My time is relatively short and after next week my visits (if any) to this forum are going to be reduced considerably to the point that I might not be able to post again. If the "worst" happens and I don't come back then I don't want the last several months to become a waste. I decided to create this thread for you attention. Let's say that if I was to give a farewell advice, this would be the one for this particular room that is visited by younger men and kids.
I choose this particular room for this thread because this thread is designed for the younger members. I have noticed something that in a way I find funny and at the same time pathetic.
I strongly believe DJism (as defined by several of us) is very important in life. Much more important than becoming a PUA or “player” or anything else that relies on tricks or whatever to get a woman’s attention. It is good to have some PUA and player skills as they can come handy in other facets of life. But it is more important to work on self improvement as those tend to be long-lasting.
What would you rather be at 35? The type of man that has to make up a story about his status? Or the kind of man that does not need to even talk about his status, because he ALREADY knows how far in life he already is?
The type of man that is concerned that once the woman gets to know him better she will either dump him or get bored with him, because the "relationship" was built on a misconception about him? Or the kind of man that knows he is the prized and has little concern about this issue?
A man that CLAIMS to be ____ to a woman to gain her attention? Or a man that IS ___ and gets a woman attention?
Always remember come down to one thing: Respect.
Avoid Robotism
What makes men fascinating to women is our ability to improve with age. We already know that most men have an advantage over women in the genes, hormonal, testosterone and any other biological term you would like to use. Therefore, we can reach as young as we can possibly want. But what give us that long range? Genes? Testosterone? No, in reality is our ability to self improved.
I am afraid that the younger generation of “m”en (and with younger generation I am referring to under 30) are learning to become “robots”. And instead of truly learning how to take advantage of the information provided here, men are simply learning how to imitate other men. Disregarding their own path of self-improvement for future generations.
It does not matter how many girls you manage to pick in High School or in College or in your 20s if by the time you are in your 30s…you lose your edge over the ones that managed to have some level of fun WITHOUT jeopardizing their health, fitness, education (or journeyman skill), profession, and career.
Remember, anyone can get laid. But takes a lot of work to sustain the stamp of Prize. I am in my upper 30s and I am currently working on how to move from what I consider male prime years (35-45) into my next level.
Do not misunderstand. It is fun to have girls in high school and in college. But it is a waste of time to obsess over ONE particular woman. It is good to self improve your image and your ability to socialize with people, especially of the opposite sex. It is stupid and ridiculous to try and get the attention of a woman (girl) that has not even given you a second look. And it is sad to taste success for the opposite sex to only see as you reach your 30s and 40s that the best years of your life were short lived.
Be well rounded…and you will become part of the 3-5 men out of one hundred that can live with the understanding that you are the prize.
On advice from women
Going to the issue on making you more attractive for women (you can even call it, “picking women up”). I strongly believe that when it comes to having an understanding of menstrual cycle or dealing with teenage daughters or pregnancy that women are excellent source of information.
But getting information from a woman on how to pick up women? It simply makes little sense. Especially when men and women have a different view and approach to things. Now, I am not saying that some women are bad at giving this kind of advice. In fact, some women are much better at giving this kind of advice than completely inexperience men. But, we have plenty of experience men out there. Interestingly enough, men tend to give some good advice to women on how to understand men motivations. But once again, this is because of the way we (men) approach things.
The best advice comes from those that are successful in the field. Those are men. If you are a medical student, you should not get advice on the correct method of how to treat a patient from the actual patient. Instead, you should get it from other more mature and successful doctors.
My experience is (after years of visiting forums and reading women magazines and dealing with women) is that many women give advice on relationships following one of the following premises:
1-They give the advice based on how she (the one giving the advice) would like to be treated. Completely ignoring that very rarely you find two women to be very similar.
2-They give advice for the purpose of trying to justify something about herself (that could be her age or her status as a single mother or past cheating or etc.)
3-A handful manage to be right on the money because they were either raised with lot of men (brothers, uncles, etc.) and understand male behavior from a more pragmatic point of view, managing to separate emotionally from the question on hand. Very rarely you will find a woman to be consistently giving good advice or for that matter falling in this particular group.
4- And some truly try to help, but simply are as clueless as many men.
All that said I am not against females posting in here. I want to make that clear.
Conclusion
To the younger generation, you are given an opportunity (due to technology) to see what was denied from the more mature generation. That is, forums such as this. You have information. Information is power. But also can be damnation. I do believe much more men can get laid today due to the information and technology provided. But I also believe that “robotism” might take effect. If you come in here asking us how to talk to A particular woman that you saw in the library and is “hot” and has not even given you a second look…then you are not learning anything.
Remember, this could be the equivalent of a High School football star getting all the cheerleaders and then growing up into becoming an overweight loser with no-sex life and no-career. A short-lived experience.
Your choice.
I choose this particular room for this thread because this thread is designed for the younger members. I have noticed something that in a way I find funny and at the same time pathetic.
I strongly believe DJism (as defined by several of us) is very important in life. Much more important than becoming a PUA or “player” or anything else that relies on tricks or whatever to get a woman’s attention. It is good to have some PUA and player skills as they can come handy in other facets of life. But it is more important to work on self improvement as those tend to be long-lasting.
What would you rather be at 35? The type of man that has to make up a story about his status? Or the kind of man that does not need to even talk about his status, because he ALREADY knows how far in life he already is?
The type of man that is concerned that once the woman gets to know him better she will either dump him or get bored with him, because the "relationship" was built on a misconception about him? Or the kind of man that knows he is the prized and has little concern about this issue?
A man that CLAIMS to be ____ to a woman to gain her attention? Or a man that IS ___ and gets a woman attention?
Always remember come down to one thing: Respect.
Avoid Robotism
What makes men fascinating to women is our ability to improve with age. We already know that most men have an advantage over women in the genes, hormonal, testosterone and any other biological term you would like to use. Therefore, we can reach as young as we can possibly want. But what give us that long range? Genes? Testosterone? No, in reality is our ability to self improved.
I am afraid that the younger generation of “m”en (and with younger generation I am referring to under 30) are learning to become “robots”. And instead of truly learning how to take advantage of the information provided here, men are simply learning how to imitate other men. Disregarding their own path of self-improvement for future generations.
It does not matter how many girls you manage to pick in High School or in College or in your 20s if by the time you are in your 30s…you lose your edge over the ones that managed to have some level of fun WITHOUT jeopardizing their health, fitness, education (or journeyman skill), profession, and career.
Remember, anyone can get laid. But takes a lot of work to sustain the stamp of Prize. I am in my upper 30s and I am currently working on how to move from what I consider male prime years (35-45) into my next level.
Do not misunderstand. It is fun to have girls in high school and in college. But it is a waste of time to obsess over ONE particular woman. It is good to self improve your image and your ability to socialize with people, especially of the opposite sex. It is stupid and ridiculous to try and get the attention of a woman (girl) that has not even given you a second look. And it is sad to taste success for the opposite sex to only see as you reach your 30s and 40s that the best years of your life were short lived.
Be well rounded…and you will become part of the 3-5 men out of one hundred that can live with the understanding that you are the prize.
On advice from women
Going to the issue on making you more attractive for women (you can even call it, “picking women up”). I strongly believe that when it comes to having an understanding of menstrual cycle or dealing with teenage daughters or pregnancy that women are excellent source of information.
But getting information from a woman on how to pick up women? It simply makes little sense. Especially when men and women have a different view and approach to things. Now, I am not saying that some women are bad at giving this kind of advice. In fact, some women are much better at giving this kind of advice than completely inexperience men. But, we have plenty of experience men out there. Interestingly enough, men tend to give some good advice to women on how to understand men motivations. But once again, this is because of the way we (men) approach things.
The best advice comes from those that are successful in the field. Those are men. If you are a medical student, you should not get advice on the correct method of how to treat a patient from the actual patient. Instead, you should get it from other more mature and successful doctors.
My experience is (after years of visiting forums and reading women magazines and dealing with women) is that many women give advice on relationships following one of the following premises:
1-They give the advice based on how she (the one giving the advice) would like to be treated. Completely ignoring that very rarely you find two women to be very similar.
2-They give advice for the purpose of trying to justify something about herself (that could be her age or her status as a single mother or past cheating or etc.)
3-A handful manage to be right on the money because they were either raised with lot of men (brothers, uncles, etc.) and understand male behavior from a more pragmatic point of view, managing to separate emotionally from the question on hand. Very rarely you will find a woman to be consistently giving good advice or for that matter falling in this particular group.
4- And some truly try to help, but simply are as clueless as many men.
All that said I am not against females posting in here. I want to make that clear.
Conclusion
To the younger generation, you are given an opportunity (due to technology) to see what was denied from the more mature generation. That is, forums such as this. You have information. Information is power. But also can be damnation. I do believe much more men can get laid today due to the information and technology provided. But I also believe that “robotism” might take effect. If you come in here asking us how to talk to A particular woman that you saw in the library and is “hot” and has not even given you a second look…then you are not learning anything.
Remember, this could be the equivalent of a High School football star getting all the cheerleaders and then growing up into becoming an overweight loser with no-sex life and no-career. A short-lived experience.
Your choice.
