bukowski_merit
Master Don Juan
started my myspace page 3 months ago;
why? was bored with the local scene, i live in a college town, college was out... not much or many to do when that happens... also wanted to try out what so many call worhtless (myspace 'pick-ups')
some notes; amd feel free to challenge anything i say, i'm no expert, i'm just saying what's worked for me:
- I added roughly 2000+ girls who i rated (by their picture) as a 7 or higher. who lived within 100 miles of me. i quickly learned that women will constantly ask why you have so many friends if it's visible. SO i found a code to hide my friends and used it and no one has said anything since (not even asking where my friends are.)
- i read somewhere on here that bulletins are more effective because they save time. for the first 2 months i found this to be true... i'd just post up some exciting topical story about something on there before work, and get home to a mailbox full of mail.
- but even more effective is a program called "friend blaster pro". i got this off a torrent site for free, but you can also buy it i think. with this i can just put in a message, make it seem personal enough (some girls will pick up that it isn't and call you out, but who cares? there's plenty of excuses to give them as to why you do that.) and then just send the message to all your friends. the only annoyance is that after about 10 messages, you have to enter in a code every 5 friends or so... but my response rate went from about 10-15 messages per bulletin, to well over 100 mesages per mass email message...
- surveys are ineffective, complete waste of time and make you look like a bored child. unless you're going to fill them out in a truely interesting way.
- i read somewhere on here that you should hide your online status if you spend more than a few minutes on there... i disagree... you get a lot more emails from random people trying to keep in touch if you leave it as on.... i don't think i lost a girl because she noticed i was online for 2 hours...
- within 4 messages you should be able to detect a females interest by how much she gives you in responses. if she's giving you nothing, end the convo and MAYBE revisit her another day, maybe she was just having a bad day.
- sex is not hard to bring up on myspace, sometimes they bring it up. this is the main use of myspace. much better than finding girlfriend material. keep your dj mentality in mind when bringing up sex, it's no different than if you were talking to them face to face, do it with a lil suaveness and it's cake...
- comment on pics only if you have something clever to say; never because they ask you to.
- when you post bulletins/send messages that involve a story - it's good to mention another female you were with that the time... for example 'i was in the waiting room waiting for my friend to get her hair cut and i picked up this magazine and flipped through it and read this article that said..." that's basic, but you get the idea... i would post a story, maybe 2 per day on there, and constantly had women telling me i lived the craziest life and they'd love to hang out with me sometime... which i took as a compliment that my stories were working... would they experience stuff in my stories? absolutely... i'd make sure of it...
so... so far, i've hung out with about 15 girls from myspace. some turned out to be 5-6's... most were 7-8's, a few were 8-9's... and 1 of them was my idea of a 10 (i'm a damned perfectionist too). had a good time with most of them... had sex with 1 of them out of the first 10... wasn't happy with the amount of flakes i was meeting; girls who seemed messed up in the heard, loked worse in person, etc.... so i learned to do a lot of pre-date testing... which i'd love to go into more detail at another time. but with the final batch of 5 i got up with, i scored with 3 of them... and had some action with most of the others... there's others who live on the far side of that 100 mile mark that i haven't gotten up with. a few who i'm sure will be fun.
overall, i rate my myspace experience as a C+.... i've invested probably 200 hours in it over the last 3 months, and have gotten only 4 girls... that's not very good... but at the same time... i can see how long-term contact could make that number sky rocket...
i found it depressing at times though... some women on there are severely deprieved and desperate... one had her husband die and he liked to bowl and all she wanted to do was find a good man to bowl with... almost brought a tear to my eye everytime i talked to her. and there's many girls like that on there... you just got to... not care...
but yeah, i still suck at getting girls who are giving me short answers to open up more... and i'm not sure there is a way... but if anyone has any ideas - feel free to send them my way...
schools back in in 3 weeks... already some people showing back up in town... i don't imagine i'll still be doing much myspace then... but it was an experience...
why? was bored with the local scene, i live in a college town, college was out... not much or many to do when that happens... also wanted to try out what so many call worhtless (myspace 'pick-ups')
some notes; amd feel free to challenge anything i say, i'm no expert, i'm just saying what's worked for me:
- I added roughly 2000+ girls who i rated (by their picture) as a 7 or higher. who lived within 100 miles of me. i quickly learned that women will constantly ask why you have so many friends if it's visible. SO i found a code to hide my friends and used it and no one has said anything since (not even asking where my friends are.)
- i read somewhere on here that bulletins are more effective because they save time. for the first 2 months i found this to be true... i'd just post up some exciting topical story about something on there before work, and get home to a mailbox full of mail.
- but even more effective is a program called "friend blaster pro". i got this off a torrent site for free, but you can also buy it i think. with this i can just put in a message, make it seem personal enough (some girls will pick up that it isn't and call you out, but who cares? there's plenty of excuses to give them as to why you do that.) and then just send the message to all your friends. the only annoyance is that after about 10 messages, you have to enter in a code every 5 friends or so... but my response rate went from about 10-15 messages per bulletin, to well over 100 mesages per mass email message...
- surveys are ineffective, complete waste of time and make you look like a bored child. unless you're going to fill them out in a truely interesting way.
- i read somewhere on here that you should hide your online status if you spend more than a few minutes on there... i disagree... you get a lot more emails from random people trying to keep in touch if you leave it as on.... i don't think i lost a girl because she noticed i was online for 2 hours...
- within 4 messages you should be able to detect a females interest by how much she gives you in responses. if she's giving you nothing, end the convo and MAYBE revisit her another day, maybe she was just having a bad day.
- sex is not hard to bring up on myspace, sometimes they bring it up. this is the main use of myspace. much better than finding girlfriend material. keep your dj mentality in mind when bringing up sex, it's no different than if you were talking to them face to face, do it with a lil suaveness and it's cake...
- comment on pics only if you have something clever to say; never because they ask you to.
- when you post bulletins/send messages that involve a story - it's good to mention another female you were with that the time... for example 'i was in the waiting room waiting for my friend to get her hair cut and i picked up this magazine and flipped through it and read this article that said..." that's basic, but you get the idea... i would post a story, maybe 2 per day on there, and constantly had women telling me i lived the craziest life and they'd love to hang out with me sometime... which i took as a compliment that my stories were working... would they experience stuff in my stories? absolutely... i'd make sure of it...
so... so far, i've hung out with about 15 girls from myspace. some turned out to be 5-6's... most were 7-8's, a few were 8-9's... and 1 of them was my idea of a 10 (i'm a damned perfectionist too). had a good time with most of them... had sex with 1 of them out of the first 10... wasn't happy with the amount of flakes i was meeting; girls who seemed messed up in the heard, loked worse in person, etc.... so i learned to do a lot of pre-date testing... which i'd love to go into more detail at another time. but with the final batch of 5 i got up with, i scored with 3 of them... and had some action with most of the others... there's others who live on the far side of that 100 mile mark that i haven't gotten up with. a few who i'm sure will be fun.
overall, i rate my myspace experience as a C+.... i've invested probably 200 hours in it over the last 3 months, and have gotten only 4 girls... that's not very good... but at the same time... i can see how long-term contact could make that number sky rocket...
i found it depressing at times though... some women on there are severely deprieved and desperate... one had her husband die and he liked to bowl and all she wanted to do was find a good man to bowl with... almost brought a tear to my eye everytime i talked to her. and there's many girls like that on there... you just got to... not care...
but yeah, i still suck at getting girls who are giving me short answers to open up more... and i'm not sure there is a way... but if anyone has any ideas - feel free to send them my way...
schools back in in 3 weeks... already some people showing back up in town... i don't imagine i'll still be doing much myspace then... but it was an experience...