Be Your Own Person; A Realization

Back about two years ago I stumbled on a realization at the most unsuspecting time. Why I even stumbled upon it who knows; possibly a calling from someone or just a coincidence.

Stoned out of my mind with my buddies, I came to the deep realization that I am not who I could be. I was not my own person. I realized that the problem was that I was always trying to please others with my personality and in a way "censoring" my behavior.

So I thought, what's stopping me from being my own person? It may sound completely rediculous when you think about it, but how many times do you find yourself stopping yourself from doing or saying something for the sake of keeping within society's norms? How many times have you chosen to PLEASE others by acting within their norms?

What I have found is that people LOSE respect for you when they sense this. And most people can sense this right off the bat.

The only way to live is to be your own person and to not give a flying fvck what anyone thinks. No matter how many people you piss off, or how many people are intimidated by you, in the end you'll still have the most important thing; Respect.

There are people I can say I absolutely hate. I hate what they do, what they say, but I still respect them for being their own person.

Now where does this play into being a DJ? Women crave men who are men. In other words, women want the raw person you are. Not the person society has molded you into. They want that guy who isn't afraid to say what's on his mind. Who isn't afraid to go outside the norms.

At first you may feel extremely awkward stepping out of your "society's" shoes. But once you start molding yourself to be the person you are, without giving much thought to what people think around you, then that is when you will truly start gaining respect, true friends, and of course more ladies.

Two years later, I look back on who I was and laugh. I was afraid to bring out my innerself for the sake of going against what's accepted. The results with women have been astounding, and I have gained some of the best friends I've ever had.

People respect you for who you are; not who you're trying to be for them.

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very true ive realized this for awhile i just diddnt have the balls to be my own person. but now im wearing what i want and acting how i want and my true self is quite eccentric in speaking and behaviour. and ive noticed people are more open with me, compared to before when i was acting all stiff and boring and probably came off as insecure.

Something we should all be realizing and working on. A great post that combines many little tips or hints into the the big idea that it really is.

Good post man.

Most people are fake and phony because few people will show you the real them.

Everybody's too busy trying to impress each other and most people aren't really happy with themselves.

I'd rather deal with someone who was an a$$hole all the time to everybody regardless of who it was because at least you know what your dealing with.

A person like that might be a straight up a$$hole but they are real because what you see is what you get and I can respect that even if I don't like them.

Because people are the way they are, I don't hang out with as many people as I once did because I discovered that alot people I thought were friends were anything but friends.

There's a lot of truth in this post. I've had a similar expereince. It all boils down to this: "What do you really want out of life?" If you can answer that, then you'll be your path of life.

That is very true.