Relationships are not all that great

DJinTraining06 · Mar 24, 2007

Im just gettin the feelin lately that bein in a relationship is just not that fun. I actually love this girl. But lately its just boring. Normally I drive, she gets to drink with her friends or my friends. And i can only have 1 or 2 beers tops. She gets drunk and then asks me if im ok, and im like yea im fine im just not as giddy as u cuz im sober. Same thing every time it seems.

Tonite we just went out to dinner with 2 of my friends and when we left, i asked if she wanted to do anythign else. She was tired, so we come back to my house, and she just falls alsleep. She wakes up like 45 mins later and asks me whats the matter, cuz i looked pissed. I was just bored cuz i was watching tv by myself, not pissed. Now that im thinking back on our last few weekedns i am kinda pissed. She stopped giving me *******s completly, she was at the beginning and now stopped for over a month now. She only has a good time when she gets drunk. And another thing that really annoys me is that she tells me all about her day over and over and over, i musta heard 12 stories today. And then when i have a story about my job or anything in general, she hardly even responds. She just waits for me to finish and tells a related story of her own. I dont like the way this is progressing. AM i losing control of this relationship. Feel exactly like i did wit my ex gf, she became the same way.

Snowyk · Mar 24, 2007

Sounds like it's time to re-evaluate.

From what I'm hearing, it sounds like you've become her whipping boy. Driving her round, watching her drink, listening about her problems while ignoring yours wants and issues.

You have the answer.
You say you feel exactly like you did with your ex. It's the same deal. If you think you are over it, you probably are. Go with your gut.

I would bail man. Sounds to me like you need to start having fun!

DJinTraining06 · Mar 24, 2007

Snowyk said:
Sounds like it's time to re-evaluate.

From what I'm hearing, it sounds like you've become her whipping boy. Driving her round, watching her drink, listening about her problems while ignoring yours wants and issues.

You have the answer.
You say you feel exactly like you did with your ex. It's the same deal. If you think you are over it, you probably are. Go with your gut.

I would bail man. Sounds to me like you need to start having fun!

I'm in love with her though. We have our moments still. I was quite pissed tonite because i had alot of energy left and wanted to either go out or at least go home and hang out, not sleep. Im just so pissed cuz the last two weekends i watched her drink while i couldnt. And now she comes out to my hosue tonite and shes a droop. My ex gf did the same thing. She was a droop unless we were doin exactly wat she wanted. What am i doing wrong? I dont think dumping her is the answer, i think shes the right one, im just doin soemthing wrong here, lsoing her respect or losing control not sure which.

KarmaSutra · Mar 24, 2007

Lack of bl0wjobs when it's a "relationship".

I've seen and heard guys b!tching over and over how he stops getting head once he and his woman are "officially" a couple. It's as if she believes that "Well, I have him now I don't have to provide any extra effort to please him. He ain't going anywhere." True. And I'll tell you why. Men tend to become solace with the fact that they're in it " 'til death do us part " so we don't have to keep up with building anticipation and keeping her on her toes.

Here's the deal: IT'S ALL YOUR FAULT.

It's a mans fault that his woman stops sucking his c0ck and swallowing. "She did it before so she can keep on doing it." Is what he tries to convince himself. The truth though is vastly contrary. Once the woman has you locked in she doesn't need to try anymore and it's not her fault it's yours. It's your responsibility to keep her at arms length and take her breath away. Take the principles you've learned here and keep her on her toes. Get those morning wakeup bl0wjobs like you did when she believed in her heart you could leave and get another chick to blow you at any moment. She needs to prove her devotion to you as well. You need to remind her every moment you're not just the guy who takes out the trash and leaves the toilet seat up.

What do you guys think?

Jariel · Mar 24, 2007

I agree with the principle Karmasutra is making, thought there's more to it than getting head.

Yes, if you allow her to get complacent, she will. She will stop trying to impress you, take you for granted, maybe even start checking out other guys...because you allow it to happen, and because she is no doubt bored.

Now, I don't recommend cheating on her or turning into an abusive jerk, but if she's acting complacent, show her a bit of distance. When she wants to meet, she'll be expecting you to go running, so this is when you explain you have other plans. It just lets her know that she doesn't own you just because you're in a relationship.

A good relationship can be very fulfilling and have many exciting moments, but as soon as you both start getting complacent, it's downhill from there. Before you know it, you'll be giving her lifts to and from "some guy's house".

Docs · Mar 24, 2007

Taxi?

PigAdlemPimp · Mar 24, 2007

Never get into a long term relationship, it isn't worth the hassles, life is much more enjoyable when you live alone, become the prize, learn how to seduce the hot babes, then fvck them and move on, but don't let them live with you.

Francisco d'Anconia · Mar 24, 2007

If you don't know how to sustain a relationship you shouldn't waste time being in one.

DJDamage · Mar 24, 2007

DJinTraining06 said:
Normally I drive, she gets to drink with her friends or my friends. And i can only have 1 or 2 beers tops. She gets drunk and then asks me if im ok, and im like yea im fine im just not as giddy as u cuz im sober. Same thing every time it seems.

The girl is calling the shots and you are living in her world, no wonder its boring for you. You should be calling more shots on your activities for the night, be more assertive or else this is what happens. If she doesn't like your ideas for date then she is not compatible for you and all you are doing is supplicating her ass. Plus you are acting like a chick here, waiting and sulking quietly until she asks if everything ok and then you lie to her. Stand up for yourself if you don't like it and voice it.

DJinTraining06 said:
She stopped giving me *******s completly, she was at the beginning and now stopped for over a month now. She only has a good time when she gets drunk. And another thing that really annoys me is that she tells me all about her day over and over and over, i musta heard 12 stories today. And then when i have a story about my job or anything in general, she hardly even responds. She just waits for me to finish and tells a related story of her own. I dont like the way this is progressing. AM i losing control of this relationship. Feel exactly like i did wit my ex gf, she became the same way.

1) When you stopped being a challenge, a girl stops giving head, she sees no reason to solely please you.

2) Your girl only has a good time when she gets drunk? how should I put this: Your girl is dumb, there is no going around it.

3) She tells you her stories and you just sit there and listen? don't you have a mouth? can't you steer the conversation to more interesting topics? No wonder she doesn't respond to you because talking on things in general or someone's job is boring.

I don't think you are mature enough to be in LTR's. Your goal is just to get pvssy and once you get that, everything becomes stale and stagnant. Spin more plates and your problem will be solved.

DJinTraining06 · Mar 24, 2007

Francisco d'Anconia said:
If you don't know how to sustain a relationship you shouldn't waste time being in one.

What exactly does that mean? what does maturity have to do with anything? I'm not mature enough to know how to not bore a woman? Im obviuously doing something wrong, but i dont see that as lack of maturity, lack of game maybe but thats about it.

DJinTraining06 · Mar 24, 2007

DJDamage said:
The girl is calling the shots and you are living in her world, no wonder its boring for you. You should be calling more shots on your activities for the night, be more assertive or else this is what happens. If she doesn't like your ideas for date then she is not compatible for you and all you are doing is supplicating her ass. Plus you are acting like a chick here, waiting and sulking quietly until she asks if everything ok and then you lie to her. Stand up for yourself if you don't like it and voice it.

1) When you stopped being a challenge, a girl stops giving head, she sees no reason to solely please you.

2) Your girl only has a good time when she gets drunk? how should I put this: Your girl is dumb, there is no going around it.

3) She tells you her stories and you just sit there and listen? don't you have a mouth? can't you steer the conversation to more interesting topics? No wonder she doesn't respond to you because talking on things in general or someone's job is boring.

I don't think you are mature enough to be in LTR's. Your goal is just to get pvssy and once you get that, everything becomes stale and stagnant. Spin more plates and your problem will be solved.

My goal isnt to get pvssy, i actually really liked this girl and i like ltr's. Im not out for just pvssy. As for sitting there and listening, i do try and change the subjects to more interesting things. And she just waits till i finish, shows no interest in wat i say and continues talkin about her job, which is very boring to me. I would never bore her with my job, but when she tells me half hour stories about her job, i then feel like im allowed to talk about my day a little. My stories r quick and she still shows no interest. She did in the beginning and now she doesnt. Everything about her is changing. Who i fell in love with is different now, and im wondering if it was all an act, and she sucks. Or if im just doin things all wrong.

DJinTraining06 · Mar 24, 2007

I think your right man, i needed to hear this. But doesnt it suck that we have to not become lazy, we have to stay on our toes and keep them on their toes, and exctied, and all that stuff. What do they do? Nothing! They stop giving us bj's. Sex will prob become less frequent. As in my case, she stops showing interest in my stories like she used to. She whines about her job and life more than she used to no matter how much i try to change the subject. Its annoying they get everything handed to them, we gotta do all the work.

What would u recommend, cuz i know shes a good girl and i do love her and she def loves me. I dont wanna break up with her, so i dont want that as advice. How can i get her to wanna please me again? I dont want her to my slave or anything, and i dont wanna be a jerk to her. How can i manipulate this yet still be a nice guy.

KarmaSutra said:
I've seen and heard guys b!tching over and over how he stops getting head once he and his woman are "officially" a couple. It's as if she believes that "Well, I have him now I don't have to provide any extra effort to please him. He ain't going anywhere." True. And I'll tell you why. Men tend to become solace with the fact that they're in it " 'til death do us part " so we don't have to keep up with building anticipation and keeping her on her toes.

Here's the deal: IT'S ALL YOUR FAULT.

It's a mans fault that his woman stops sucking his c0ck and swallowing. "She did it before so she can keep on doing it." Is what he tries to convince himself. The truth though is vastly contrary. Once the woman has you locked in she doesn't need to try anymore and it's not her fault it's yours. It's your responsibility to keep her at arms length and take her breath away. Take the principles you've learned here and keep her on her toes. Get those morning wakeup bl0wjobs like you did when she believed in her heart you could leave and get another chick to blow you at any moment. She needs to prove her devotion to you as well. You need to remind her every moment you're not just the guy who takes out the trash and leaves the toilet seat up.

What do you guys think?

Jon55 · Mar 24, 2007

DJinTraining06 said:
Im just gettin the feelin lately that bein in a relationship is just not that fun. I actually love this girl. But lately its just boring. Normally I drive, she gets to drink with her friends or my friends. And i can only have 1 or 2 beers tops. She gets drunk and then asks me if im ok, and im like yea im fine im just not as giddy as u cuz im sober. Same thing every time it seems.

Tonite we just went out to dinner with 2 of my friends and when we left, i asked if she wanted to do anythign else. She was tired, so we come back to my house, and she just falls alsleep. She wakes up like 45 mins later and asks me whats the matter, cuz i looked pissed. I was just bored cuz i was watching tv by myself, not pissed. Now that im thinking back on our last few weekedns i am kinda pissed. She stopped giving me *******s completly, she was at the beginning and now stopped for over a month now. She only has a good time when she gets drunk. And another thing that really annoys me is that she tells me all about her day over and over and over, i musta heard 12 stories today. And then when i have a story about my job or anything in general, she hardly even responds. She just waits for me to finish and tells a related story of her own. I dont like the way this is progressing. AM i losing control of this relationship. Feel exactly like i did wit my ex gf, she became the same way.

Sounds like you're just being the *****, and this has nothing to do with LTR's sucking. Cuz I gotta disagree with you man, LTR's are awesome (although not so much the one you're in

)

Francisco d'Anconia · Mar 24, 2007

DJinTraining06 said:
What exactly does that mean? what does maturity have to do with anything? I'm not mature enough to know how to not bore a woman? Im obviuously doing something wrong, but i dont see that as lack of maturity, lack of game maybe but thats about it.

I didn't say anything about maturity. Funny that you brought it up though, how come?

Obsidian · Mar 24, 2007

Someone else mentioned maturity first.

I was initially gonna say that maybe your girlfriend just sucks and you should find a new one. On further inspection, tho, I agree that may be allowing her to dominate you, which is unattractive and BORING for a woman.

Whenever she's being a b1tch, either call her on it or distance yourself from her (or both). Don't be a pvssy.

mrRuckus · Mar 24, 2007

DJDamage said:
1) When you stopped being a challenge, a girl stops giving head, she sees no reason to solely please you.

I really don't have any interest in a girl that doesn't like to do this.

Luckily i somehow manage to get the women that get turned on doing it and enjoy doing it so it's not just a chore they have to do just only make me happy.

mrRuckus · Mar 24, 2007

DJinTraining06 said:
What would u recommend, cuz i know shes a good girl and i do love her and she def loves me. I dont wanna break up with her, so i dont want that as advice. How can i get her to wanna please me again? I dont want her to my slave or anything, and i dont wanna be a jerk to her. How can i manipulate this yet still be a nice guy.

Derrr... you just said she's different than who you liked/loved before.

So you love the old her. Now she's not that person.

Move on and be a challenge next time.

Vypros · Mar 24, 2007

DJinTraining06 said:
I dont think dumping her is the answer, i think shes the right one,

Oh, I agree with you completely. I think you need to drag this out for another 5 to 6 years before you decide she's not right for you.

organizedconfusion · Mar 24, 2007

easy solution..theres no drama in the relationship,no tension,no passion..it's become boring and mundane.For godsake,live it up-stir up some trouble,call her names,throw ****,make eyes at her friends..anything to live it up a little bit. The only reason it's boring is because you let it. Start **** with her,she'll love you for it.It's better then being a sucker.

Vypros · Mar 24, 2007

organizedconfusion said:
easy solution..theres no drama in the relationship,no tension,no passion..it's become boring and mundane.For godsake,live it up-stir up some trouble,call her names,throw ****,make eyes at her friends..anything to live it up a little bit. The only reason it's boring is because you let it. Start **** with her,she'll love you for it.It's better then being a sucker.

Yes, please do this. That way SHE will end it and YOU will be better off rather than wasting anymore of your time. You think I'm being sarcastic, but I'm being dead serious. Follow this guy's advice so that you can get this relationship over with before you waste anymore of your life on this girl.

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