I lost my virginity yesterday with my 6 month girlfriend after trying on several occasions in the past couple of months, and There's something I want to testify to the community about this experience, maybe it'll help some other people who had trouble like me, so listen up:
Me and my girlfriend had tried about 4 or 5 times to have sex. Each time with the exception of about 1 or 2 attempts, my penis would go from being hard to being soft when I got on the bed with a condom on before I even tried to penetrate her. This was really beginning to frustrate me and for a while I thought I might have had erectile dysfunction.
I searched on Sosuave to see if anyone else had had problems like this, and I was pleased to find a number of posts where guys had had this problem and gotten over it. A couple of them struck out to me in their posts and said things like"Don't masturate for a little while and don't look at porn." and "Have her go on top the first time". These things seemed to be worth a try after the shame I was starting to feel from not being able to provide sex as a man, so I gave it a shot.
Well, I'm here to say that stopping masturbation really changed everything, and not looking a porn really helped me stop masturbation (lol to that). The reason they tell you not to look at porn is so that you can get horny off of realistic things like your girlfriends body (unless she's a porn star). I have to say that not masturbating for 13 days really had me wanting some action. When I was with her I pulled her pants off and put on a condom and told her I was ready. At first I tried missionary, but before I put my penis in her I felt like I was not going to be able to push through. I guess I was just being reminded of the other times I couldn't do it, damn subconscious mind trying to stop me from feeling painful emotions.
Then I remembered that a thread here had said try having her go on top, so I told her to get on top. I had her drop herself onto my penis, and as soon as she started doing it she said it was hurting. I told her to continue because I wanted to completely break through for her, so next time we'd be able to have a little more fun. She let herself drop more and more until I was almost completely in. Then I gently thrusted for a little bit as not to hurt her but to ensure that her hymen was tore alright. I let her pull herself off gently after that and we went to the bathroom and cleaned up. She was bleeding a little(and it got on the carpet! we had to clean that sh!t up before her mom got home). But besides that, it all went well. I didn't orgasm or ejaculate during the intercourse we had so she gave me a handjob and it felt pretty good after not touching myself for 13 days.
Note to All: I haven't masturbated in probably around 25 days now, but I have gotten handjobs from my girlfriend every so often during these 25 days. I have to testify something else though. Before I stopped masturbating, my girlfriend could not get me to orgasm with a handjob because it wouldn't feel as good as when I did it to myself. When I stopped masturbating, about 5 day or so later, I got my first handjob. A little while after that, I'd say about 20 days or so (after vacationing in puerto rico) I had sex for the first time with her. It felt really great to get that burdening question of "will I ever have sex with her" out of my head. It had been so frustrating not being able to do it those few times I tried before hand, and our relationship has reached a new level now that we finally took each-other's virginity.
And another thing: Sex is hardly as big as I thought it would be. Its like pushing your penis through something hard (when you're with virgin girl anyway), and then being able to thrust. No other actions are really made, its all in the head. When people talk about it, it seems like such a big deal, but it really isn't. And I think you have to have sex first in order to realize that.
I'm only 17 right now, school hasn't started yet, but I reached my summer goal of having sex and losing my virginity with my girlfriend. I guess its only up from here guys. I'm glad that I can go into sex ed class next year (one of my chosen electives
) and know that I had already lost my v-card.
Moral of the story: Stopping Masturbation, no matter what any critics might say, helped me gain back the ability to have a hard penis, and enjoy things like a full handjob from my girlfriend. Though I haven't had a full BJ yet (maybe its her BJ-ability), I look forward to one of those too in the future. Thanks to everyone on SoSuave for keeping alive this great community we have here, and I personally attribute my success at having sex this summer with the people on this forum. Thank you. ----JohnFox
Me and my girlfriend had tried about 4 or 5 times to have sex. Each time with the exception of about 1 or 2 attempts, my penis would go from being hard to being soft when I got on the bed with a condom on before I even tried to penetrate her. This was really beginning to frustrate me and for a while I thought I might have had erectile dysfunction.
I searched on Sosuave to see if anyone else had had problems like this, and I was pleased to find a number of posts where guys had had this problem and gotten over it. A couple of them struck out to me in their posts and said things like"Don't masturate for a little while and don't look at porn." and "Have her go on top the first time". These things seemed to be worth a try after the shame I was starting to feel from not being able to provide sex as a man, so I gave it a shot.
Well, I'm here to say that stopping masturbation really changed everything, and not looking a porn really helped me stop masturbation (lol to that). The reason they tell you not to look at porn is so that you can get horny off of realistic things like your girlfriends body (unless she's a porn star). I have to say that not masturbating for 13 days really had me wanting some action. When I was with her I pulled her pants off and put on a condom and told her I was ready. At first I tried missionary, but before I put my penis in her I felt like I was not going to be able to push through. I guess I was just being reminded of the other times I couldn't do it, damn subconscious mind trying to stop me from feeling painful emotions.
Then I remembered that a thread here had said try having her go on top, so I told her to get on top. I had her drop herself onto my penis, and as soon as she started doing it she said it was hurting. I told her to continue because I wanted to completely break through for her, so next time we'd be able to have a little more fun. She let herself drop more and more until I was almost completely in. Then I gently thrusted for a little bit as not to hurt her but to ensure that her hymen was tore alright. I let her pull herself off gently after that and we went to the bathroom and cleaned up. She was bleeding a little(and it got on the carpet! we had to clean that sh!t up before her mom got home). But besides that, it all went well. I didn't orgasm or ejaculate during the intercourse we had so she gave me a handjob and it felt pretty good after not touching myself for 13 days.
Note to All: I haven't masturbated in probably around 25 days now, but I have gotten handjobs from my girlfriend every so often during these 25 days. I have to testify something else though. Before I stopped masturbating, my girlfriend could not get me to orgasm with a handjob because it wouldn't feel as good as when I did it to myself. When I stopped masturbating, about 5 day or so later, I got my first handjob. A little while after that, I'd say about 20 days or so (after vacationing in puerto rico) I had sex for the first time with her. It felt really great to get that burdening question of "will I ever have sex with her" out of my head. It had been so frustrating not being able to do it those few times I tried before hand, and our relationship has reached a new level now that we finally took each-other's virginity.
And another thing: Sex is hardly as big as I thought it would be. Its like pushing your penis through something hard (when you're with virgin girl anyway), and then being able to thrust. No other actions are really made, its all in the head. When people talk about it, it seems like such a big deal, but it really isn't. And I think you have to have sex first in order to realize that.
I'm only 17 right now, school hasn't started yet, but I reached my summer goal of having sex and losing my virginity with my girlfriend. I guess its only up from here guys. I'm glad that I can go into sex ed class next year (one of my chosen electives
) and know that I had already lost my v-card.Moral of the story: Stopping Masturbation, no matter what any critics might say, helped me gain back the ability to have a hard penis, and enjoy things like a full handjob from my girlfriend. Though I haven't had a full BJ yet (maybe its her BJ-ability), I look forward to one of those too in the future. Thanks to everyone on SoSuave for keeping alive this great community we have here, and I personally attribute my success at having sex this summer with the people on this forum. Thank you. ----JohnFox
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