It has been almost a year since I have been on this forum but now I need some help once again.
I am 41 years old and was married for 8 years and have been single now for 3 years. I have had my share of relation(sh1ts) in these last 3 years some I have seeked answers here before.
Well after my last girlfriend of 8 months I swore I would never fall in the "love" triangle again and keep the plate spinning tactic going. Everything was great, my self confidence was at a peak and I was dating and having a blast! Then I kinda start seeing this chick, who is 29, that I had actually known for a couple of years but was married. We actually started fooling around at the begining of her divorce, which I felt bad doing cause I had been in that same situation. She also has two kids.
The deal is, is that I explained to her that I wasn't looking for a girlfriend and that I did not want to get involved with anybody. One thing to point out to is that she cheated on her husband that last year they were together so I always had that statement "once a cheater always a cheater" in the back of my mind. Well months went by and the I slowly started to have more and more feelings for her. We have been going out now a little over a year and I have fallin in love with her and we are engaged.
Well the other night she comes over to my house, I cook dinner for her and she says she needs to leave and take her daughter home cause it was getting late and that she did not feel good. So I say goodnight and we tell each other how much we love each other and she leaves. Well I go and give my little girl a bath and after I see where she has tried to call me and she sends me a text saying she does not feel well at all. So I try and call her back and she doesnt answer the phone. 30 minutes go by and I still hear nothing from her. So I get some stomach medicine and head over to her house, cause she only lives 3 miles away, to check on her. Well i get to her house and her ex husband's truck is parked in the drive way. I get out and knock on the door, no answer. I go around back and dont see anybody in the house. So,.... I go to the bedroom window and look in and I see her ex laying behind her on the bed in the ole "spoon" position, kissing her on the head and rubbing on her while she's watching tv!! Both her kids are on the end of the bed playing and it's dark in the room. I could'nt believe what i saw!! I repeatedly tried to call her and banged on the door and she never answered. So i went home and freaked out for several hours until she called. She told me that he came over to take care of her cause she was sick and that she didnt come to the door cause he wanted to kick my ass for upseting the kids!!
So 2 days later I go over to her house to end it. She starts balling and crying saying that she doesnt have feelings for him and she doesnt want to lose me. I tell her my trust i had for was gone and if it was going to work out it would take a while for me to regain it.
My question is do I just end this or try and work things out with her?? Sorry for the long post and spelling but it's late at night and we've been on the phone all night and she's crying her heart out to me and I just don't know what to do.
I am 41 years old and was married for 8 years and have been single now for 3 years. I have had my share of relation(sh1ts) in these last 3 years some I have seeked answers here before.
Well after my last girlfriend of 8 months I swore I would never fall in the "love" triangle again and keep the plate spinning tactic going. Everything was great, my self confidence was at a peak and I was dating and having a blast! Then I kinda start seeing this chick, who is 29, that I had actually known for a couple of years but was married. We actually started fooling around at the begining of her divorce, which I felt bad doing cause I had been in that same situation. She also has two kids.
The deal is, is that I explained to her that I wasn't looking for a girlfriend and that I did not want to get involved with anybody. One thing to point out to is that she cheated on her husband that last year they were together so I always had that statement "once a cheater always a cheater" in the back of my mind. Well months went by and the I slowly started to have more and more feelings for her. We have been going out now a little over a year and I have fallin in love with her and we are engaged.
Well the other night she comes over to my house, I cook dinner for her and she says she needs to leave and take her daughter home cause it was getting late and that she did not feel good. So I say goodnight and we tell each other how much we love each other and she leaves. Well I go and give my little girl a bath and after I see where she has tried to call me and she sends me a text saying she does not feel well at all. So I try and call her back and she doesnt answer the phone. 30 minutes go by and I still hear nothing from her. So I get some stomach medicine and head over to her house, cause she only lives 3 miles away, to check on her. Well i get to her house and her ex husband's truck is parked in the drive way. I get out and knock on the door, no answer. I go around back and dont see anybody in the house. So,.... I go to the bedroom window and look in and I see her ex laying behind her on the bed in the ole "spoon" position, kissing her on the head and rubbing on her while she's watching tv!! Both her kids are on the end of the bed playing and it's dark in the room. I could'nt believe what i saw!! I repeatedly tried to call her and banged on the door and she never answered. So i went home and freaked out for several hours until she called. She told me that he came over to take care of her cause she was sick and that she didnt come to the door cause he wanted to kick my ass for upseting the kids!!
So 2 days later I go over to her house to end it. She starts balling and crying saying that she doesnt have feelings for him and she doesnt want to lose me. I tell her my trust i had for was gone and if it was going to work out it would take a while for me to regain it.
My question is do I just end this or try and work things out with her?? Sorry for the long post and spelling but it's late at night and we've been on the phone all night and she's crying her heart out to me and I just don't know what to do.
