Feeling pretty down right now...

Alright here's the situation. I was in a LTR with this girl for just over 5 years. About two weeks ago, her and her friend went to a pub one night and she told me they met a couple guys that were 'just friends'. Figuring she was just trying to make me jealous, I ignored it and told her it was fine.

Fast forward to a week later, last Wednesday. She is moving into a new apartment with this same friend she went out with, and instead of asking me to help her move, she asks these two random guys they met. We get into a fight, and 'break up'. I find out that after this, she spent the entire weekend with one of these guys, staying at his place overnight, sucking him off, not even 2 days after our 5 year relationship ended.

I don't know what to think right now, I'm so sick to my stomach. She was never like this, she always used to look down on her friends for pulling things like this, and now it's like a light switch has been flicked and she's a totally different person than the girl I spent the last 5 years of my life with.

I know I should just go out and try and see other girls, but I feel so disgusted I don't even want to make an effort for anything right now.

Hey man, that's rough. I've had similar things happen to me in the past. I have no idea how girls perfect the light switch phenomenon you describe, but I've seen it first hand too. One person one day, another person the next.

You've got a rough patch ahead of you, take solace in the fact that you discovered her true nature before you committed to her even further .

if you were with her for 5 years,that means you were with here since you were 15? I had a girlfriend like that and she was my 'everything girl' ,though I had a few girlfriends before she was the girl I did nearly everything with minus deh buttsects lol I loved her and this and that but it was like puppy love when I look back at it,I met her when we were both 16 and broke up around 19- the thing is,when you are that young and grow up together if you are two different kinds of people,you may grow a part.She was a different person and so was I at the end of 19 then we were when we was 16.It's kinda different between 17 and 27-28 because in our mid 20s we begin to really have our personalities built already,at a young age it's still developing.Plus when you are that young girls especially will just go fawking nuts and just want to have sex..and if she was with you for that long,depending on how the sex was good or not she is more then likely going to be a horn ball.Put it this way though,IT'S NOT PERSONAL.It has less to do with you and more about HER.Looking back my ex was the same way,as a matter of fact- she was kinda oversexed while I was still into video games and toys ( most teens were anyways) ..we were 'kids'. The best thing to do is move yourself and just go out and meet new people...dwelling about it only makes it worse,if not meet new people..get a hobby or something because that energy MUST BE USED or else it'll just eat away at you.Guys kinda work things out differently then chicks,guys instead of talking about it and having pitty parties,will find sanctuary with working on things or learning about something new...:cheer:

working out helps,so does any sport,cars are a godsend and video games can be quite soothing..

Say this to her "I'm gonna punch you in the ovary, that's what I'm gonna do. A straight shot. Right to the babymaker."- Anchorman

But seriously, sometimes you just dont know. I thought I was going to marry a woman once. She went all crazy, made me look at dresses online one day, was on cloud 9 then one day it was a 360 the next. No longer with her, and now she has 2 kids and is married (not to me obviously)

I STILL dont know what went wrong. The only thing I got was... I love you but I just dont know how. Crock of SHIAT if i've ever heard anything come out of a womans mouth before.

Last night I took this woman out, thought we might start dating, but then got the friend deal after the night was over. I mean I said... How about you and I go out and chat some more. Ok, when? she met me there, we did our night out, and then when I got her txt on the friend deal I was like... Uh... Why did she go with me on the date if she wasn't interested?

Anyway, i've learned not to over analyze everything until my head explodes. I'll never figure both of them out, and prob never will, but instead of worrying,I move on.

I had a HARD time with the girl I almost married. Not 5yrs, but the fact I thought I had found the woman for me. I was torn for a long time. Even when I dated after her there were times I thought about her.

Sometimes you never will understand a woman.

Its hard, but you say to yourself.... I dont need this SH*T, i'm better than her, a woman out there DOES want me and wont do this to me, and I dont need to play stupid games. Your worthy of better even if its hard to see at the moment. Go workout, get some stress out, and relax a bit.

You'll be upset sure, but dont forget YOU are the prize, and if she doesn't want it, its her fault. I remind myself of that everyday now. A whole... You dont know what your missing attitude.

Hang in there, and what ever you do, dont bow down to her. Best thing you can do is just let it go. She'll either 1, go.... What the F did I do, or 2 she doesn't care. When you step back that makes her wonder too. If you nag her all the time, argue, txt, and go on and on about what happened, and why, i've found it does no good. Walk away and see what she does.

Fact is man, she was already thinking of breaking up months and months before you guys actually did.

So it may have been only 2 days since you split she was off with someone else but to her the relationship had been dead for a good month or two, so her conscience was clear to move on.

Allow yourself to feel sh!t about this, but know it WILL ease and you'll grow stronger.

I'd like to add that I was the one that broke up with my ex.though went back with my tail between my legs,I was a bad breaker upper and she deserved to have not taken me back lol For the longest time I kinda blamed her for leaving though looking back I remember that I WAS the one that left her.I guess playing the victim allowed me to blame her,when it was never for her to blame in the begin with...just remembered that
she was a freak in the bedroom and I am pretty sure she had plenty of sex after we broke up...nothing wrong with that.

double post!

Man I thought the title of this thread was "Feeling pretty down there..." and I was thinking all kinds of crazy.

2 days after a 5 year LTR she sucked another guy off? I think this shows how special you really are to her. When you start getting weak or feel guilty for dating a new girl always helps me to think of another guy laying down the pipe on my "special" girl. Yeah, she sure is an angel lol! Actions speak louder than words. Your ultimate punishment for her is moving on and finding another girl to replace her. Let her suck away bc you deserve better!

just proves to you how stupid girls are

Dude, it sucks BUT you were with her since 15!?!?!

Sorry but this is totally normal.

This girl still has so much sucking, f'cking and slutting around to do before she
settles down with 1 guy.

It may have been only 2 days since you broke up but it was definitely weeks if not months since she started thinking about breaking up with you.

Master Bates said:

It may have been only 2 days since you broke up but it was definitely weeks if not months since she started thinking about breaking up with you.

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and thinking about screwing other dudes for alot longer then that..when the oppritunity arouse she pounced! :wave:

Night Time Pimp - you got pimped!!!You had a hor and treated her like a princess - that is a no-no!!

This hor was sucking his wee-wee months ago and you just found out now - don't be fooled!!!

Say "No" to loving and trusting Hos!!! Only trust your Mother!!

I'm not gonna make assumptions like Last Man Standing has, because I don't know the gist of your relationship. i.e. treating her like a princess

Sorry to hear what happened man, I bet you feel like ****, I would. Give it some time, it may take a month or more, but you'll rebound. I know you will.

Master Bates said:

It may have been only 2 days since you broke up but it was definitely weeks if not months since she started thinking about breaking up with you.

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He is right.

I remember in my case, this chick who i was dating was also in the process of moving into a new place and when she moved she also got a new man!! and I was out of the picture! and like a light switch flicked off from being sweet and affectionate to cold and distant. Then she gave me "well it doesn't mean that we can't still be friends" but I couldn't be her friend and I left.

The chick you were seeing dumped you a month ago. The only problem is that she didn't want to tell you. But since she didn't want to appear to be the bad one in this mess and didn;t want to get to be in a confrontation and feel guilty afterwards, she choose a different tactic. This tactic involved slowly letting you know through hints and bad behaviour that she is turning the tables around. Eventually she would hope that you will get so mad and won't tolerate her new behaviour that it will be YOU who end up BREAKING WITH HER and thus she gets out guilt free!!! In which you did.

Night Time Pimp said:

I know I should just go out and try and see other girls, but I feel so disgusted I don't even want to make an effort for anything right now.

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take your time.

Yeah, I've been there recently. Twenty minutes after I was out the door she started talking to someone else. A week later she's in a new relationship. It's all good though because she's losing control of herself now. It's kind of like watching a plane crash.

If she was with you ages 15-20, then she never got to party it up. It had to come out eventually.

yeah, I was about to say the same thing. You said she changed, and you're right: People often do change dramatically between the ages of 15 and 20 (particularly around 18 or when they go to college).

It sounds like your once honorable ex-gf turned into a real hor. It's sad that she turned out that way, but be glad you found out about it as soon as you did so you can move on to someone better.

Don't settle for a hor; it defies the Natural Order of Things!

Btw, you're still young and you have plenty of time to continue living. You've probably wasted some time during the past five years that could have been spent better, but look fondly on the good memories you have. And at the same time, move on and keep improving.

first of all, this board ought to be a damn shamed of itself.. this guy has been with this girl for 5 fvcking years, ovbiously his heart is torn apart right now, and you guys are telling him "y ou got pimped dawg!!!!"

my condolences man...seriously

Even though logically it makes sense what happened.. it happened to you, and it's never easy. when I was 18 my GF of a year, mad at me for some readon, I still dont' know why, went to a party and got gangbanged.. then tried to come back to me in tears 3 weeks later when the one guy who turned her out tried to fck her best friend.

however this isn't a women's site.. it's not for feelings it's for improvment. If you need someone tot alk to about what's going on, my PM box is open.

first of all.. you need to keep yourself busy. Keep yourself occupied.

don't think that because she sucked him off she likes him more than you. She likes the newness of him more than the oldness of you.

Read my post Ijust so happened to make, this applies 150% to you.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=128576


right now, I wouldn't be conerened about women if I were you. you were in a relationship so long you neglected yourself. you probably took advice here half hearted becuase you "had a girl" already so it didn't matter what you did. get hobbies, work out, read books.. better yourself.

everything happens for a reason, what doesnt' kill you makes you stronger.

look at it this way.. now you have no weights.. you can enjoy life. there is good in every situtation. this is no different

I've said it once, I've said it a million times.. a woman in lust, rationality and logic is like trying to throw a cat in water, you can forget it. that emotional roller coaster you are having now is what women kill for.