Rollo Tomassi said:
When women make you wait for sex you are not their highest priority. Sexuality is spontaneous chemical reaction between two parties, not a process of negotiation of a friendship. It's sex first, then relationship, not the other way around. A woman who wants to fukk you will fly across the country, crawl under barbwire, climb in through your second story bedroom window, fukk the sh!t out of you and wait patiently inside your closet if your wife comes home early from work - women who want to fukk will find a way to fukk.
If I'd read this a year ago I'd have replied with all manner of "oh that's bullsh*t" responses.
But my limited recent experience is proving otherwise. As I slowly progress from long-term AFC to, well, not sure what, I am so very quickly learning about chemistry. I've had many problems in the past just talking to women, so in recent occasions where I've managed to move things to the point where a particular chick knows I'm interested, I'm so nervous about moving things to a physical level that it takes FOREVER.
The result? These girls are having to wait while I work up the nerve to touch them, then finally kiss them, then touch a boob, and so on. The hilarious thing (after, of course) is that it is driving them NUTS!
These poor girls are having to put up with so much crap to get into my pants... and yet it still happens.
Example 1: First thing close to a "relationship" I had in like five years. Met a girl through work, nerdy but cute. We hang out with a bunch of friends for like six weeks going to the bar. I'd drink, we'd walk back to her place... and CHAT outside for like an hour while she waited for me to kiss her. Sometimes I'd go over for a movie, we'd chat, and it would get to like 5 in the morning before I'd have to leave and there'd be a peck on the cheek. Ugh.
After about six weeks, she was in my store and we were making plans... I turned away to grab something and I SWEAR I heard her say under her breath "and then I will f*cking rape you" or something to that effect. I go "what?" and she goes "nothing" with a funky smile.
Example 2: Little 20 year old I know from the bar. After a couple of times of drunk makeouts at the bar and her finally ditching her boyfriend, I manage to call her and say "I'm coming over for a movie". I get there. Little bit o kino, LOT of kino... for like four hours. It's like 1:30 in the morning before she pretty much rolls me on my back and starts kissing me... to really get a feel for how wierd this was, I'm 32 and she's 20, and she LOOKS about 16. About three hours later of touching her naughty parts she's like "COME TO MY ROOM ALREADY". Those panties come off and they're practically dripping.
Example 3: girl I met through girl #1. We went out and danced together, at the closing slow dance of the night I ground her almost to death to the point where when she stepped away she was breathing hard and saying something like "oh my god that was amazing". Dropped her off at home. Next time we see each other we end up back at her place. She's all quiet and mousy and loves Disney movies. Half way through "Hercules" (d'oh), we're cuddling and she turns and full on starts making out with me.. I'm like WTF where'd that agression come from and we keep making out. She starts grabbing my er, "junk", this goes on for like an hour because I'm freaking out (naturally), finally she's like "you're driving me CRAZY can we PLEASE go to the bedroom already".
Now if only I was even a tinier bit more agressive... I'd be rolling in it. :crazy:
Is there a point to all this, besides me making a fool out of myself? Yeah: that girls that are into you WILL go to all manner of ends to get you, even when they're quiet and or shy. Amoka, I really don't think this one is into you. If she really liked you she wouldn't play all these games. I mean, she might want you, but obviously she wants you as a social plaything MORE.
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