B-Lemond
Master Don Juan
Firstly, there are no RULES! There are just GUIDELNES.
When you first meet a girl, she will either be ATTRACTED to you or she will NOT be attracted to you. Once she is ATTRACTED you transition into the "getting to know her" stage. This is the stage where you build rapport and connection with her.
You cannot get to the Rapport Building Stage without her being ATTRACTED to you. At least not the type of connection that you want to make...
First Stage - AFC:
There is none. He skips it.
First Stage - PUA/DJ:
If she is already ATTRACTED because of nonverbal cuing, social status, etc. then he builds rapport by making a CONNECTION with her, thus skipping the first stage as well.
IF she is NOT attracted to him then he builds attraction. He uses Juggler's 90-10 rule of conversation. That is that YOU provide 90% of the conversation while she provides 10%. Afterall, she will not INSTANLY open up to any stranger.
Second Stage - AFC:
The typical AFC asks (boring) rapport building questions. If she IS ATTRACTED, then this may work for him. He may develop a connection and rapport with this girl and be seen as a Mac.
If she is NOT attracted, he will be REJECTED. You CANNOT develop a connection, or rapport, with a women that is not initially ATTRACTED! At least not the connection that you want.
Regardless, he expects there to be a 50%-50% split in the conversation, from the get go.
He continues to converse using the 50-50 type conversation. This doesn't mean that success will be IMPOSSIBLE, but it also doesn't mean that it is actually g o o d.
Second Stage - PUA/DJ:
He continues the conversation by slowly decreasing what he puts into the conversation. He uses the 30-70 or 40-60 rule of Conversation. Meaning, that he gradually says less and less, while letting her say more and more.
You talk for 30%-70% while she provides 60%-70% of the conversation.
He builds rapport in this stage.
Recap:
1. Use the 90-10 rule when you are STARTING! This is used to "warm" her up.
2. Build Rapport and Connection by transitioning to the 30-70 or 40-60 rule of conversation. This is done once you already "warmed" her up to you, and you are getting to know her.
Have Fun & Stay Positive Fellas...
When you first meet a girl, she will either be ATTRACTED to you or she will NOT be attracted to you. Once she is ATTRACTED you transition into the "getting to know her" stage. This is the stage where you build rapport and connection with her.
You cannot get to the Rapport Building Stage without her being ATTRACTED to you. At least not the type of connection that you want to make...
First Stage - AFC:
There is none. He skips it.
First Stage - PUA/DJ:
If she is already ATTRACTED because of nonverbal cuing, social status, etc. then he builds rapport by making a CONNECTION with her, thus skipping the first stage as well.
IF she is NOT attracted to him then he builds attraction. He uses Juggler's 90-10 rule of conversation. That is that YOU provide 90% of the conversation while she provides 10%. Afterall, she will not INSTANLY open up to any stranger.
Second Stage - AFC:
The typical AFC asks (boring) rapport building questions. If she IS ATTRACTED, then this may work for him. He may develop a connection and rapport with this girl and be seen as a Mac.
If she is NOT attracted, he will be REJECTED. You CANNOT develop a connection, or rapport, with a women that is not initially ATTRACTED! At least not the connection that you want.
Regardless, he expects there to be a 50%-50% split in the conversation, from the get go.
He continues to converse using the 50-50 type conversation. This doesn't mean that success will be IMPOSSIBLE, but it also doesn't mean that it is actually g o o d.
Second Stage - PUA/DJ:
He continues the conversation by slowly decreasing what he puts into the conversation. He uses the 30-70 or 40-60 rule of Conversation. Meaning, that he gradually says less and less, while letting her say more and more.
You talk for 30%-70% while she provides 60%-70% of the conversation.
He builds rapport in this stage.
Recap:
1. Use the 90-10 rule when you are STARTING! This is used to "warm" her up.
2. Build Rapport and Connection by transitioning to the 30-70 or 40-60 rule of conversation. This is done once you already "warmed" her up to you, and you are getting to know her.
Have Fun & Stay Positive Fellas...