Hi Everyone
I have been reading this website for a while and (also carlos xuma's alpha men secrets) and been putting some of the things I read into practice. Thought I would ask you guys for some specific help.
Some background:
I am 29 and all my relationships so far have been with girls I met online. I was married to one (obviously didnt work out!!) and I have decided I wont do that anymore as its way too hit or miss. Hence my current situation. I can read a girls interest level perfectly if i met her online. But when I go out with a new girl I dont think I am up to speed on reading signals. But I have made it a point to get out this summer and make friends. It was certainly worked out - culminating in this date with this very cute girl.
I met this girl a week ago at a hike. She came with some other older guy and I ended up talking to her the entire time. The other guy hung back and gave us space. I got her ph and figured she probably came to meet guys (Was a singles group hike) - So i figured she was interested as she gave hers and took mine. I called her 3 days later and asked if she wanted to go out biking with me and then I would like to take her out for coffee or dinner. She said it might be too cold for biking and said why don't we go out for dinner and drinks maybe and seemed pretty interested.(Promising so far !!) We decided to confirm on friday. (Date was saturday)
I called her at lunch and left her a VM. She said she was off from work so I thought she would call me back. She didn't and I tried again in the evening and she picked up right away (I hate these games !!!) and seemed a bit reluctant. She said she had eaten out too much today and didnt want another heavy dinner or late night as she had to work early sunday (I found out later she was telling the truth). Plus she wanted to do something, and I prefer that too, so we agreed on biking and thats what we did saturday.
I drove close to her home and we did it. We met at 2 and the date ended around 7.30. We biked and stopped a few places to take in the view (Chicago) and we talked a lot. Then we went to a place for dinner that she picked and the conversation was good...she laughed a whole lot and she seemed to really warm up to me. Since it was my first date in a while - I made it a point not be desperate or do anything stupid.
But I also made a few mistakes.
- Overall the date felt more like friends hanging out. We talked and laughed a lot, but there was no spark.
- I didn't close properly on a second date. She came back to my car and gave me a hug and I told her to take off as it was cold. I told her we should do something next week - "like a proper dinner date" and she said yes. But i came back kicking myself as I seemed to be too happy that she was just hanging out with me. I can give more specific details if that would help in advising me...
How do I handle this...I plan to call her Wednesday to ask her out for dinner at a place of my choosing..and I am not sure how much the interest level is.
Even though she was slightly out of my league - I think I handled the date very well and didnt make any wrong moves. I treated it as a practice date to get back in the game. So if it doesnt work out I will get over it - As there are a couple of more prospects in the horizon and now my confidence is up. She was a hottie that I usually would be intimidated by - But now I feel like its not big deal.
ANy advice is appreciated.
I have been reading this website for a while and (also carlos xuma's alpha men secrets) and been putting some of the things I read into practice. Thought I would ask you guys for some specific help.
Some background:
I am 29 and all my relationships so far have been with girls I met online. I was married to one (obviously didnt work out!!) and I have decided I wont do that anymore as its way too hit or miss. Hence my current situation. I can read a girls interest level perfectly if i met her online. But when I go out with a new girl I dont think I am up to speed on reading signals. But I have made it a point to get out this summer and make friends. It was certainly worked out - culminating in this date with this very cute girl.
I met this girl a week ago at a hike. She came with some other older guy and I ended up talking to her the entire time. The other guy hung back and gave us space. I got her ph and figured she probably came to meet guys (Was a singles group hike) - So i figured she was interested as she gave hers and took mine. I called her 3 days later and asked if she wanted to go out biking with me and then I would like to take her out for coffee or dinner. She said it might be too cold for biking and said why don't we go out for dinner and drinks maybe and seemed pretty interested.(Promising so far !!) We decided to confirm on friday. (Date was saturday)
I called her at lunch and left her a VM. She said she was off from work so I thought she would call me back. She didn't and I tried again in the evening and she picked up right away (I hate these games !!!) and seemed a bit reluctant. She said she had eaten out too much today and didnt want another heavy dinner or late night as she had to work early sunday (I found out later she was telling the truth). Plus she wanted to do something, and I prefer that too, so we agreed on biking and thats what we did saturday.
I drove close to her home and we did it. We met at 2 and the date ended around 7.30. We biked and stopped a few places to take in the view (Chicago) and we talked a lot. Then we went to a place for dinner that she picked and the conversation was good...she laughed a whole lot and she seemed to really warm up to me. Since it was my first date in a while - I made it a point not be desperate or do anything stupid.
But I also made a few mistakes.
- Overall the date felt more like friends hanging out. We talked and laughed a lot, but there was no spark.
- I didn't close properly on a second date. She came back to my car and gave me a hug and I told her to take off as it was cold. I told her we should do something next week - "like a proper dinner date" and she said yes. But i came back kicking myself as I seemed to be too happy that she was just hanging out with me. I can give more specific details if that would help in advising me...
How do I handle this...I plan to call her Wednesday to ask her out for dinner at a place of my choosing..and I am not sure how much the interest level is.
Even though she was slightly out of my league - I think I handled the date very well and didnt make any wrong moves. I treated it as a practice date to get back in the game. So if it doesnt work out I will get over it - As there are a couple of more prospects in the horizon and now my confidence is up. She was a hottie that I usually would be intimidated by - But now I feel like its not big deal.
ANy advice is appreciated.
