A Little help here...

ok so heres the deal...

so ive been hanging out with my group of friends...weve known each other for about a year now. everyones taken with each other except me and this hb7. so i casually get hb7s number and we go out...i cancel on her the first time because i forgot i had to work that day...then we go to the carnival on sunday...had a good time...she tells me she is a virgin and makes me pinky swear not to tell anyone...

then after the date i go to my boys house lets call him steve...now steve and hb7 are supposibly very close...he says he looks at her as a sister...(thats why i told her to keep it a secret...) but somehow steve knew that we went out and asked how it was...i said it was good.

couple days later...

we go out to eat and have a few drinks...steve is telling me to call hb7 up and not to be shy and yada yada yada...so she ends up coming out but the resturant was closing and i told hb7 yeah were still going to be hanging out here so come out...and if anything ill get her food to go. she i do and everyone is heading out but she did not get there yet...so everyone is going to hang out at the coffee shop....i say ill stay here and wait for hb7 so i do by myself...she gets there and were chit chatting and stuff...she says she just got home from fishing with friends...shes saying how she smells like fish and stuff...i ask her since everyone ditched us...does she want to go back to my place and shoot some pool or watch a movie or something...shes says no and that she smells like fish and stuff...she said next time. i persisted and said i got a shower at my place and just to come back for a little bit...she continued saying no...she cant. AND THEN....

i go off and say something sooo stupid...i was like "hey im a salesman...you cant outtalk a salesman..." or something like that (i had a few drinks) and then she says something....then my dumba$$ goes..."well i guess i lost the sale then"...then shes like "WHAT? so you guys had a bet???" im like no...its a saying...then i ask her when were goingto hang out next...she says next monday because shes hanging out wityh other friends those other days...im like "WHAT?...monday is too far girl.." then she says ok she make time before...and we continue chatting...

then we walk to her car and she shows me all the fish she caught...then we drive out to where everyone else is while still chit chatting in the car...when she drops me off...we hug and then i tell her "hey...i gotta tell you something..." then i lean over for a kiss...but then she backs away and is like "Wait...tell me from here..." im shocked at this moment...

then i pause at her and im like....nevermind...ill tell you later...then i get out the car. as im walking away, she honks and thanks me for the food...

and that was it...FVCK!! someone help me....so many mistakes in a 20 min span....how can i play it off and recover???

i told my guy friends about it and they said shes playing hard to get...but just paused at me like i was stupid...then i call steve (her supposid brother) and told him half the story and he says hell call me back but never does...


HELP ME DJs ive been off this forum for so long...im losing it...how do i correct my mistakes? what trips me out is this girl is within my circle of friends and shes gonna tell everyone and im going to look like an a$$...ill be ashamed to go over their house anymore...what should i do?

Ahhh yah that seems like it blows... considering I only read about 3,4 lines lol :crackup:

But on a more serious note, it seems like you didn't have a very good connection with her to begin with mang, you need to get her aroused and what not. Not just dive into **** ya know? You're giving out the vibe that you're not the type of guy that does that kind of stuff.

1. Establish a sexual connection

2. If that happens tell her bull****, like you just like her and want to be with her and kiss her and what not and you'll be good. Be passionate, sexual, eager, use words like wet, eager, passionate... think about it boy, get her to feel you like that...

3. If you're rejected then so be it move on fine girls come a dime in a dozen... Ive heard they also cvm a dime in a dozen as well lolzzzz :woo:

BUT!! you must do it, you have to act.

i talked to steve yesterday...she called him right after that happened and told him how freaked out she was...he gave me advice not to call her anymore and to just play it off like nothing happened. i feel so embarrased....anyone else??...please give me your advice!!

Uhh... something about a virgin... who caught fish... and you're a salesman?
Care to abreviate it? No offesne but your ability to tell a story leaves something to be desired. You'd get a lot more advice from people if you kept it short and sweet.

basically i went out on a date with a friend who id known for 7 months now....had a good time...but fvcked it all up by saying some real stupid stuff...trying to ask her like 5 times to come back to my place the 2nd time i see her....then to finish that off...when she drops me off...i say i want to tell her something...lean in for the kiss but she backs away all freaked out....

how can i recover from my mistakes?....

Noob said:

first off dont call her for a while now. and when you do bump into her just pretend like NOTHING happened at all in the past. then just be your usual self with her and joke around. whilst your with her talk about other girls e.g. celebrities you find attractive, and say some things that you dont find attractive that she has. e.g. say something like i dont like britney spears nose, wait actually it looks exactly like yours. and give soem reasons why the 2 of you wouldnt work (but not directly) and also neg her but also compliment her every so often just so this isnt considered bullying. she will be expecting you to say sorry and be licking her a55 because of your mistakes but dont apologise or lick her a55 because remember you didnt do anything wrong. and dont do anything else, to her, if she is hesitant about meeting you then just do what i said above, if she still seems interested then just do it properly this time.

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UPDATE: now lately ive been having convos ith her on AIM....i never brought up what happened and we just chit chit...now she is asking me to call her when i have time to hangout....should i just hang out with her and have fun like friends?? is that what shes expecting? you guys think shes interested or just seems like wants to be friends?

here are some of the last convos we had on myspace: it goes beginning from bottom to top...


no i havent see it.. have you? what else have you been up to?

- hb7

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From: ken
Date: 1/15/2007


high school??..teaching what? sophmore bio ill bet...haha heres a lil tip, just dont hand out too much homework...kids wont like you! trust me, i know from experience! field trips are cool and nap time is a plus!...or is that elementary??..anyway...yeah we should! did you see dannys new house yet?

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From:hb7
Date: 1/15/2007



Hey ken!

just got back from washington.. damn it was SO COLD over there... oh my goodness... and yet its stilll cold over here... i just got a new job... teaching high school... im excited.... im a teacher now.. hehehehe.... life is going good... everyone is healthy and dandy... how are you and tony? hows life? hows work? do you still work at micheals? it has been a long time... dude.. we should set up a hang out date sometime.. and invite everyone.. yes.. that would be fun.

-hb7

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From: ken785
Date: 1/14/2007


hey!! how are you doing? howw everybody at the stanford house doing?? man seems like forever since we last hung out? whats been going on? - ken785

Hey Ken,

It sounds to me like you made too big of a leap as someone else mentioned. It is like when you are just "friends" with a girl and suddenly tell her you like her. It just awkward that way. You have to build the rapport first before jumping to a kiss. It sounds like you were just talking like you would with a buddy and then you went in for a kiss. You have to put her in the mood for it before doing the action through your interactions. Think about it.

i dunno but umm i think something is going to happen when u decide to hang out with her and all ur circle of friends..look at the way she wrote "it has been a long time... dude.. we should set up a hang out date sometime.. and invite everyone.. yes.. that would be fun. " umm i dont think something good is going to happen. im really scared especially at the yes...that would be fun..dude i think there gonna like prank you or something