Leaving after I finally got it *a must read*

Well, I have been on here for two and a half years almost three years and had a blast.

I have changed and most of my change has come about in the last year and a half. I will now set down how my progress went over the last two and a three quarter years.

1.) January 2004 - Found sosuave.com
2.) January 2004 to October 2004 - worked and improved upon myself. Quit video games and TV to work on myself.
2.5) Upgraded my batting stance - Actually going from a .000 to a .400 halfway through the season. Made the all-star season.
3.) October 2004 - Found out about Pennsylvania Governor School of Excellence
4.) December 2004 - Sent out application for Pennsylvania Governor School for Teaching (PGST)
5.) March 2005 - Got alternate Application for PGST. Told by parents that I would not stand a chance of getting in.
6.) May 2005 - Got position as a assistant coaching
7.) June 2005 - Acceptance came in for PGST and getting award from my school for going to PGST
8.) June 25 to July 30 2005 - PGST occurs and get first real girlfriend.
9.) July 12th, 2005 to September 21, 2006 - Length of relationship
10.) September 2005 - Joined FCCLA
11.) December 12, 2005 - Gave a speech in front of school
12.) February 2006 - Accepted to Millersville University - 4th best in the country for education
13.) January to March 2006 - working on Students Taking Action for Recognition (STAR) Event on Special Education
14.) March 2006 - Got a gold medal for my STAR Event at the state level and second place in the state. 1st place medal winner is allowed to go to National Level Competition and compete in Nashville, Tennessee.
15.) May 2006 - First place competitor drops from the event. I must raise my own way to go.
16.) May 2006 - School board approves trip and gives $700. $1,300 left to go. Teacher from my girlfriend’s school agrees to take me along with her and be my chaperone. My girlfriend is going with me as well.
17.) May to June 2006 - Raises the money in a two week period from local businesses.
18.) July 2006 - Goes on the airplane for the first time to Nashville, Tennessee.
19.) July 2006 - Met Peter Vidmar (Olympic Gymnast for the 1970's), Jason Lookadoo, and many other public speakers
20.) July 2006 - Achieved a gold medal at National Level for the STAR Event.
21.) July 2006 - Went home and then back out to Fort Lauderdale, Florida (15 minutes from the beach)
22.) July to August 2006 - Went to Key Largo, Orlando (Disney bl0ws), and Ocala National Forest (went Natural Spring Diving*)
23.) August 26th, 2006 - Went to Millersville University for college.
24.) September 2006 - traveled to West Virginia for a two day trip. Jumped off my first waterfall (25 foot)
25.) September 21st, 2006 - broke up with my first girlfriend
26.) November 11-12th, 2006 - Finally got it

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* = Natural Spring Diving is where you go down to these openings in the Earth and a million gallons of fresh water is shooting up out of the Earth per day. Fish live right by it all the time. One swims down next to the fish and pets them as you go through. It was the best part of my entire trip in Florida.

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(Part one of two)

The final point is why I am leaving here. I have finally got it.

Sosuave to me has never been about getting the girl or whatever the hell you want to call it. I have always believed that there is something that is genuinely not stated or just gets jumbled in so many posts that it is impossible to find the essence of the DJ. The DJ is not a person or a place. It is a state of being. I have actually managed to figure it out.

I advocate working on yourself until you have your life under control. Personally, it took me almost three years ago for me to get it. Some of you might take two days, two weeks, or two months. It is to the people, whom are late bloomers. We may have taken the longest, but we will value it the most. We will live with the knowledge that we worked off our @$$3$ to get to where we wanted to go. We will treasure it and live it to its best.

With that said, I wish to impart my tiny amount of knowledge that I have gotten from last night.

1.) I do not advocate an easy or quick fix. I advocate an entire philosophy.
2.) Life is way too hard to get mad at the small things.
3.) People must take control of their life by grabbing the horns of life and taking back their control.
4.)Problems occur, but look at it this way. “Think of your problems as the grand canyon. Think as if you are there. Now, go out to the outer edge of the universe and can you even see it? No. They are that tiny when you look at them up close, but in reality they are small minute things that need to be taken care of.
5.) There is a large importance in the number one. One chance to seize this moment. One chance to live. One chance to enjoy this day. One time to see the world. This one day could be your last, so why waste it. You could only have one chance to seize the day. You must understand that if you only have one chance, than you must enjoy every second of it. Carpe Diem. Seize the moment.
6.) It is better to be rejected, than to regret.
7.) In order for women to love you, than you must love and respect yourself.
8.) As you think, you shall become.
9.) Live life simplistically. We have a habit of making simplistic things very complicated. Don’t do this. Instead, of thinking does so and so like me or what does this mean. Go for the end result of what you want. You want a number, a friend, or a lover than go for it. You know all about it. Read other posts. Just do it.
10.) You are just sitting their and you expect for things to happen? You just expect it to happen? HAHAHAHA!!!! I laugh because you MUST make it happen for you. People think that it is a sense of entitlement, but every good thing that happened to me; I had to go out there to find.
11.) Traveling is very important. Look at it. There is so much out there in the real world. There is groups of people out there that live life without technology and will teach you things.
12.) People must really learn live to life. People will not think that you are interesting unless you give them a reason to want to approach you.
13.) Disassociate yourself from negative people. Negative people will pull you down from actually experiencing life. They will tell you how you cannot do this and that. Guess what, I am telling you right now. Continue to be that dreamer and dream. We need you renegades to fvck with things and keep those conformists in check.
14.) Perfection is the enemy.
15.) Embrace the unexpected and unknown. I did and I managed to have some of the greatest joys brought upon me. The opportunities are out there, but you must look in the unknown.
16.) Never under sell yourself. You are special and interesting. You have stories and tales. You have what everyone wants, those experiences, but you must continue to gain more. Look at how many tales that I gained from it.

People think that I am arrogant because I weave tales about my life and where I went. Some people might think that this post is very arrogant. Hell, I am telling you everything that I have done. Guess what, it is not my want to make it look arrogant. The purpose of this post is that if I could do this, than just about anybody could do it. People just misrepresent me, but I only challenge people to do better than me. Please do better than me.

I have finally got it. I have one chance at this life and if I live it correctly, than I will not wish to live it again.

Cardinal rule for my life: "Life is way too fun to get pissed off at it. Don't take everything so damn serious. You never know what is going to happen next."

Thank you sosuave. Thank you to Desdinova, Matrix, Pook, Mr. Fingers, Anti-Dump, Giovanni Casanova, Allen, Brazilian_Blues_Boy, Sammo, Rollo Tomassi, Photo One, Eternal, Penkitten, backbreaker, and Joekerr31.

Recently props to Hidden Danjer and Demon.

EDIT: AND MANY MANY MANY OTHER MEMBERS...

A very special thanks to Westcoaster, whom first made me do my first great awakening after the first three months.

I will be in and out this entire week to answer questions on this post than I shall leave for a good while.

If you want to talk email me at livinglifeandlovingit@hotmail.com

Comic_Relief
*signing out*

I want some props too. I sigged you!

Heh, I'm jk. I'm glad you figured out the secret of life. Enjoy it my friend.

Congrats, and thanks for the props.

comic_relief said:

6.) It is better to be rejected, than to regret.

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Unfortunately, I would regret being rejected... but I really need to get myself out of the habit of second-guessing and trying to see the future consequences. It's a habit that I learned through giving people advice. I've noticed that I only do this with certain women, particularly with those with whom I have history, but I've been working on just going for what I want.

Consequently, when you feel that you would regret being rejected, then you're ultimately still waiting for the ideal opportunity. I've long-held that you can't wait for the ideal scenario to take action. You need to create that ideal scenario, and the ideal scenario is the one in which you're taking action. I guess I just get caught up in the moment, thinking, and not doing what I really want to do.

I intend to leap out of this bad habit of mine next week.

Yep, he gets it...

Comic what did you do to improve yourself after first finding Sosuave besides getting rid of wasteful technology?

Lots of wisdom in this young 'un...

Go forth, do well.

Excellent post, and it's great that you have "figured it out".

There's only one thing I'd add...

13.) Disassociate yourself from negative people. Negative people will pull you down from actually experiencing life. They will tell you how you cannot do this and that.

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Many times, these negative people will be people who are close to you, including family members and parents. It's amazing how we live in a society that expects our parents to encourage their children to do well, but yet many parents will discourage their children from going out there and kicking ass when it seems impossible. I can't count how many times I've proven my parents wrong, and they try to tear me down even further when I succeed.

There are many people out there who will tell you that you SHOULD show honor and respect to your parents no matter how much they fvcked up. "They clothed you, fed you, and sheltered you." However, this can be likened to a person who is being kept alive for the sole purpose of torture.

There are many things to be learned in life, and some of them will surprise the 5hit out of you. Comic Relief has learned that, and he will continue to be surprised at how things work in the real world. There's no stopping a human being from learning and being successful, except when he makes his own roadblocks.

I wish you well on your journey through life, Comic Relief. It's a hell of a ride. Enjoy every minute of it.

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Comic what did you do to improve yourself after first finding Sosuave besides getting rid of wasteful technology?

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The first thing that i did was the simple things like standing up straight (back posture will help you in the long run with less back problems), learning to talk "correctly," becoming more social, "respecting thyself" , stopped caring what everyone thought as much, got rid of video games, and the other little things.

I never even started dating or any of that stuff during the first year of self-improvement. I let opportunities go because I did not respect myself enough yet. When I went to PGST, then I finally respected myself enough. It paid off because I had almost no insecurites (every once and a while it would appear, but disappear quickly) or jealous actions. I respected myself and her enough for it not to show up. If I would have just started out, I would have been jealuos and would have lost the girl. I am a firm believer that jealousy and insecurity are two things that come from not respecting yourself enough and realizing that once you have more options open they just melt away.

I also started an online journal for a year to help me understand how I was doing. I think it got deleted when Crazykid's journal site died, but I do have a copy of it somewhere on another computer. I believe that it ended up becoming a 900,000 word monster :rockon: . It really helped me see myself improve and remember things.

The philosophy of the DJ is a hard road because it causes you to change and go into the unknown, but I must say that I have so far enjoyed every second of it. The actual part of where I got it was where I got it. It was like when you hit that enlightened place (nirvana). You feel serene and at peace, no matter what.

comic_relief

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Desdinova said:

Many times, these negative people will be people who are close to you, including family members and parents. It's amazing how we live in a society that expects our parents to encourage their children to do well, but yet many parents will discourage their children from going out there and kicking ass when it seems impossible. I can't count how many times I've proven my parents wrong, and they try to tear me down even further when I succeed.

There are many people out there who will tell you that you SHOULD show honor and respect to your parents no matter how much they fvcked up.

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True that, my parents were just about ready to not let me go to Nashville, Tennessee for National Competition because of the money that was an issue. I just said, "You wait and see. I am going to be going to it. I will not pass up an opportunity like this." I did not pass it up and raised the $2000 on my own by asking for help from local businesses.

But at the same time, I wish to revise that statement about negative people.

13.) Disassociate yourself with negative people, but listen to them. Even if they are trying to down you. When you manage to prove them wrong it is a helluva lota fun. If you must use it as "tackling feul." But do not associate yourself regularly with these people. They are most definately enemies of your self-improvement. They will drag you down. YOU MUST DRAG YOURSELF OUT OF THIS HELL THOUGH. THEY WILL NOT HELP YOU.

There are many things to be learned in life, and some of them will surprise the 5hit out of you. Comic Relief has learned that, and he will continue to be surprised at how things work in the real world. There's no stopping a human being from learning and being successful, except when he makes his own roadblocks.

I wish you well on your journey through life, Comic Relief. It's a hell of a ride. Enjoy every minute of it.

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it is so true about your own road blocks. The one good thing about having road blocks created by yourself is that you created them so you know that you can get rid of them. Remember the grand canyon analogy.

thank you though. To all of you.
comic_relief

Good to hear! Enjoy life!

this was a great thread, and im glad to see it in the tips section.

life is what you make it and you have to have great willpower to get anywhere these days.

i love the part about embracing the unexpected. i always say, when fate knocks upon your door, dont be afraid to take it by the hand and follow where it goes.

check in with us sometime and let us know how you are doing!

take care man, and best of luck!

truly great post bro!

Always cool to see someone who found the hidden value in this place and used it the right way. And you're only 19. Cool story. Have a good life man.

gonna miss your posts buddy

congratulations on finding your way.

I feel motivated now

Please sticky this.

Hey guys, I'll be heading out tomorrow, but i found out another interesting thing to add to my list of things that I have done.

27.) November 16, 2006 - Went swimming in my University pond when it was flooded. Then, made my own slip and slide.

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This was something that I had to make my own circumstance. I could have been like the rest of the people on campus and stayed in my room, but I went out to enjoy the day. It was a blast.

Thank you sosuave.net I leaned that you need to make the opportunities happen. Do not wait for them.

comic_relief

hello ladies and gentlemen,

I am now leaving for a bit. If you have any questions for me, than email me at livinglifeandlovingit@hotmail.com

Or PM me. I'll probably check in every once and a great while.

Have fun guys and best of luck,
comic_relief