crutch for my lack of success, but really I give it more power than it's worth.

Women want a man to whom she can feel secure with, a man who will protect her. Height provides a false sense of that security. Same with why men like big boobs. Bigger boobs=more nourishment for any offspring he may have with her.

Blackmm said:

Bigger boobs=more nourishment for any offspring he may have with her.

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Are you being for real.

mahon83050 said:

Shorter people DON'T slouch, have poor posture, have to worry about hitting their heads on things and have QUICKER reaction times.

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This is true.. I'm 6'5 and my posture is a huge thing, a constant battle... Its like gravity pulls on me more.. I have to consciously work at remaining tall and good posture.

But my back and body in general is probably a LOT stronger then a short guys cause its worked out and built up for the task. So whatever, Pros and Cons for everything.

Blackmm said:

Height provides a false sense of that security. Same with why men like big boobs. Bigger boobs=more nourishment for any offspring he may have with her.

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No...

There really shouldn't be an argument about height at all...

The fact that it helps or hurts a guy's overall chances is really irrelevant. Once he stops growing, its not going to change enough to make a difference anyway. If you're a decent height, be thankful. If you're overly tall or short, then you have a tad more work than the rest of us.

That's all there is to it guys. Thread over.

BoredDude said:

No...

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It is a proven scientific fact that our ancestors looked at certain body traits and took that into consideration whenever choosing a female to mate with and have children. Women with wider hips and larger breasts were more prised because they appeared healthier to early man.

I'm not saying that is the reason we chase chicks with big fun bags now, but that it is the root to why we like them.

mahon83050 said:

HEIGHT IS OVERRATED!!

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Actually, (to my knowledge) it is the only statistic on males that has been proven to have a significant difference in terms of women's preference; taller being more preferred by women.

Given that, its going to be pretty difficult to consider height overrated. How can the #1 attribute be overrated? Its not the be-all-end-all, but its a major player.

This all being said, why worry about it? You play the hand you're dealt and do the best you can. If you're shooting for the moon, why does it matter?

mahon83050 said:

Not to mention it is biologically better TO NOT be tall.

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This is untrue. Earlier homonids were shorter. Genetics improves over time.

azanon said:

This is untrue. Earlier homonids were shorter. Genetics improves over time.

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Genetics adapt, not improve.

azanon said:

Actually, (to my knowledge) it is the only statistic on males that has been proven to have a significant difference in terms of women's preference; taller being more preferred by women.

Given that, its going to be pretty difficult to consider height overrated. How can the #1 attribute be overrated? Its not the be-all-end-all, but its a major player.This all being said, why worry about it? You play the hand you're dealt and do the best you can. If you're shooting for the moon, why does it matter?

BULL****!!

Then how come women aren't throwing themselves at me if I am taller than 80% of the male popualation. Why do I see short guys with attractive women?






This is untrue. Earlier homonids were shorter. Genetics improves over time.

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BULL****!!

Then how come women aren't throwing themselves at me if I am taller than 80% of the male popualation. Why do I see short guys with attractive women?

I think people are on crack if they say a man who is 6'3" and UGLY is going to do better with the women than a Tom Cruise look alike at 5'7".

Women across cultures prefer, in the short term, men who are at least a few inches taller than average. When looking for a long-term partner, they prefer men of average height – or men that are just a few inches taller than them. This is thought to be because taller men exhibit physical strength and bearing, traits that are wonderful to pass onto children, but that don’t necessarily make a good caregiver or long-term companion.

mahon83050 said:

Women across cultures prefer, in the short term, men who are at least a few inches taller than average. When looking for a long-term partner, they prefer men of average height – or men that are just a few inches taller than them. This is thought to be because taller men exhibit physical strength and bearing, traits that are wonderful to pass onto children, but that don’t necessarily make a good caregiver or long-term companion.

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ROFL so you think the short guys should be happy being the man she'd marry but not date (have sex with) :crackup:

Height is a bonus not a guarantee. There are many advantages to being tall as long as you are not too tall. There are no advantages to being short (besides being able to squeeze into tight places)

I don't have any clue as to why you are not able to see that women look at you more favorably because you are tall. That doesn't mean that they will throw themselves at you.

The guys who are shorter have to work harder, it's just the way it is.

I'm not sure which is more important to women, height or good looks. But there is no contest that a guy who is good looking and tall is more attractive to a woman than a guy who is just good looking or just tall.

Maxtro said:

ROFL so you think the short guys should be happy being the man she'd marry but not date (have sex with) :crackup:

Height is a bonus not a guarantee. There are many advantages to being tall as long as you are not too tall. There are no advantages to being short (besides being able to squeeze into tight places)

I don't have any clue as to why you are not able to see that women look at you more favorably because you are tall. That doesn't mean that they will throw themselves at you.

The guys who are shorter have to work harder, it's just the way it is.

I'm not sure which is more important to women, height or good looks. But there is no contest that a guy who is good looking and tall is more attractive to a woman than a guy who is just good looking or just tall.

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I AM NOT argueing the fact that being tall is an advantage and being short is a disadvantage.

I am argueing that IT IS FAR FROM THE END ALL BE ALL, that some people claim it is. HEIGHT IS NOT 80% of the equation, with looks, build, money, confidence being the remainding 20%.

I always thought each woman had sort of a bell curve going on for height. Too tall and you get rejected, too short and you get rejected too. Of course, if you approach and open correctly height doesn't often come into play unless you are one of the extremes. However a fairly tall guy gets a fairly easy opener as they often get attention from everyone in the room just because of height alone. But I have in the past been rejected just because of height alone.