Rock_Solid
Don Juan
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Hey everyone, I'm a senior in high school and i have learned many things in my four years. I have gone from a typical shy AFC to an outgoing DJ. And as far as I'm concerned, nothing is more important in high school than your social proof.
Social proof not only affects how other's treat you though, it also effects how you look. You guys all know the typical jock, he does nothing fancy, maybe dresses vintage, (Hollister, A&F) and may not even be all that good looking. But I can guarantee not only can he get whatever he wants from his classmates, but the girls find him attractive too.
Seems kind of obvious, but i have an example which happened today to prove my point. Like i said earlier, i became a lot more outgoing in my junior and senior years, and my social proof has skyrocketed because of it. Many women find me very attractive, but honestly I'm no 10. My friend, however, who many women (outside) of school think is the perfect 10, is not viewed as highly as me. Most HB's in my school would choose me over him, but step out of my element and most of them would take him over me.
Now the majority of the HB's you meet are going to be from your school, so your social proof needs to be highest here.
A few simple, yet effective ways of raising your social proof:
Social proof not only affects how other's treat you though, it also effects how you look. You guys all know the typical jock, he does nothing fancy, maybe dresses vintage, (Hollister, A&F) and may not even be all that good looking. But I can guarantee not only can he get whatever he wants from his classmates, but the girls find him attractive too.
Seems kind of obvious, but i have an example which happened today to prove my point. Like i said earlier, i became a lot more outgoing in my junior and senior years, and my social proof has skyrocketed because of it. Many women find me very attractive, but honestly I'm no 10. My friend, however, who many women (outside) of school think is the perfect 10, is not viewed as highly as me. Most HB's in my school would choose me over him, but step out of my element and most of them would take him over me.
Now the majority of the HB's you meet are going to be from your school, so your social proof needs to be highest here.
A few simple, yet effective ways of raising your social proof:
- Stop appearing desperate. Yes, you want to be popular, you want to go to the crazy parties, but don't give off that desperate vibe, seem like you have other options/better things to do.
- Get yourself out there and socialize! You have no idea how effective it is to just get yourself out there and have fun. Talk to anyone and everyone, be friendly towards not just the popular kids but towards everyone. You establish good social proof this way.
- Don't be so enthusiastic about everything. You ever notice how the alpha popular kid acts around people, he's always chill, never gets too excited about anything. When your excitement is soo much higher than the people your talking with, it turns them off to you.
- Have fun, so your not the most popular kid in the school, just be friends with whoever you can and have fun, after all it's only high school